TL:DR : This is a post specifically for dealing with emotional pain in all its forms through meditation, awareness exercise and other practices. This post goes deep, because pain goes much deeper than we realize. Dealing with tragedies, breakups, losses, inner pain and old wounds is most important, as they affect us in many obvious and subtle ways and sabotage us from living the life we can. Left untreated, pain can lead us to a terrible fate. The tools are very needed now more than ever, especially for us men.

There's an excellent post put up just a while back about dealing with breakups. The OP has covered a lot of stuff there and as I was reading it, it struck me that I should write about emotional pain - a topic that's not addressed enough. Here I'm going to share my own methods on how I dealt with the worst period of my life where I was in a horror story of a marriage and feeling almost suicidal, I lost my money, my job and old career, my wife (and the support of 3 sets of families) and my respect. I got to see the true side of everyone I believed in behind their masks. But also my illusions were broken, painfully. This technique is of course, not totally complete as a manual to recovering from tough losses and dealing with pain. I'd advise reading the post on breakups first. I put this as a comment there, but felt it would make a post in itself on how to deal with deep inner pain and trauma in general.

I have wanted to write about this for a long time. Looking back, it seems like all my past few comments were only about addressing the problem of pain.

Our society does not teach people, especially men, how to handle pain, loss, bullying, turbulent times, break ups and destruction of old identity. There is a lot of stuff written on the anger phase, but deeper than anger is pain. And most of us, even the ones who've hit rock bottom, come back up and who've had great success later whether in life or with women -- all of us carry more pain and wounds inside us than we realize. We are getting to know in just how many ways pain can fuck us up and others around us. And it is high time tools that actually work are made available to deal with this.

In this post I will stress on the importance of daily meditation, being totally true with yourself, not hiding from the pain within and purging it out and getting rid of unrealistic frames of life that aren't true in reality, which is the deepest source of the pain. It is your frame of life and your identity as whatever you call yourself being dismantled that causes the greatest pain.

In my case, it wasn't just a marriage turning disastrous and breaking up. Literally everything I thought I was failed and turned irrelevant. Coming to this place and waking up felt even more like getting destroyed for a while as it happened right at the same time. To me it felt like everything that was my old self was being systematically annihilated one limb at a time. Who was I even now?

I have been regularly meditating even before I reached this period. In retrospect that saved my life when I actually had to face the worst time of my life, as in some way my frame was already solid enough not to go on a destructive path of drugs, alcohol or go mad and start shooting people or cause self harm / suicide. Prevention is the first line of defense.

So I recommend meditation, both for prevention and cure. Specifically, you should include presence / awareness meditation. There is a word for this and it's metacognition. Some people call it mindfulness. It is basically awareness that is aware of itself. This is the most fundamental point of origin.

Every single thing that happens to you leaves a residue in your body mind. Painful experiences build up a collective amount of pain energy within yourself , a form of karmic memory. If this pain just accumulates within, eventually it builds up enough energy to impact you in very negative ways. Left to itself this manifests in the form of dysfunctional patterns, victim pukes, rage episodes, addictions, depression, mental illnesses, excessive mental narratives, psychosomatic illnesses that can't be explained and more terrible stuff like shootings and suicides.

Diversion in the form of filling yourself with work and other hobbies and even other women or whatever is good when the pain gets too strong to face directly, but sooner or later, you need to face it and let it out, or else deep pain can stay in your system for years. Over time it will drive you into a spiral of emptiness and destructive behaviors where all you do is trying to numb it and try to put a bandaid on a tumor and somehow fill up what you see as a hole in yourself.

Whenever you are alone, have little to do, your body mind starts a natural purging mechanism, bringing out stuff from within that makes you restless. This you can just observe if you throw the phone and internet away and just sit watching the scenery. This is actually a necessary mechanism by which your system purges itself of all the shit it carries inside. This purging can be at its strongest after a particularly nasty event like a breakup or a divorce or getting laid off or anything. Most of us divert or hide from it, but it is actually far more important than we realize.

If any thoughts or feelings come up, which they will, often violently with a lot of intensity, find a quiet place, meditate and allow your body to purge it out totally. Whatever comes up, let it. Accept it completely. Remain aware of the background that is this moment and let it all come out and go. Don't try to aim for a particular emotional state at this point, just stay awake. Do not try to be happy, don't tell yourself you shouldn't feel sad, or anything that isn't.

