Today I faced my 'friend'/bully. Let’s call him B. B has always been a short fuse ( his dad was never around and probably never loved him) and I feel has always had something against me... We both have very alpha personalities, but I'm more relaxed. We also share many friends.
Anytime I say something, he refutes me and tries to come out as the 'winner'... not really use logic or reason, but just being loud, talking over me, attempting to be 'dominant', and overall trying to bring me down. It’s always against me, and not really against anyone within our circle of friends.
So we were at a party, and his bitchy girlfriend said a rude remark about how my ex-gf was too good for me. I kept frame, told her this behavior was unacceptable and put that little girl in her place. He notices and tries picking on me, but I'm not having any of it (again, he's being loud, dominant, getting close to my face, up to the point where I can smell his breathe). I remain calm and don't say anything. I don't even look at him or acknowledge him when he's bitching me out. After he's done, I walk away, grab a beer, and go hang out outside.
They're my ride home and now were leaving the party. B is driving and im front passenger. His bitch gf (btw she put B in jail and he's still with her... chump) and her friend are in the back. While in the car, the arguing between B and I start again. Don't know how it started. Now he's talking shit and doing his usual stuff, and again, I'm not acknowledging him. He tells me to look at him when he's talking to me (lol as if he were my dad). I turn around, look at him in the eye, and say "fuck you ". B says he's going to kick my ass blah blah blah. The girls in the back are egging him on.
Poor bastard listened to them. He got out of the car, and so did I. His fists clenched -- ready to fight me -- and mine clenched twice as fast. He says he's going to knock me out and leave me on the ground… blah blah blah. B comes towards me but I step back. He keeps coming towards me but I keep stepping back. I honestly didn't want to fight him, but I was tired of stepping back and I decided to defend myself. I throw a punch and it connects with his chin. His body dropped to the ground, smacking his face in the pavement. He stands up, comes towards me, but again I step back. I could have kicked him and punched him while he was down, but I had proven my point and was done with him. Instead of continuing to come towards me, he gets in the car and drives. I ran away and hid in an alley because I thought the crazy mofo was going to run me over lol
The following is a txt conversation between him and I minutes after: B: You're a fucking bitch. You fucking pussy. I was only trying to help you you dumb ass piece of shit. Me: Don't contact me ever again. I'm done with you.
From what I have been told, he's been spreading rumors that he was 'trying to help me'. Haha. He’s full of shit and has no honor. He could have just stayed quiet and taken the beating like a man, but instead he took the bitch-road. I honestly think he’s trying to save face (especially since his gf witnessed his ass get beat) and is trying to turn people against me. It’s okay tho, I can make new friends I know who I am, and I know what happened.
What I Learned: 1) He's not my friend 2) It’s not worth getting into fights. I could have easily killed him with that punch. What if he had fallen and smacked his head on the concrete and died? I'd be facing serious charges! (It was self-defense, but still…)
I swallowed the RP about 4 months ago and I’ve been more confident in myself ever since. Thank you guys for helping me become a better man, and indirectly helping me stand up against my fears and bully.
The road aint over, and I have a lot to learn!