Along with lifting, grooming, and professional success, social proof is a key part of your SMV. I think social game is a great tool to supplement day game if you're looking for more than just ONS.

Think of social proof just like your credit history or your work resume, having none at all can be almost as damaging as having a bad one.


First though, we need a bit of history as to how we got here. Dunbar's number: the theory that through evolution in small tribal communities we've only become capable of maintaining social groups of up to 150 people.

Go back even as little as 100 years. Social gatherings were relatively small and if you attended, afterwards word got around to your social group of 150 people that you were there, who you were with, and what you did.

If you went out and did cool shit with your friends, your social circles had large overlap, meaning your friends talking to someone about their awesome weekend gave you the benefit of social proof as well.

Today, that's rarely the case. We live far apart from our friends. With thousands of people within a 5 minute walk in any direction, there's not always as much overlap in your social circles. Word of mouth is no longer the most effective way of of transmitting social proof.


I know some people might say, "but...but...but you should NGAF and do whatever you want for yourself!" and that's true. But the little bit of extra time invested is worth it in my opinion. You can spend 10 mins taking a few pics/videos to share with your friends and then spend the remaining 99% of your time enjoying yourself.

Networking is crucial for professional success, just as it is for social success. Oftentimes you will find one will bolster the other. The truth of the matter is the world has moved on. Those who can't or don't adapt get left behind, as can be seen by how ineffective beta provider game is in the modern dating paradigm.


In Closing

  • Can you have a successful and fulfilling social life without social media? Sure, there are plenty of posters on here who have demonstrated that.

  • Can effectively harnessing social media as a tool increase your SMV? Also yes.

Do with this info as you like, but to me the oft recommended "delete all your social media and be a try hard lone-wolf type" advice does more bad than good.