A good question to ask here when the surge of thoughts and emotions come is "Who is experiencing the thoughts and emotions?" and look. This will help you turn around and notice yourself. YOU are the only constant in your life. You exist when everything, including everything about you changes. Your presence is the one constant in all your experiences. This will help break free and notice yourself as separate from your thoughts and emotions and let them be without getting sucked into them. It will also break you free from all adjectives you use to describe yourself and actually BE yourself for once. For this you need to be very mindful of what is going on inside you.

It will also help you break out of putting something or someone else as the centre of your life, because the truth is, you are the center of your life.

When you do this, the emotional energy gets released internally into the body rather than acting it out through you. This will make you sick, sleepy, give you a migraine maybe, cause aches and pains, could result in numerous "purge fests", but it will be gone. You can't leave residues behind.

Oxytocin withdrawal is seriously real. Your body literally needs a reboot. For men, it doesn't hit you right away, but a few days later, it does. And unlike women, it's more prolonged. We men have systems with a lot more inertia and a lot more permanent impact than women. Popular media gives us no sensible tools to handle it except try and cry like women and we're long past the point where we even need to go that way.

But we as men need to realize we get affected by stuff deeply at a lever more subtler and more long lasting than women. It is like carving on a rock. We are permanently altered by these events unlike them, and we need to ensure that the change turns healthy, or else it will alter us in unhealthy ways.

These blockages in the system cause emotions, thoughts, habits, beliefs and energy to be trapped and this builds up stress and pain, even chronic diseases an illness that just cannot be explained. In a healthy and vibrant system, life must flow freely.

I had it hit me like 2 days after my divorce, despite how bad the whole affair was and how much I knew I had to get out. But I went for a drive (driving long gives me a release and my car acts as a good man cave) and then damn, I had a massive eruption of pain, and the worst of it then passed out. I stopped driving, just found a place to park, and let it blow. I got back home, but was so drained I slept off in the car for a while. It took a few more times to eliminate the worst of it. But for about 3 weeks to a couple of months or so, my motivation just wasn't the same. It wasn't just the relationship fail - there was the disappointment of many years behind it too - the loss of my job and career, a lot of money, seeing the true side of everyone I thought would be there for me, the Red Pill truths. Everything felt meaningless.

I should have actually let it burn all the way. Well eventually I did, and I was back up and running. I did however take up serious gymming and yoga and meditation classes later on to burn out even more. Yes, my case seems mild compared to guys here, but that was because I had already begun to do this when things started going downhill instead of waiting for D-Day.

Get lots of sun, fresh air, walk barefoot on the ground. Drink enough water and Find large open spaces. Being in tune with nature is really helpful.

Lie down and gently tell every body part and organ to gently relax and release from your head to foot. By the time you get half way up, you might fall asleep after some major tension releases. Good. Sleep is healing.

Read a spiritual book - something like Tolle or Adyashanti or Ramana - they tell you how to deal with this phenomenon. I stumbled upon it shortly a few months after coming here somehow and it blew my mind up. I really needed it at a time when things felt most meaningless and I was wondering "What's the point?"

I was too caught up between past and future and I had forgotten the reality of the present. This moment is ultimately the most and only truly meaningful one. You look elsewhere to live, you can't. There is no other life but the one you already live right now. The sense of meaninglessness is a message - somewhere you realize the irony of using this life to try and live some other life in the past and future, which is impossible. You goals can happen in time, but there is no other life but this one. Anything you create is being created now. So the responsibility is mine. When you are aware in this moment, it feels like waking up more than normal. Right now you always have a choice. Was I going to create a depressed life, going down the slippery slope m, or was I going to choose to create a better life?

Spirituality is basically a powerful awakening to truth. Most people turned corner and woke up during their moments of greatest loss and despair. You will be very surprised to know how many people broke their illusions in history as a result of failing with women. Everyone here did in their own way. Those books are useful. Find out what a "pain body" is, why you ultimately get into relationships and why the old ways are fundamentally broken. Find out how it stops you from getting the life you are meant to live. Find out how to catch it when it arises and dissolve it. It's the body's own memory that it's trying to purge out whenever you're at rest and just doing little or nothing. Stuff like this hits you at the core of your old delusional frame, that needs to be torn down. The utopia or dystopia that you believe in is a story you tell yourself, but reality is truth. It is red pill at a level deeper than TRP. TRP stops with getting women, but spirituality goes to the very root of being. And it is here that we find and deal with deep pain.

