Saw a really good post put up about looking out for signals, both positive or negative. Wanted to share a few I've noticed over the years.

Maybe these are obvious to you, maybe some will surprise you.

The positive ones I call approach invitations.

The negative signals I call "fuck off."

Recognize either and you'll find a lot more success with approaches, especially during the day. Remember, women are women and that doesn't change during the day.

Their invitations might even be super obvious but you're not looking for them because your culture has programmed you to think of nighttime venues as the only houses of worship for sex.

Approach Invitations

  • Looks at you for more than 1.5 seconds. Unless you have something on your face, she is signaling for you to approach or at least that she's interested. In most cases, don't hesitate. Immediately approach. Anything longer than this is the female equivalent of her saying, "I think your penis would look nice in my mouth."

  • Looks at you more than once. A quick glance and a lookaway could be ambiguous, but a girl looking at you more than once? Bright green light. Approach. Women are very careful with whom they look at, as they don't want to actively draw unwanted attention from losers (though they will dress scampy as a passive strategy for attention, many of it unwanted, and then feign anger when they get it).

  • If she's with a group of friends and they suddenly get quiet around you, this is a sign of attraction. They're nervous and submissive around you and you didn't do shit but be you. Introduce yourself.

  • If she's with a group of friends and their volume suddenly gets much louder than before, this is also a sign of attraction; they're trying to get your attention.

  • If she's walking close behind you at a steady pace, it's a yellow light. A girl who doesn't want to be in your presence will either speed past you or slow down so that you walk ahead of her. Look back and see if you can catch her eyes, smile, and hit her with a casual "hello." Sometimes she'll speed up then walk next to you for conversation.

  • If she's walking behind you, speeds up to overtake you, but then slows down once she's in front of you, this is a big sign. She wants you to see her, especially her ass. Upgrade to super green light if she walks in front of you after the passover. She really wants you to see her ass. A casual, "Excuse me," into a compliment or introduction works wonders here. A girl did this once and I noticed a back tattoo. Asked her about it and she hooked hard. A few hours later she was swallowing my meat.

  • If she's walking parallel with you and maintains your pace. A simple, "Hey, how are you?" suffices, since she's already in your bubble.

  • If you're waiting for the walk light, train, bus, etc., and she moves from standing far away from you to closer to you, she's interested. Upgrade to super green light if it's immediately after you enter the scene and you notice her notice you.

  • If a girl is standing around you and starts to look around aimlessly. Bonus points if she always seems to be interested in the area around you. If you want to be super sure and break your internal Matrix with how obvious women are, let her do it for a while but only watch her through your peripheral vision. You'll see her break the act and go from looking "behind" you to a quick stare at you or even a full check-out. If you want to have fun, catch them in that moment and give her very strong eye contact then open.

  • If a girl is in line with you or around you for more than a few seconds and sighs for seemingly no reason, hit her with a, "Having a bad day?" or make a dumb joke about the line. If there's something you can make any comment about in the vicinity, do it, even if it's dumb. The goal is to talk to her and she's verbally shown interest in talking to someone and since you're close it might be you.

  • If she's around you and starts to stand on the balls of her feet or arch her back, she's feelin' girly and nervous. Muster your best deep voice and make her purr.

  • If she moves her hair away from you and exposes her neck in your direction. Or if she plays with her hair at all, especially while walking towards and passed you on the street. Good video of a blonde chick doing this do Rory Mcilroy on the green. Check the Tube.

  • If she looks at you then looks down when you meet her eye, you've got submission. Which is good.

  • At somewhere like a grocery store, if she comes into your aisle and takes a strangely long time to survey the wide variety of fucking chicken or whatever aisle you're in, there's a good chance she's waiting for you to talk to her and then give her your chicken.

  • If she asks you for directions somewhere, there's a good chance she's interested. Out of all the people on the street, she chose you. This is a yellow light, as she could just be asking for directions, but strike up a conversation and if she stays in it, she's down to clown.

A lot of these windows are quick and you need to act. The hotter they think you are or the more masculine/aggressive she is, the more obvious the signs, but even the most predatory women will get annoyed if you don't pick up on their signals. By being subtle women avoid looking low-quality/thirsty and it also weeds out pussies/clueless chumps. Don't be that guy. Pounce.

Now, just as they give out approach invitations, they also give out their fare share of "fuck off" signals.

Fuck-Off

  • If she's wearing sunglasses or headphones, this is a passive "fuck-you" to everyone. Only the ballsiest of men will approach anyways. Get in her field of vision and gesture for her to take her headphones out. If you're hot enough, she'll be happy and even give you bonus points for not giving a fuck about the subtle barriers she put up.

  • She looks at you and then breaks up contact upwards. She's communicating that she's higher value than you (or at least perceives that you are, which is all that matters to her). If she breaks eye contact to the side, it's a yellow light. Could go either way. Also, if her breakaway is overly dramatic, it's also a yellow-light. Could be genuine disgust or she's trying to play hard to get (either because she thinks you're out of her league or she's ovulating and is angry horny).

  • She doesn't even make any eye contact with you or look in your direction while walking past you (you coming towards her and her coming towards you).

  • She randomly "answers" her phone in your presence. This is a big fuck-you, especially if she spotted you checking her out moments prior.

  • She sees you walking towards her and gets her phone out to text. Maybe it's her pretending to look busy/cool, but usually it's a "fuck you."

  • Resting bitch face. Though, this one is ambiguous most of the time and I particularly like bitchy girls, so I'll approach and even call her out on it.

  • Doesn't return eye-contact as you pass each other.

  • While standing around you is turned away from you. If she's interested, she'd usually give you some sort of invitation. Why? Because she noticed you. I promise. Women are hyper-aware of everyone around her. They have to be (the male human is both her greatest desire and the greatest potential threat to her safety).

  • She's walking quickly and determinedly towards her direction.

  • She's on your side of the street but switches sides as she walks towards you or notices you behind her/in front of her, and still continues to walk in the same direction.

  • She's next to you on a busy street but then moves and puts a person or several between you and her.

  • She chooses a spot in the coffee shop far away from you.

There are many more for both categories, but that should suffice to show you the general patterns of interest and disinterest.

However, there is one note that I've found to be really strangely true and has made me question my views on determinism.

If you see a girl and you find yourself getting excited, feel an extreme "pull" towards her, and find her breathtakingly beautiful (see: different from "hot"; that's your dick talking), I'd say there's a 95% chance that she will love your approach. Even when I was a newb and didn't really have any of my passive qualities on lock (fitness, fashion, hairstyle, etc), women who I found stunning would always give me really warm responses when I approached. I'd obviously fumble the actual conversation itself and either puss out and dip out too early or fuck up the escalation, but the attraction was there. That's not even game, that's straight biological symmetry (pheromones or w/e) or fate, if you're a hard determinist - either way, doesn't matter, it's a pattern that's too frequent to deny, in my experience.

I usually only approach nowadays if I feel that pull to her or if she gives me a signal, because after over 10,000 approaches, shotgun approaching tires me, but sometimes, if i'm the mood, I'll approach regardless of any bad sign, because fuck it why not. Sometimes you'll be surprised.

If you're hitting lots of walls with approaches, you're very likely ignoring "fuck-off"s and not looking out for invitations.

Hope this helps. Mostly applies to day game, but the signals don't change much at night, though they do get both more nuanced and more obvious at night.

Hector Castillo