I posted about a month ago on Asktrp about going to a girl's place of work which happens to be a bar. Its a bar and I like to drink so no problem right?

The responses I received were great. Not only were there responses on why I should not go but if I did what my thought process should be (go because you want to go to that bar and have a good time... not to go see that girl. She should be a bonus not the reason).

I took the advice and did not go. I suggested to her we go to another bar after she was done or go to another at a different time. Magically, she flaked on going to other bars. Later on it turned out she mentioned she was seeing someone and we stopped talking after that (I lost frame in some instances but that story is for another time)

Thank you Asktrp for your insight. I might have become a temporary orbiter and gone to her bar (and of course tipped her a bit).