Losing everything and then getting the bitter Red Pill after Red Pill handed to me at the same time was a major loss of identity for me and for a while I was wondering what I even was. Everything that I'd worked for in the last 15 years of my life had gone up in smoke or had revealed itself to be a lie. My anger phase did burn on the inside, even when I thought it wasn't too serious. I was following RP, but I realize now I couldn't control my thoughts and questions. Everything felt meaningless and I was asking myself "What's the point?" The hole inside never seemed to get full.

But it was spirituality that made me see that I was still alive as ever, and life continued to go on in spite of all the loss. After a lot of daily meditation, a phase where things seemed to get worse mentally before they got better, and then carrying the effect of the meditation and awareness exercise with me, the feeling of peace and presence through the day, I actually felt easy being a nobody for a while. Eventually I again got back on track to rebuild.

Don't drown your pain in anesthesia of alcohol or drugs or even sex. This will numb you for a while, but the actual way out is only through. Acceptance is the path of least resistance. If you feel too tempted, get male buddies to watch out for you. Surround yourself by male company who're further up the road than you are. I was lucky I had a great man and a spiritual friend in one of my teachers to go to whenever I was down and a great set of friends who had my back no matter what.

DON'T ACT TOUGH / DENY OR TELL STORIES TO YOURSELF -- most people DEER themselves acting tough. It is fear posing as toughness. It takes real toughness to be totally real with yourself and face reality. Find a man cave or a male buddy to sit quietly with and accept totally what happened. Experience it fully, but consciously. Don't do this when you're not surrounded by safe people, especially not other women. First time it might be horrible. Do it again. And again. Give it sometime and accept everything in this moment alone. Do it again. Face the truth again and again. Soon it becomes a memory and a memory can no longer rule you.

Don't tell yourself that this shouldn't be happening. It is totally happening now, so it is real. Get to acceptance as soon as you can.

If angry thoughts of revenge and suicide and all that come, they're thoughts, not real. Let them come and go. They will go away when they realize you're focusing on the thinker rather than entertaining them.

Also this - if your identity tied to that relationship feels like dying, LET IT DIE COMPLETELY. Don't die halfway, die all the way. Don't take it out on the body or worse, other people -- only the ego, the emotions, the thoughts, the frame - that needs to die. Life doesn't stop, only an identity does. Get this message in while you're still calm right now. You might feel like dying, but actually only the thing you call as "you" wants to die. Your pain body wants to die when it has become too big to keep going. Just let that one die. You'll become a fresh piece of life when it's all over.

If you feel empty, dive into the emptiness for a while till you're comfortable being totally empty but alive. It's like losing your internet for a while these days, only worse, but stay in the void for a while and then hey, once you at at ease in stillness, there's no emptiness and you feel so much lighter. Be undefined for a while, like a naked guy without a defined role. Yeah, there's a nothing box built inside your brain for a reason. Now is the time to use it.

Real stoicism isn't putting up a face alone, real stoicism is being totally awake and aware when your mind and body are in a storm. You must be careful never to lie to yourself or feel shame because the pain did a number over you.

I like the journal method in the other post. Pour out the pain on the paper, and when you feel light, burn it up. Seriously, burn it to ashes. Then throw the ashes somewhere spread out. I live on the coast, I just dumped it into the ocean. But this can't be a ritual, this only signifies the end of a purging that has already happened within you.

Well as always, lifting and some good cardio - there's no substitute for that. Seriously, I can't tell you how much mental shit it fixed up right away - lifting will fix 3 quarters of your issues right away. But there were days where I was so burnt out that even lifting felt too much of a struggle and I just needed to slow down for a while. It's ok, doing is being slowed down for a while to focus more on the being side.

What all the meditation does is that it takes all the pain and turns it into physical exhaustion. The body being solid can burn up pain in ways the mind simply lacks the solidity to do. Once you're drained out, then you'll start recovering. During this period, don't strain yourself and reduce activity if you can. Take a break from whatever you're doing. You need an inner cleansing and a body reset. You can't have much energy being diverted during this time. Eat a healthy diet that isn't too heavy on the stomach. Sleep a bit more.

