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Finally stood up to my bully. Thanks, RP.

doneinseconds
October 30, 2014
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Today I faced my 'friend'/bully. Let’s call him B. B has always been a short fuse ( his dad was never around and probably never loved him) and I feel has always had something against me... We both have very alpha personalities, but I'm more relaxed. We also share many friends.

Anytime I say something, he refutes me and tries to come out as the 'winner'... not really use logic or reason, but just being loud, talking over me, attempting to be 'dominant', and overall trying to bring me down. It’s always against me, and not really against anyone within our circle of friends.

So we were at a party, and his bitchy girlfriend said a rude remark about how my ex-gf was too good for me. I kept frame, told her this behavior was unacceptable and put that little girl in her place. He notices and tries picking on me, but I'm not having any of it (again, he's being loud, dominant, getting close to my face, up to the point where I can smell his breathe). I remain calm and don't say anything. I don't even look at him or acknowledge him when he's bitching me out. After he's done, I walk away, grab a beer, and go hang out outside.

They're my ride home and now were leaving the party. B is driving and im front passenger. His bitch gf (btw she put B in jail and he's still with her... chump) and her friend are in the back. While in the car, the arguing between B and I start again. Don't know how it started. Now he's talking shit and doing his usual stuff, and again, I'm not acknowledging him. He tells me to look at him when he's talking to me (lol as if he were my dad). I turn around, look at him in the eye, and say "fuck you ". B says he's going to kick my ass blah blah blah. The girls in the back are egging him on.

Poor bastard listened to them. He got out of the car, and so did I. His fists clenched -- ready to fight me -- and mine clenched twice as fast. He says he's going to knock me out and leave me on the ground… blah blah blah. B comes towards me but I step back. He keeps coming towards me but I keep stepping back. I honestly didn't want to fight him, but I was tired of stepping back and I decided to defend myself. I throw a punch and it connects with his chin. His body dropped to the ground, smacking his face in the pavement. He stands up, comes towards me, but again I step back. I could have kicked him and punched him while he was down, but I had proven my point and was done with him. Instead of continuing to come towards me, he gets in the car and drives. I ran away and hid in an alley because I thought the crazy mofo was going to run me over lol

The following is a txt conversation between him and I minutes after: B: You're a fucking bitch. You fucking pussy. I was only trying to help you you dumb ass piece of shit. Me: Don't contact me ever again. I'm done with you.

From what I have been told, he's been spreading rumors that he was 'trying to help me'. Haha. He’s full of shit and has no honor. He could have just stayed quiet and taken the beating like a man, but instead he took the bitch-road. I honestly think he’s trying to save face (especially since his gf witnessed his ass get beat) and is trying to turn people against me. It’s okay tho, I can make new friends  I know who I am, and I know what happened.

What I Learned: 1) He's not my friend 2) It’s not worth getting into fights. I could have easily killed him with that punch. What if he had fallen and smacked his head on the concrete and died? I'd be facing serious charges! (It was self-defense, but still…)

I swallowed the RP about 4 months ago and I’ve been more confident in myself ever since. Thank you guys for helping me become a better man, and indirectly helping me stand up against my fears and bully.

The road aint over, and I have a lot to learn!

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Title Finally stood up to my bully. Thanks, RP.
Author doneinseconds
Upvotes 14
Comments 13
Date October 30, 2014 4:10 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit /r/ThankTRP
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/ThankTRP/finally-stood-up-to-my-bully-thanks-rp.3102
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[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Da fuck kind of "friend" says shit like that? Would you admit your judgement was bad befriending him in the first place?

LOOK AT ME WHEN I'M ASKING YOU A QUESTION

[–]GillWillPill1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

A staple of these RP subreddits: "I am an Alpha" and then immediately proceeds to say how they aren't.

I will freely admit I am not one but I am trying to learn the behaviors of one to better my life. People need to stop trying to say they are alpha to impress everyone here. We don't care. Most, if not all of us are here to help but will call you out when you mess up or call yourself something you aren't. /u/asd1100 does a great job saying where you messed up.

However, good on you for getting rid of this jackass. Could have handled it better but at least you are done with him. Live and learn!

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

Stop being a pussy.

If your boys girl dises you you tell him to handle that, you don't go after her, you gave him no choice. (Also she was probably right about the girlfriend thing bitches attack with harsh truths, you got your head just to stuck up your ass to admit it)

when he gets up in your face do the fucking same, don't be a weak pussy, you call your self an alpha but can't look a man in the eyes. WTF.

There are times in this life where you need to fight, especially with your friends. Even if you get hurt, it's a progresion of the relationship. It's not a passive agresive cat fight, it's a way to assert: I am not scared of you, if you don't have any words left the rest of this conversation will hurt.

Also, if you judge and label people that behave and interact with the world differently than you, you are no better that the little bitch that started this shit. Dismiss him for his behavior not because of his background.

What you should learn is that male friendship is stronger because it is forged in a phisical manifestation of egos. It's always better to stand your ground than to run away(emotionally or literally)

Note: I am not saying he isn't a shit head, but fron your accounts(which are subjective) you gave him no choice. Yes he could have solved it better, dismising your single attitude or your social skills or just treat you like the child you are(now that would have hurt more than the fight, because it would have rinsed away the "we're both alphas" delusion you have), but he gave you the chance to stand head to head with him as equals. The correct reaction to that would have been to engage and after a few seconds of that eye lock apologise for putting his girl in her place, because you where in the wrong towards him. Mentioning that it's his girl but you won't take her disrespect.

