A year and a half without sex

icravethatbuzz · 2014-04-07T04:13:41+00:00

You are only at high school once, don't waste it with a girl that isn't prepared to sleep with you.

[deleted] · 2014-04-07T03:55:26+00:00

She wants a leader, not a servant.

mordanus · 2014-04-07T06:44:04+00:00

Here's the thing man. Anytime you treat a woman like she is better than you she will believe she is better than you. The farther up you put her the farther down she will put you. Treat her like a like a princess she will treat you like a lowly noble. Treat her like a queen she will treat you like a peon. Treat her like a goddess she will treat you like an insect.

Put yourself first here or you can't expect her to respect you or want you. Also stop chasing her. Someone has to be the chaser in the relationship and if that is you, you give the power to her. If she is being cold and indifferent to you then stop making advancements to her and maker her be the initiator. If she doesn't initiate then move onto another girl.

Also high school isn't a good time to get a girl pregnant so don't be a stupid fuck about it.

_and_a_PhD · 2014-04-07T05:33:44+00:00

When I was I was in high school, I had sex with all my girlfriends within 4 weeks, often on the first or second date, or I moved on. I never got to less than third base. Out of a few dozen girls, only 2-3 never slept with me. And it wasn't just the typical sluts, religious girls were always the best and the freakiest. Followed by violin players. Something about repression seems to make girls crazy in bed. My rule of thumb, is that if I wasn't at second base by the second date, it was time to move on.

No matter what girls say in high school, they want to have sex, but they don't want to be slut shamed. Your number one rule in high school is that you NEVER talk about your sex life even if you are beating girls away with a stick. When you do have sex, be very discrete. If a girl knows she can have sex with you and you will keep quiet, you will find your self knee deep in pussy. If you talk and slut shame her even indirectly, your river of pussy will dry up. Even if your best friend in the world asks, you never admit to anything. You can, and should encourage her to brag about having sex with you as this increases your attractiveness. This is how I know that violin players are freaks, I shagged all the violinists in the orchestra based on word of mouth.

[deleted] · 2014-04-07T05:12:36+00:00

Oh if I only I was in high school again. Prime pussy on easy mode.

Areimanes · 2014-04-07T05:37:27+00:00

This girl you have a crush on, in a few years, will likely be getting facials, pounding everclear punch, and slowly destroying her youth with froyo and smoking.

Why would you be a saint to her? Quit treating her like a goddess, treat her like a human. You have, what, 1-2 more years of high school? Your time is limited, if she won't put out, find someone who will. Your hormones will convince you that you love that new girl, but this time remember, you are just horny as fuck and rationalizing love where there is none. Whenever you aren't progressing in a relationship, it's because you failed to communicate sexually or she is frigid / in it for the validation. In either case, you need to bounce and try the next one.

Doomsday_ · 2014-04-07T05:16:42+00:00

I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you're not trolling.

Just drop a serious ultimatum: tell your gf you're not happy in a relationship without sex, so if she's not willing to put out you'll have to move on. If other girls want to fuck you, you'll get over her pretty quickly.

And yes, stop pampering her and treating her like a goddess. Such behaviour causes her to lose all respect for you. You don't have to be an asshole, but you shouldn't put her on a pedestal. Playfully tease her and bullshit with her; treat her like a bratty little sister.

0h_man · 2014-04-07T04:33:21+00:00

This will be hard, since you've had the same habits for awhile. The best thing to do would be to make a new boundary.

Here's how I would do it: Pull her back to your room and start trying to sexually escalate. If she won't have it, tell her CALMLY that if she doesn't, the relationship is over. Let her know you have other options as well.

At this point she'll probably get really bitchy. Maintain your calmness and frame. Tell her she has a day to decide, then let her go home. Cut off contact. She'll probably try to call and send angry/demeaning texts:

"Is this all I am to you? Just a Sex object?" "You're just as shitty as all the other guys!" "You're not even that hot!" etc.

DO NOT RESPOND UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE.

After a day, She'll either:

a) Agree to end the relationship b/c of religious reasons or some weird girl shit.

b) Agree and make the sex.

Dread game at it's best. I wish I had TRP back in high school. Good luck OP, whatever you decide.

rj88631 · 2014-04-07T06:31:44+00:00

Don't waste high school. Either make it happen within the week or move on. Do not be ashamed about what you want. That not only keeps you from getting what you want but women can smell fucking shame and it dries them up. Girls respond to men who go for what they want and take what they want. She will respect you more for breaking it off because you were honest about wanting sex more than any of this pedestal shit going on now. This princess shit will lead to her eventually dumping you and hopping on another cock within 72 hours of breakup.

