I've seen a lot of men trying to make their relationship red and it is the same stuff that keeps tripping them up. As the Iron Chancellor Otto von Bismarck said, only fools learn from their own mistakes, wise men learn from the mistakes of others.

 

You don’t lift hard enough

Lift. Not work out, lift.

And by lifting I mean lift heavy free weights with compound movements, and if you're not already shredded you should either be on a bulking or cutting diet. You should see your strength increase, if not you’re not pushing yourself hard enough in the gym or your diet is off.

You should see 2lbs gained per month when bulking (most of it muscle, and with newbie gains double that, can last 6 months for untrained guys). You should lose 1lbs per week on a cut (fat guys can diet much harder). Track your weight daily, track your calories, if your moving 2 week weight average isn’t hitting your goal, adjust calories.

 

You mistake your idea of a real man for being alpha

Men have a lot of ideas about what is important: success, money, being a leader, honorable or a good father. Good for you, you do you. But don’t for a second think any of that is alpha, it will not make girls wet.

Alpha is frame, game, and looks, that's it. A dumb poolboy or a lowlife criminal can hit peak alpha.

So don’t whine about how she doesn’t respond to what an amazing provider, leader and entrepreneur you are. Focus on alpha.

 

You listen to your girlfriend

Don’t. Listen. To. Girls.

It’s that simple.

What she says has no relevance to making you or her happy. It’s not a guide to a better relationship. In fact, it’s the opposite. Anything she says about you and your relationship is all deception and traps, it’s shit testing.

The only thing you should listen for is hooks for your A&As. Other than that, you don’t need to give her answers and under no circumstance should you actually do anything based on what she says.

For the autistic: you can still have normal conversations about stuff other than you or your relationship. But you’re not supposed to be some frameless dancing monkey performing the ordered act.

 

You’re upset your girlfriend is angry

First off, you shouldn’t worry about her moods.

Second, if you started out in a blue relationship and is in the process of going red, the end result is usually a happier girlfriend but the process to get there sure doesn’t make her constantly happy. You’ll be upping your alpha and she’ll be shit testing you like crazy to make sure that you’re actually becoming fuckable. She’ll throw anger, tears, and scorn at you to see if she can find flaws in your frame. She'll say she's unhappy, that you're a cold asshole, that she needs love.

Don’t expect her to welcome your changes, in fact she’ll fight them. There will also be times when she’s sweeter and more horny; it’s perfectly normal that she’ll be responding to your higher alpha one day then being a shit testing harpy bitch the next.

Her cycle goes like this:

  • hmm, maybe he is more alpha than I though, better shit test him harder than last time
  • He passed, that’s hot!
  • Repeat

Get used to the cycle. Learn to see her increased bitchiness as an interesting challenge to your frame, as flirting, as the lead up to better sex.

It’s not until the Main Event that she’ll calm down and submit. Until then, expect a rollercoaster.

 

You think your girlfriend is a puzzle you have to solve

Sometimes guys come on here and explain how his girlfriend does X and maybe it’s a sign she wants Y. No, she doesn’t want Y. She wants to fuck her boyfriend if he's alpha, and she feels safe if he gives her some beta. She’s not a snowflake, she’s a human female who gets wet from alpha and comfort from beta.

Even if she has physical or mental problems, she still functions like a human female. Her issues can result in other behaviors manifesting in addition to what red pill theory says, but it is in addition to. The fundamentals of attraction remain the same.

 

You’re angry at how women are

Yeah, it’s fucking unfair. Grow up and deal with it. No one gives a fuck about the female imperative or hypergamy outside of internet forums. Don’t talk about it, don’t get butthurt over it. It won’t fix you, it won’t improve your sexual strategy, it won’t convince your girlfriends she should become submissive.

Also, no one cares that your girlfriend should have told you what made her wet, or that you should have figured it out yourself, or whatever is making you bitter. It's called the sunk cost fallacy because it's stupid to worry about it but for some reason we're wired to do so. Now be a man about it and move on.

 

You go rambo

Let’s first talk about what going rambo is not. It’s not putting all the effort you can into lifting, dieting, doing fun stuff, being social. Some guys suggest that going rambo is putting in too much effort. It’s not, effort is good.

What is not good is expecting your girlfriend to come around before you’ve seen the results of your work. Rambo is initiating too hard and getting angry at rejections, it’s talking dirty when your SMV can’t back it up, it’s thinking your girlfriend is a bitch because she’s not submissive when the real problem is your lack of alpha, it’s telling her to fuck you or fuck off because you’ve been hitting the gym for 2 months.

Relax, man. You’re supposed to build attraction. Be more attractive, don’t rage or be creepy.

 

You won’t play dread

You have to play dread. That doesn’t mean walking around and overtly flirting with women. But you should be social, talkative, demonstrating high value and seeing women respond with IOIs towards you. There’s a number of reasons for this: your own abundance mentality, your girlfriend’s response to experiencing it, and as a measure of whether or not you’re actually high value. If strangers aren’t sexually interested in you, why the fuck should your girlfriend be? Lack of IOIs is a clear sign you’re still unattractive.

 

You half-ass it

Some guys waste months or years twiddling their thumbs, working out a bit, trying to be funny, then wonder why it isn’t working.

Look, we’re not being hyperbolic when we talk about how we do things here. We can do one armed push ups. We grab our girls by the pussy. We make fun of them when they’re angry. We don’t give a fuck what they think. There’s a level of effort applied here that some guys for some reason think is unrealistic. It isn’t. Apply yourself.

 

You don’t switch into dominance and boundary enforcement

Eventually, she’ll be attracted to you but attraction will only take you so far. There will come a time when you have to become more dominant and enforce your boundaries. Some of her final resistance is next level shit testing, some is learned behaviors or issues she has. You have to power through that. Once she likes sex and affection from you, you’re going to plateau until you step it up and demand submission from her.

Becoming a high quality man with a horny girlfriend is just phase one.