When this is done, get back to the gym, lift, run, re-energize the body and get your T levels up again. A breakup, a painful loss literally sends your T crashing down for a while, we see this rather dramatically in some apes, and we're no different. We need to restore hormonal balance. That will bring you back on form.

It is possible that deeper residues of pain may remain even when you think it's all gone. It can show up in more subtle ways. In my case, I kept finding myself thinking about it for too long, spending way too much time on trp and mrp more than I should, subtly disrupting my productivity because I find my mind drifting to women and my past failures, advising my cousins, getting obsessed over female behavior, focusing a lot on how bad women are, reading too much RP over and over as I didn't want to get hurt again, trying to find an outlet through writing, or even trying to act as though I was above it when I wasn't. That's less obvious, but it becomes clear with deepening understanding. Somewhere, a woman was still living in my head. I had to purge more out.

Even now, I feel an urge to comment on just about any post here and so. For this wall of text, I stayed up late last night writing this and woke up drowsy and late today morning. This, I realized was very compulsive - that's pain driving me and I realize that there's still a bit more of wounds to heal and pain to release. I will consciously give myself a break from TRP for a while and if the urge comes up, I will sit down, spot it as it comes, and let it work out.

You may tell yourself it's for good, etc etc. hamster ir, but actually it is pain masquerading under good intentions. And the results can be seen in the way it messes your life and eats up time and energy and stops you from reaching your real goals. This is kind of like the I'm so good version of the Nice Guy..

Remember, before this woman or whoever came into your life, when you were a child, you could laugh and be happy and live without any of these things. As a teenager, you were attracted to virtually every girl you saw, not just one. Every day, try to spend some time stripping yourself down and realizing that yeah, you can be, even without the things that define your identity. Then start having fun.

If a break up threatens to break up what you think is you, break up completely and realize you're more than just an identity as her boyfriend, crush, husband, whatever. Die consciously, so that you can live consciously once more.

Some pain within you runs so deep it runs across generations in your family. Some of the pain you feel comes from others around you, your family, the society, just the vibes they send out. That pain is not yours alone and it runs deep and subtle. We see this happen to people who came from dysfunctional families and faced a bad childhood, often they end up becoming like their parents or try to be their exact opposite. This too must be dissolved. After the dissolution of individual pain, the collective pain needs to dissolve as well. This was a point I actually observed in repetitive behavioral patterns in my family. I found that I was more of dad and mum or grandpa than I thought I was me. I picked it up from infancy and have been carrying it around since then. This generational pain is spoken of by Adyashanti and it made me aware of it.

These lessons are also needed after you've awakened and transformed and found success - even more so than ever. Moments of happiness can success can delude you into thinking this is forever and you get drunk and lose awareness. You lose the urgency and pressure to stay strong and aware as ever. Now you need to practice meditation deliberately even though there's no pressure of suffering to drive you. Without deliberate discipline, you can get rusty. But it is the good times where you need to be particularly more awake than ever. The gym is more needed for people living luxurious lives than people who need to walk miles to go to the market and the same is true for the mind. All this things I talk about are easy to do when you are suffering and you don't want to suffer or get out. But moments of pleasure are more deceiving. You can easily think that "This is it" and start to get back into oneitis or complacency again.

This is harder than it looks. In good times, you have to meditate and be aware and lift and read etc... all by your own conscious strength of motivation alone as there is no pressure on you. This is another level of strength. Remember, the good times create weak men and the weak men create hard times.

Sometimes after transforming and finding success in life and women and the like, there are many people who go through a second anger phase when they start thinking that the world and women could have always chosen to treat them better and could have behaved like this had they wanted to, but they did not, they only care about your money and success and body and what you have, not you...etc...etc... -- it happens a lot in marriages that have turned around for e.g. One can get resentful over the fact that the people around them simply aren't as aware as they are now.

That's when you need the awareness meditation and the purging even more. The last, deepest traces of your old self survive in the form of the unresolved pain and humiliation that it suffered in the past, and this can suddenly appear as anger or the feeling of being victim or a righteous need to lash out, or tank the life you just built for yourself. It can keep your old demons in control of you and seriously sabotage you from truly moving forward and letting the past go. Be aware of this, go deeper within and free yourself out of this. Inner pain is the Devil of the Bible. To be fully established here and now as who you are really meant to be, is real forgiveness of the past.

