I've told my current LTR up front about how I don't want to get married for the past year now (thanks TRP). She knows and she's been totally "fine" with it. "I don't want to change my last name or plan a wedding anyways!" Of course, I knew better than to think it was actually all okay. One day...one day I knew she'd bite back about it.
The conversation we had minutes ago:
Her: "So, I was talking to Mary [old woman from her work who divorce raped her husband when he cheated] and she told me that I need to get married. She's right. What if you die suddenly then I won't get your money! [half jokingly but not really]"
Me: That's fucked up.
Her: But vice versa, what if I die then you won't get my money
Me: I don't want your money...
Her: I don't want your money either, Obviously, I'd rather have you...I'm just saying...
Her: But yeah if you're gonna get me a ring (I told her this is the most I'd do, IF I decided to do it) might as well just get married. That's just what people do. I know there's a big speed bump if things don't go well but there's tax benefits.
Me: Yeah, but those are minimal.
Her: hamster starts spinning - silence
Me: See what just happened there? There are no benefits.
Me: Every marriage I've ever known isn't happy. [could've held this one back]
Her: "Well, that's really depressing" storms off
All those that choose the LTR life... Keep up the good fight. And always remember the hamster needs to spin harder while it's on the rag.