Imagine that its Friday night. You're in the middle of a Hardcore Call Of Duty Special Operations mission, when suddenly your Vagina Person says that she wants to wear tight matching dresses with her friends and drunkenly grind her vagina on random dudes at the club. Now you have been investing time and money into this particular Vagina-Person and you feel strongly that the Vagina Person should not be giving away free samples. What do you?

Well, lets discuss your options. The first option is coercion. You turn to your Vagina Person and say: Look here Vagina Person, I'm a Level 99 Alpha Male. I've seen war. I'v stormed the beaches of Omaha. I've recovered classified documents from sinking ships. I've dedicated my life to fighting terrorists, Russians, Zombies and Robots. I've done things you couldn't imagine. Which is how I earned this Golden Dessert Eagle. I am a full blown Call of Duty Colonel and I forbid you from drunkenly sliding your Vagina on club douche bags. I refuse to sleep beside a Vagina Person that smells like Axe body spray. If you go this relationship is OVER!

The second option is payment. You turn to your Vagina Person and say: Look here Vagina Person, I may be a battle hardened Call of Duty Special Operations Warrior. I may have done things I regret. Specifically at that Russian airport. But I was on a top secret mission to infiltrate a terror cell! I did what I had to do. I might not always do the right thing. However, what I do know is that you are the right thing for me and I love you. Which is why if you promise not to spend the next 6 hours of your life grinding on sweaty V Neck Douche-Bags, I will take you and your friends to brunch tomorrow.

The next option is attraction. You majestically remove your Call of Duty skull t-shirt careful not to pull off your X-Box headset and say: Look here Vagina Person, you really think you can do better than this? Iv spent years cultivating this physique. Look at how thick my forearms are. Look at how dexterous my fingers are. You really think that you can find a guy who can fingerblast you as hard and as skillfully as an E-Sports athlete? Go if you want, but if you do I can promise you that you won't find any one better than me. If you leave your life will be nothing but sexual frustration and disappointment.

The final option is persuasion. You casually glance at your Vagina Person out of the corner of your eye, careful not to take your full attention off the space mission and say: Look here Vagina Person, I understand how challenging my career can be for this relationship. Look I get it. But you just ate half of that extra large Dominoes pizza with cheesy crust. You are going to look really bloated in your dress. Out of all of your friends you will look the worst. You think your friends will care? No! They are still going to post all of your bloated pictures to Instagram. All they care about is how they look not how you look. My friends give me covering fire when I ask for it on X Box Live, but your friends aren't loyal. They will be posting your bloated pictures for the next three months and tagging you. This isn't a good night to go out for you.

The first two options are examples of Hard Power. Now Hard Power, strategies work and are used to great effect in relationships, business and international relations. The problem with Hard Power, is that the more frequently it is used the less effective it becomes. How many times can a person be threatened until they stop caring? How many times can a person be bought off until their price becomes too steep? Do this or ill fire you is definitely an effective managerial strategy. The problem is that when the threat is executed the symbolic construct of authority is eventually destroyed. Managerial Authority is lost when workers start looking forward to their unemployment checks. The same can be said for relationships, which is why the Hard Power only strategy doesn't work long term.

In contrast Soft Power is more indirect and can be used repeatedly without creating resentment because its method of action is less abrasive. Google doesn't have to constantly threaten to fire their employees like Walmart does, because there is a certain nerd prestige aka attraction of working at Google. Likewise Google engineers are frequently persuaded that that their work is meaningful and worth the long hours. Both Google and Walmart exploit the absolute shit put of their employees, however Walmart is despised and Google is loved.

Now at this point the ADHD crew is thinking: Soft Power is cool and all but its complicated and nuanced, plus Hard Power is more Alpha! So I'm only going to do Hard Power because I'm trying to be Alpha as fast as possible! To that stupidity I say NO! It doesn't matter how anything makes you feel. This fat fuck feels Alpha chub n tucking and chub n rolling while cutting meat with a great sword. In fact Betas go out of their way to do stupid shit in order to feel Alpha in the short term. Demanding pointless shit from their wives in order to feel in charge, is actually Married Red Pill's preferred method of destroying their marriages. Winning negotiations consistently is Alpha. Grandstanding and imitating your favorite movie characters is the definition of living the virtual aka the Blue Pill.

In conclusion, being Alpha has always been about leadership. Effective leadership is predominantly attraction and persuasion and only occasionally coercion. The problem is that coercion, is much easier to understand. That's why our lowest common denominator latched onto it and started recommending it for any and all situation. If your Vagina Person wants to give out free samples that's first and foremost a problem of attraction. Perhaps its a problem of being less persuasive than the Cock Carousel Crew. If you find yourself playing the coercion card frequently chances are you've already lost. After all, this is real life, not Call Of Duty.

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