There are many of us who got bruised and deeply wounded within by humiliations and losses and somewhere that could have driven us to alpha ourselves up, boost our value, fill our lives with money, women and success. But time and again I see people, even after having everything they wanted, still feel hollow and empty and depressed inside. They can even turn nihilistic. That is a sign that those old wounds and deeper issues still remain to be fixed.

This happened to people like Roosh and Neil Strauss. They learnt to get all the women they could ever hope to have sex with, but there was an inner pain from their past that was always an undercurrent. That led to a deep dissatisfaction which meant the problem went much deeper than just a lack of women and sex. Roosh was particularly a glaring example. There was a lot of unresolved pain and sooner or later they had to address it.

Fundamentally the people who succeed and are yet unfulfilled inside are not at ease with themselves. People like this used external success to fill up a hole within themselves and are still extremely needy. They are not truly living as an expression of abundance and are instead trying to use everything to fill up a needy hole in themselves. They may actually fill themselves up with far more stuff they ever really need. They enjoy, but they lack joy. They do not realize that the hole itself is a problem. They wore their alpha as an armor not to get hurt, but could not fix themselves enough to wear their skin as armour. Somewhere their old self, the old pain is still alive and it has been driving them at the point of origin. It got them success, it got them women, but the old self with deep unresolved pain is still a problem that hadn't been fundamentally fixed. Their life is still a big covert conditional contract "If I have all this, then all will be happy ever after".

This pain can prevent your wealth or career or your relationships from feeling meaningful or intimate and over time you could get very nihilistic and lose your motivation for living. The end game is not some point in the future, the end game is to live fully and live well now. The journey is life. Life isn't about an end point. Life is now.

If this happens, and you start feeling empty and meaningless, you must go a bit deeper and uncover the deeper traces of pain and blockages in yourself. You must find all traces of your old self and let them burn up in mindful awareness. This particular dissatisfaction runs very deep and can't be met by anything from the outside, and left untreated, will again ruin your life and relationships and send you back down a slippery slope of addictions and depression. You cannot live a life of fullness or abundance as the best authentic version of yourself as long as this pain still survives within you. This is when you must deepen your awareness and meditations and allow very deep stuff, stuff you never even realized you carried, to be dissolved. Your energy is trapped inside. Objects cannot fix this. Only spiritual presence can. Only discovering abundance and fullness and living life as an expression of the abundant, energetic man you are will ever truly fix this. Get help of a safe person who understands this or at least can have your back if you need.

NMMNG talks about this to some extent, but The Power of Now and Emptiness dancing describe this a further, down to the most fundamental level of consciousness.

About drugs, they give you an out of body thing for a while, but the hole inside gets bigger the more you depend from the outside. Ultimately they're big psychedelic pleasure trips, but have no real value in terms of actual growth. You treat the symptom, not the root cause. All you do is cultivate a pain powered dependency and if the shrooms aren't around you suffer.

In this meditation we are not seeking the experiences, but the experiencer - it's a subtlety too many people miss. Experiences are not an anchor, they come and fade. After every high comes a crash back down to low that leaves you more broken than before. What we need is that which is there whether there are experiences or not, something present during the highs and the lows. THAT is what allows the painful stuff to burn up and that alone can fill the void within. Beware the good things, they're deceiving unlike the honestly bad stuff. As they say, good need not be pleasant and pleasant need not be good.

True fulfillment is a very subtle thing. Strictly speaking, it cannot even be called pleasure or even be associated with emotional highs and lows. Every pleasure addict is in fact driven by pain, so that's not it. This is something that causes even the need for happiness to become less essential. I could call it inner strength or inner peace. When you have that you can surf on the waves of life. If you don't you'll be swept up by the waves.

This is why inner being or the subject was called "Shiva" or the "masculine", while the world of objects was described as "feminine" or "Shakti". No amount of "feminine" highs and lows of experiences can be a true solution to the root of your emotional pain because what you really need is the "masculine"!

I'll be metaphoric and say you're looking to Shakti for a solution to your deep seated pain that can only come from Shiva.

Yeah, you knew that women can't substitute for a lack of masculinity in your life, but this goes to another level. Who knew the disease runs this deep down to the root of our existence? It is counter intuitive, but it's simple. Those seeking happiness are in fact not happy, and those who are happy spread it around. You wonder at just how much the people who came up with this analogy for life must have studied human nature. The nature of the world and mind is just like the woman, and the solution is... the same, only deeper.

