With an ingrained abundance mentality, the natural progression is to increase efficiency.

1) Know What You Want

The very first step is knowing precisely what you want. Not some nebulous idea about "maybe marriage and kids one day" or "maybe be a playboy on a yacht in my 40's, but if I find the right women.... blah blah blah".

Be clear in what you want. Do you want a child? Do you know if you're fertile? Do you want a wife, a girlfriend, a live-in au pair? Do you want to sleep around until your 50's and then find a 30 year old wife?

If you want a wife or LTR, what traits specifically are you looking for and what are your deal breakers? Do you need her to be religious or atheist? Do you want her to donate to charity, or to be a tough chick on your side defending you (red flags aside)? Do you need a sweet attitude? Do you want a southern bell? Do you want someone who has a certain type of friends? Do you want her to have the same hobbies as you, or maybe introduce you to new hobbies? Do you care how much time she spends with you? Do you want her to be okay with you hanging out with your boys (this one is rhetorical)?

2) Be Efficient

Once you're clear about what you want, be efficient. Shit test women in your own way.

For example, hobbies in a LTR. If you want her to be interested in cooking, invite her to a cooking class and see how she acts with you; gauge her enthusiasm. Come up with your own ways to test if she meets your criteria.

You have to know which are deal breakers (attitude is a big one for me), and which are amenable traits (having the same hobbies is not a deal breaker for me; but willingness to trying new hobbies and experiences is).

There is an extraordinary number of women in this world, and if one does not meet your criteria, have the balls to move on, quickly, efficiently, and coldly. Find somebody new. Turn the shit test game on them, and filter out women. Don't try to change them.

With a true abundance mentality, you should be willing to drop a woman who doesn't meet your standards, at the drop of a hat.

Eventually you'll become so coldly efficient at determining if a women has what you're looking for, that you'll settle on exactly what you want.

But you must know what your standards are.

Warning

A note of caution: Don't mope around if you haven't found one who has met your standards yet.

If this happens, firstly look inwards and see if your standards are too strict.

If they aren't, then look inwards and see if you're not being efficient enough. How long do you need to know somebody for until you know if she meets your standards? Can you more efficiently test the deal breakers? Maybe the "most important" deal breaker should be tested first, hierarchically.

Look inwards to see if you can improve yourself to become more attractive to a girl who meets all your criteria.

Then once you've found someone who passes all your deal breaker tests, you can start looking to see if she has that extra icing on top, and has the traits you want which aren't deal breakers. That will be a judgement call based on how many of your desired traits she has, versus the risk of starting the filtering process again.

TLDR

Know what you want, know what are deal breakers and what aren't, and efficiently test new women and drop women who don't meet your predefined criteria.

This is your life. Don't waste your most valuable asset, your precious time, on a scarcity mentality.