Another thing, echoing other comments made here, the slut shaming is strong in high school, be a fucking cool player and it will pay dividends. The guys who could keep their mouths shut fucking drowned in pussy. "I don't kiss and tell," is an instant tingles line. It deactivates that slutshaming danger sensor and kicks into overdrive preselection.

eccentricrealist · 2014-04-07T03:45:45+00:00

Seduce her. If she doesn't bend over to your will (and bend over), stop pampering her. Try again in a week. No dice? A month. No dice? Next.

[deleted] · 2014-04-07T12:50:38+00:00

I am in highschool

Dude how old is the girl? She could be anywhere from 13 to 18. Being that you didn't give her age if you're wanting sex, and she isn't, then move on.

You want to bang the school slut, then great. Run game on her. I may be alone on this but I can't, in good conscience, give advice or tips on how to try dread or other tactics on a girl if she's 13 or 14.

In the meantime work on your self and find some new sports/clubs/hobbies that you enjoy and see if you meet other girls who are willing and ready to give it up to you.

bleh321 · 2014-04-07T07:13:37+00:00

You lack experience. You've been reading TRP the past few months but I doubt how much of it you have internalised and applied to your relationship/attitude.

Think why you are working to improve your SMV by lifting/dressing yourself? You want to get LAID

So start by sexualising all your conversations. EXAMPLE: I never stop to turn all my conversations with my LTR into a sexualised tone through innuendos and suggestive commentary. Treat her like sex object, slap her ass etc

Back to basics..... ESCALATE, ESCALATE, ESCALATE. Your comfort level is over 9000 right now, you're basically a beta orbiter.

Being so young, work towards the maximum 3 dates to get a bang - any more you NEXT that girl and move on. Relationships built on lust are the best ones in my experience.

You are the PRIZE, you do not have time to play games to get sex because you have prioritised other things in life beyond getting a girl. Therefore you are too busy to deal with shit tests - aka dismissive attitude = their loss

Work on your texting game (high usage at that age) and attitudes of indifference and aloofness.

And then.... when the pussy rains, it pours. I wish I was back in highschool + TRP

alex-zheng · 2014-04-07T04:46:28+00:00

If it were me in this situation ?

I'd initiate affection with her and see how far I could go. I'd do it in all manner of places. She will learn that this is how I show my love for her. The dinners and opportunities to dress up can be fun, but she'll be looking forward to being alone with me first and foremost.

It's ok to treat her with great love. You could say to pamper her. But don't let this pampering come unearned.

Seeing no real objections about the relationship.. I say you keep working on it. Go all the way.. Ha

[deleted] · 2014-04-07T05:28:29+00:00

Should I just end it?

Yes.

And wear a condom.

PrinceofEden23 · 2014-04-07T03:37:11+00:00

Ask her if she wants the D, if she doesn't tell her to GTFO, and go get some. There's nothing worse then wasted opportunity.

FinalEquin0x · 2014-04-07T06:43:11+00:00

Coming from another fellow high schooler, I believe the advice varies depending on the girl.

You have general kinds of girls in high schools:

Sluts
That awkward middle place
Religious/moral

If your girl is either of the top two, I'd say bang her. Certainly have been dating long enough.

Religious RP girls on the other hand, if she is a legitimately good girl that seems to have good character, truly is devoted enough to her religion which believes in abstinence, and is willing to be the first mate to your captain, I'd marry her right out of high school (also, assuming she is hot).

Keep in mind there are exceptions to every rule (some religious girls don't care about abstinence).

Base your moves off of your judgment in the end. Follow your own advice, be a man.

Good luck!

mr_throwz · 2014-04-07T10:38:37+00:00

Now you know what NOT to do/put up with in the future.

The best part about this is that when it comes time to graduate, she'll dump you because "you're growing apart" and then she'll jump on the first dick that presents itself at Uni.

Ahrius · 2014-04-07T11:00:13+00:00

She gets everything she wants from you without giving up the pussy.

Why should she give it up?

What's her motivation?

Relationships are suppose to be about give and take. If all you're doing is giving, why should she change that?

This is where you need to lock down your penis and take mental control of the situation: Stop pampering her. Tell her you're fed up with this bullshit and how after a year and a half the relationship hasn't gone anywhere. Tell her this needs to change or you're walking because you are worth too much be stringed along like a horse following a carrot. This is the dread game.

It will be hard - you will be plagued with fear that she calls your bluff and all of a sudden you're no longer with this amazing girl, BUT WAIT!!! Have confidence. 99% of the time, she'll bite and you can move on as a couple.