[–]Lt_Muffintoes0 points1 point  (9 children) | Copy Link

apologise for putting his girl in her place, because you where in the wrong towards him

Can you explain how he was in the wrong?

If my girl was a cunt for no reason and got put down, she would be apologizing or dumped.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

In the real world, red pill world. Your girl is a extension of you.

You need to keep her in line because you pay for her checks. Feminist, only want the good side of that relation: protection but in fact it's goes deeper than that.

I can not act towards her: insult her, slap her or try to pick her up without insulting you. If I get hit on, insulted or slapped, I am coming after you. I don't slap bitches, I slap their men for not training them to be decent human beings, you are the one that feeds her ego that she things she can get away with it. Bitches go after bitches, they talk up the sacratery, they give a blowie to the office manager and so on, bosses don't waste time with subordinates, we go and engage with the other boss directly and imediatly.

Now if you do flip your lid, you unilaterally acted upon that other man's woman without his knowledge, which is at best rude at worst devious. The proper approach is to be a man, explain the situation in a cool and colected manner and then apologise for overstepping and not resolving the issue directly with him.

[–]Lt_Muffintoes0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy Link

The proper approach is to be a man, explain the situation in a cool and colected manner and then apologise for overstepping and not resolving the issue directly with him.

Thanks for taking the time. I think I see what you're saying and agree: you are responsible for your girl's behaviour, so it is up to you to train her, or ditch her if she turns out to be...unsuitable. At the same time, you are "responsible" for stuff that happens to her.

What you're saying would apply if the guy wasn't present, no?

The way I saw it, the guy was there when his gf went out of line, so it was encumbent upon him to sort out her behaviour. Instead he went off on OP.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

What you're saying would apply if the guy wasn't present, no?

Of course, aldough that requires a more skillfull move: you need to be ferm and put her in her place, while not engaging and being respectfull.

But don't worry, unless you are a very high status eviroment where women know how to act arpopiatly and most men are alphas, this should not be followed to the letter, because in club setting for example there are very few alphas that take charge of their women. They are just little emotional beta boys that happen to be big enough to get away with being dominant.

Instead he went off on OP.

because OP addressed his woman first if I remember, the guy literally did not have any recourse but to be defensive. If a child is annoying you talk to the mother, you don't attack the child, because that instantly puts you at odds with the other adult.

[–]Lt_Muffintoes0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

Got it. I was granting too much agency to women.

OP should have addressed the guy, the guy should have disciplined his girl.

Cheers!

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

No, you where expecting that agency to be backed up with responsability. Women have agency, but you can not expect to act responsably, that is her boyfriends job.

It his issue to talk to her about her behavior, you literally have no leverage so you can not ajust her behavior. You can't slap her, you can't threaten her. Only her boyfriend can say, If you continue being a cunt I'll kick your broke ass to the curve.

[–]Lt_Muffintoes0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

To me, agency includes responsibility, not just the ability to affect the world.

Children do not have agency, because they are (mostly) not responsible for their actions. A child could still shoot you, but that does not mean she has agency.

To deny an agent responsibility is to deny them agency; this is the great hypocrisy of feminism. By blaming men for womens' problems, women are reduced to mere chattle (which is what women actually want).

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

To me, agency includes responsibility, not just the ability to affect the world.

:)) that is cute, you know how perfect the world would be if agency would implicitly involve responsability?

A child could still shoot you, but that does not mean she has agency.

If he has will, he has agency. If you bring it upon yourself and he is just reacting he does not have responsability.

To deny an agent responsibility is to deny them agency; this is the great hypocrisy of feminism.

Actually the hypocrisy is in acceptance of evil and selfishness and intrisic human motivations. Only by accepting out primal uncivilised urges and the amoral action we undertake to satisfy them can we come to terms with the fact that humans are not responsible agents, at least not in regards to social norms, while at the same time being highly responsible in regards to our biological nature.

A girl that starts drama has as much self control as a child that isn't potty trained. She needs confirmation of her security, so she shit tests her environment start drama to reassure herself that in worse case scenarios she will be fine. It's reactive. It's like men staring at breasts. Can you learn not to stare at breast, yes, but why would you force yourself to disobey your biological prerogative? To be civilised, to be sterile, to live the live society arbitrarily decided to be optimal?

[–]Lt_Muffintoes0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Man, I think we are agreeing in principle, but have a different definition for the word "agency"

Wolves and snakes do not have agency. There is no responsibility there. Getting angry at a snake for biting you is as futile as getting angry at the wind for blowing down your house. The anger stage is the last one where you believe that women have agency.

The vast majority of women have no agency; they are basically children. This is what differentiates unicorns: the ability to accept responsibility.

[–]bkmnalpha0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This story is so fucking badass

Its amazing that you stoodup for him

My asshole friend didnt need no punching...we (me and most of my friends) gave him a permenant silence treatment and made him feel like the piece of shit that he is Like you said a person without honor should never be your friend

When you mentioned him having no honor I remembered a video that you would love youtube: man rules - redonkulas.com

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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