Moments of loss, and moments of gain, are both places where we need to be more aware. Ultimately all that comes also goes, and we need to get used to it. If one can use these moments to stay more conscious, one's own mental and emotional muscles get a lot stronger and wiser. Find the Shiva within as TWOTSM says. In all situations, you are present. This presence, this moment, this life, that never changes no matter what. All other things, the objects change. The world is feminine, Shakti. But the subject is ever present. That is the Shiva within. Only Shiva can fill up what Shakti can't. Ok, enough TWOTSM.

And yes, men can deal with pain without having to act like women do. There's no need to start expressing like a female anywhere in any of this. Women can purge externally, expressing themselves like women, and men purge internally, expressing like men.

As for me, since then, I've found a new career, a new set of skills, earned more money now than before, have everything I need. I'm doing all my old hobbies once more. I lift, I meditate, my dark moods and a shit load of opinions and judgements are gone. I've gotten far more creative and perceptive, my social skills with women are through the roof now, I am fully comfortable being sexual and spiritual - there is no conflict there anymore (something that was caused by old religious upbringing). I no longer have a need to fill myself up to hide my own inner hole, and I am at ease in so many situations I never used to be. In a way my needs have gone down as much of it wasn't "needs" as it was neediness. Even simple stuff and pleasures are very fulfilling now. I got fine with being destroyed and being nothing and nobody for a while, it is liberating once you are at ease with it. It cleared the old me and paved the way for something new to be laid. It also opened up a lot more of my potential, and I started doing stuff I never believed I could. People who get to know me start doing things for me I least expect and want me around them. All I am doing is just being the new me.

Sometime back I just felt like a switch flipped in my mind and I just get much of the RP stuff now -- what this is about -- intuitively. Still a long way to go, and much more experience to gain. I am only getting started. Now is the time to work on implementing the tools. There is still inner pain to be resolved and I work now on the more subtle stuff.

Many people who choose to go full sex freak playboy mode, get addicted to porn, or alternatively, go MGTOW or worse, blackpill, or even many people who rush to get married, or the people who live in rage and even try to kill --- none of them have consciously made an authentic choice - there is a huge difference between them and someone like a Buddha. It is pain still driving them. A lot of shit needs to be worked on within them first before they decide what to do with the tools and knowledge. Only when a lot of inner shit has been cleaned up and the burden of inner pain has dissolved considerably AND you have become more consciously aware -- can you actually make authentic choices. Till then, pain is king.

It helps put things in perspective. Life seems to have ended during moments of heartbreak, but it always goes on. You're just not flowing freely with it.

PS : It is possible and expected you will break up and get rejected or suffer some loss or the other a lot more down the road. Every time, it gets a lot easier. You can use all these moments to deepen your inner strength of presence and awareness and clear out more pain inside you. The world is a bunch of waves and you are the deep ocean. Once you see how big the world and life is beyond your tiny mind story, an abundance mentality will develop and losses can be shrugged off easily. You might even find yourself having fun making parody jokes about them, as absurd as it may seem right now. You might even make jokes about how many times someone used a phrase on you -- "We need to talk?" Umm...26?? "You sexist selfish patriarchal creep!" -- 59. "Not interested" -- I finally hit a century. "It's over" - Oh, 12. That wasn't my idea, but I liked it.

We all need to learn to deal with pain, especially us men. I wrote this after resolving a huge chunk of my own pain and realized that society can't really solve the deeper issues in ourselves. This is our responsibility. Left to itself this manifests in the form of dysfunctional patterns, victim pukes, rage episodes, addictions, psychosomatic illness, depression, mental illnesses and more terrible stuff like shootings and suicides.

A break up or loss or a major shift in life is the end of your oneitis tiny world in your mind you thought was life, but life is so much bigger. The destruction was needed to make room for something much greater to come in, which you will see later. This allows you to see that you can live well even when your old world or self has been broken down. That gives you abundance. Meditation combined with the other stuff here is a powerful tool to help expand your awareness, heal pain, and discover abundance and live life as an expression of fullness rather than just fill a needy whole within.

Much of this sounds like spiritual mumbo jumbo until you implement it regularly in real life with discipline like you exercise - this is for all situations at all times. I had to bring spirituality in to a TRP post because the problem of pain runs too deep to be ultimately solved by normal means, but it needs to be healed or else it will not let you live the life you deserve. You need some special tools that can go that far deep to fix those wounds.