IF she doesn't and decides to call you on it... what do you care? You have women tripping over themselves to get you. It's time to move on, one way or another.

Mustaka · 2014-04-07T14:46:13+00:00

I tell you exactly how this is going to end for you. She will get drunk one night and shag some guy at a house party. You have effectively been friend zoned with slight benefits.

1independentmale · 2014-04-07T20:55:43+00:00

and treat her like a goddess.

There's your problem.

I pamper her.

Why? What does she bring to the table? A personality? We both know that's not true. What has she ever done for you? Why do you put her on a pedestal and do everything you can to make her happy? Do you even know?

I do. It's because she has a pussy. That's the only reason and, ironically, you're not even getting access to it. Look, everything you do for this bitch - or any girl in general - she takes for granted. You think you're making her happy, here's what she's thinking: "Look at this dumb monkey dance. Look at the power and control I have over him. He showers me with gifts and pleasantries for no reason at all. Hell, I can act like a moody bitch and he still jumps for me." You're training her to expect this ridiculous behavior.

She isn't a goddess, she doesn't deserve to be treated like one and if we're all being honest here, she really doesn't want to be treated like one. Stop trying to prove yourself to her. She's not better than you. None of them are. You're better. You're the man. You're the shit. You get shit done. If life is going to be amazing it's going to be through your effort, not hers.

Take a good, hard look at yourself in the mirror tonight and repeat after me: "I will never, ever put a woman above me again." Then follow through.

The less your pamper and pedestalize, the more you just "do you", the happier you will be, the more respect you will demand and more pussy you will get.

[deleted] · 2014-04-07T07:27:31+00:00

No, don't end it. As soon as you end it, you'll be seen chasing other girls, and that's undesirable.

Put up the facade while flirting with other girls. Get them to 'seduce' you. If your gf calls you out, act innocent. If she breaks up with you, act happy because now you can chase pussy full out.

Make it so that either way, you win.

cascadecombo · 2014-04-07T05:35:54+00:00

Basically what has been said here, explain what you want and what will happen if you are unable to get it. You will simply look for someone else who will give you what you want.

On that same note, if you do that and split, don't be surprised when she puts out for the next guy within the month.

**all this assuming your not a troll.

dub121686 · 2014-04-07T06:17:09+00:00

Terminate relationship. Be 18. Do whatever you want because you're going and caught the problems before you got too old

widec · 2014-04-07T06:20:11+00:00

Dread game might work for your situation.

[deleted] · 2014-04-07T06:43:25+00:00

End it. It's more possible to start anew than it is to fix your broken relationship. Why the fuck are you giving so much without getting anything in return?

FortunateBum · 2014-04-07T07:08:52+00:00

From a game theory perspective, you want to stick your penis into the max number of vaginas, you will cheat.

Your gfs preselection will enable you to lay much pipe.

If word gets around that you're cheating, it'll only get you more tail. If she dumps you because she finds out you cheated, you will become even more famous and get more tail.

Do what thou will.

[deleted] · 2014-04-07T09:24:17+00:00

Jesus man, she's got you on a leash. Unless she is a religious nut, it's not normal to go for that long without sex in a relationship. Dump her, make yourself avaliable to other women, read the sidebar. They way you put the last sentence make me think you've been having doubts for a long time. Well, then all this time has been wasted.

lulckygas · 2014-04-07T11:12:11+00:00

IMO You're more likely to bang this girl if you leave her and she finds out you can bang other girls.

[deleted] · 2014-04-07T12:08:50+00:00

Meh. let her know you want to fuck her. If she won't, go be with someone who will.

1NV0K3R · 2014-04-07T14:08:12+00:00

I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for over a year and a half.

I was in one for two years buddy, all I got were HJ's

I'm in highschool

Oh that answers that question

What do I do?

You have sex with every girl in your class. I thought this was obvious.

RedPillJohnny · 2014-04-07T14:26:07+00:00

I was with a girl for 6 months or so in high school. she refused to have sex with me and I of course never pushed because I was brainwashed into being mister blue pill nice guy feminist sympathizer...she broke up with me after her parents intimidated her into it and I got laid from another chick within 3 weeks! As much as I cared for her our relationship was a waste of time as my life and our time together was held in stasis.

ONEITIS is a sickness and there is a cure...say no more.

slcjosh · 2014-04-07T17:15:21+00:00

dread game homie. Let her see you interacting with new females. These chicks wanting to blow you will trigger her to turn up the heat or to get the fuck out of your life.

