This simple one liner will re-frame the situation in to your control anytime someone gives you a command. You've heard it all your life, probably many times when you were a child. Here's the line:

What's the magic word?

Ill give you a few example of when i have used this phrase in the past.

Practice had just ended and we were all cleaning up the field. one girl turns to me and says "Hey put these poles in the shed." (I was already going to do that, but now if I put up the poles, it would seem as though I was taking orders from her, a girl who had no authority over me.) Me: "What's the magic worrddd? (said playfully with a smile) her: "plleeassseeeee" Me: puts away poles

When this girl commanded me to put away the equipment, she was attempting to extend her frame on to me, where she would be the leader and i the follower. When I returned by saying my line, it exerted my frame (I don't take orders/be nice and polite) on to her. Since this line is a very simple command, most people will simply say please, and fit into your frame, I have yet to meet someone who says "no" when I ask them for the magic word.

This line will work anytime someone who does not have explicit authority over you tells you to do something.

One time at work, we ran low on ice, and my co-worker, who was the same rank as me and had no authority over me said "Hey run grab some ice." (attempt to extend frame as him being the leader) Me: "What's the magic word?" (bitch get in my frame or I ain't doing your shit) Him: "please" (submits to my fame).

Now be smart, if my boss had come over and told me to get ice, i simply would have done it. If you are commanded to do something by a boss/professor/doctor/person who is actually in charge of you, don't ask for the magic word, just do it. If someone who isn't in charge of you tells you to do something (that needs to be done anyway) simply ask for the magic word as an easy way to put him/her into your frame.

In both of these examples, the action i was told to do needed to be done anyway, so saying "no" wasn't really an option, it would have made me just seem like a dick, and not a "hot alpha asshole" but more like the "screw that guy he doesn't pull hos own weight and no one likes him" type asshole. If commanded to do something that you don't have to do, or that the commander should do, simply say no. An example would be if a guy told you to throw away his trash. I don't care what words he says I ain't his maid, he can do it himself. Or the classic "hold my stuff" line said by a girl. just say no, because in both of these situations you have no obligation to perform either of these tasks. New guys , you are probably still being bossed around a lot by your peers, as they were all used to you being there bitch. Try saying this next time someone tells you to do something, I can almost guarantee they will fall into your frame, and next time they will ask instead of commanding you.

Have you used the "whats the magic word" line in the past? Do you have other easy ways to re-frame commands? Please comment and share your tips and experiences.