Id still say dump her and hang out with these other chicks that will require absolutely ZERO effort.

nysyn · 2014-04-07T17:27:27+00:00

end it. Go bang 10 other girls, then decide if you really want her.

bradyo2 · 2014-04-07T21:08:41+00:00

Dude, the only way it's acceptable to have a girlfriend for a year and a half and not get past 2nd base is if you're 12. Dump her, and get your dick wet now.

[deleted] · 2014-04-07T21:10:41+00:00

You're giving her what she wants, she doesn't feel the need to give you what you want. If she really loves you she'll know, but right now she's got you down as a doormat, easy attention. Start saying "no" more, stop letting her take you for granted. If she's not prepared to let you have what you want she's not worth your time. Let her find another sucker.

mbillion · 2014-04-07T22:31:28+00:00

you are young little man, so do not sweat the small stuff, but if your eyes are wandering so are your emotions. Do not forget your raincoat when you leave

PlanB_pedofile · 2014-04-08T00:12:26+00:00

Is sex really the issue?

second, are you looking for endgame material or shorterm or what? and most of all IS THIS GIRL EVEN WORTH IT!?

By what I mean by "Is this girl worth it" is when given the option of literally waiting till marriage (gasp i know) is this girl truly the wife material you are willing to put up with and wait till you're in your 20's to soak your dick for and if she's really the one that is worthy to wait for.

In my life I've encountered 1 girl out of a school of 400 that I can honestly say was ever worth waiting for (I obviously didn't wait and spent last bit of HS and college chasing tail). She was a very conservative religious gal. Long hair, wore dresses every day, modeled herself after femininity, outspoken against feminism, life goal was to be a 'homemaker and stay at home mom', came from a traditional family, placed biblical values and strongly believed in gender roles, ate like a lady, modeled herself after historical women (she had a thing for 1890's culture), well educated, read books instead of internet, found no interest in television. You bet she was waiting for marriage and will was willing to next anyone that didn't respect those wishes. I had a choice to give into those values....

But I couldn't wait so I ended up dating someone else who got me laid well through highschool and college. The amount of sex I had placed me at a level of porn star with sex sprees maxing out at 5 days in 1 week being a record (The little cannon couldn't fire any more after that many). Me and the sex succubus had our fun but didn't last. She cheated, broke my heart, left me with a massive debt with nothing to show for it but a few phenomenal wild bedroom stories.

Fast forward 12 years, my conservative values angel finally joined facebook (about 9 years late). Of course I friended her, she got her wish. A nice man who shares the same religious values, waited for marriage (4 year engagement), 2 kids, stay at home housewife, both very involved in church and community. Her values rewarded her. An A+ quality woman with an A+ quality man.

Where am I at? off and on here and there, recovering from mistakes with bad women, best skill I learned from it all is being able to give orgasms with my dick and discovering TheRedPill. The pill taught me that some people need to learn this shit the hard way, while others don't need to learn it because they've been living the red pill all their lives.

Choice is yours mate. Is she worth waiting for and if not, then cut her loose and enjoy a floozy. Just know full well that there's no going back on some decisions.

BluepillProfessor · 2014-04-08T04:06:08+00:00

Dread.

[deleted] · 2014-04-07T09:58:15+00:00

been in a relationship with my girlfriend for over a year and a half

haven't gotten past second base.

u wot m8? This is fucking ridiculous.

dad has trained me to be the kind of boyfriend that other guys hate, fancy dinners, nice gifts, dressing up and going to events, all of that shit.

Your dad is an A grade faggot, tell him he's the reason your life fucking sucks. Then forget that pathetic excuse of a father, and tell your gf that if she doesn't fuck you, you're gonna leave her. Then stick to it.

bigyellowtwinki · 2014-04-07T05:36:25+00:00

You're such a nice guy she probably would feel like a slut if you slept together. She may also not get any tingles from you. You're stuck up with her because you've done so many good things to her and created a powerful emotional connection (oxytocin rather than dopamine). To be honest, I think you should just coldheartedly break up with her. Why? Because you have a long way to go in becoming a bad boy and young girls absolutely swoon over bad boys. If you destroy your relationship with her you will give yourself a massive leap toward asshole game that you presently lack.

dirtyratchet · 2014-04-07T21:39:12+00:00

Start by asking some people who have actually touched a woman for advice instead of this group of bitter 30 year old virgin pathetic losers. Getting off dumb shit like this early is the best decision you can make.

[deleted] · 2014-04-07T04:45:50+00:00

Date me and ill suck that dick every night.

Title	A year and a half without sex
Author	PlantNutrient
Upvotes	37
Comments	78
Date	April 7, 2014 3:23 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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A year and a half without sex

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