Another Reason Why You Should Not Think About Getting Married

Okay fellas, hopefully you've all read about divorce-rape, hypergamy, and all that. I'm not here to reinvent the wheel.

In fact, I'm not even going to tell you to NOT get married.

I'm going to tell you why you should not THINK about marriage.

So, most of us still chase tail. We like getting laid. And, sometimes, we like a relationship with what seems to be (at the time) a really cool woman. And still others sit at one pole or another, i.e., just want to get laid or just want a girlfriend/future wife.

We all have "to do" lists in life. At least we should. A man should develop his intellect, talents, physique, sense of style, and so on. He may have traveling, writing the Great American Novel, or whatnot also on his list.

But what happens if he puts "find a great girl and get married" on that list?

Lots of bad things.

First and foremost, he'll put up with all sorts of female BS he would NEVER put up with from a guy or anyone else. Stringing you along? I'll chase her because I eventually need a wife. Girlfriend being disrespectful, especially in front of others? Overlook it because she might be that future wife I want. Bad sex and she's not interested in getting better? I'll put up with it because I'm afraid of being alone. She throws unsubstantiated and ridiculous accusations of flirting/cheating with another girl? Explain and explain why she's wrong and hope against hope that maybe she'll change because I "wub" her and am afraid of being alone.

If you have "getting married" on your to do list, you will be more likely to put with up this crap, and you'll be miserable in the long run for it.

Also, close to the first, another reason to keep getting married off your to do list is that you'll get into relationships you shouldn't. That party-girl might be fun to go out with and bang, but if you expect impending maturity, respect, and fidelity to eventually come from her, you're betting against the odds. If you are looking for "the one", you are more likely to overlook/miss those BPD traits that should make you RUN!! Later, you'll be on these boards and/or at a counselor wondering how she made you almost lose your mind (or worse, in jail on trumped up DV charges).

Finally, let's say you escape all of that and find that nice sweet girl without the redflags and you believe you've found the perfect girl to wife up because that's what you always wanted. She's sweet, demure, responsible, fucks okay, wants kids, and comes from a good stable family.

Because getting married is on you to do list and here's one finally, FINALLY!!!, that seems reasonably sane, you go for it. Ten years later, you have 3.5 kids, a mortgage, a 40 hour a week job (she has one too...bills, career, modern woman you know!), and a nice herbly wardrobe.

When was the last time you saw your buddies?

When was the last time you went out and danced all nigh to a live band?

Has she gotten rid of all your old stuff yet?

How are those khakis and izods working out for you?

Still lifting? Didn't think so.

Like changing shitty diapers at 3am? Didn't think so.

When was the last time your entire day/weekend was not scheduled around work, picking up the kids at soccer practice, and going to see her parents? Was that fun? Didn't think so.

How's the sex? Pretty much a chore now, right? Can you remember the last blow job you got to completing? Didn't think so...heck, can you remember the last time your cock was near her mouth?

Wifey still kept up her appearances? Didn't think so.

Your desire to bang hot tail in a skirt hasn't ever left, has it?

How many times in the last year have you had to turn down your buddies to do something fun because of either family obligations or because wifey would be pissed? You probably have lost track.

Has the routine of daily family life made you ignore your growing belly and shitty "safe" haircut? Probably.

Have you lost control of the household, the rules, the finances? Likely.

Look at your wife...still lusting after her? Really??

Are your "fun" times organized what she wants to do and includes the kids? Did you have fun, really?

When was the last time you slept in and did whatever the hell you wanted to?

Miss happy hour? Thought so.

How are your flirting skills? Rusty? Have you, just for fun, tried to turn them on with a single woman around and fallen flat on your face? Probably. Feeling manly? Didn't think so.

I could go on.

My point is that when your life's plan includes marriage by default, you are setting yourself up for a series of actions, situations, conditions, and so on that will eat away at you and your balls will shrivel.

If you do not have marriage on your to do list but still do not discount it out of hand, then you'll not put up with low quality women, with women's shitty behavior, and as a result the odds that you never end up in a crappy relationship that requires the law, alimony, child support, or just heartbreak go up.

If you have marriage on your to do list, you've lowered your price as a future mate. She'll not have to work much to get you and/or prove herself.

You've become low hanging fruit.

You're willing to put at risk all those things that you have worked at to make you "you."

You are willing to sacrifice your independence and pursuits of masculine pleasures for a shot at a pipedream that still leaves most people disappointed or even crushed. How many awesome marriages have you really seen? Not many, no doubt.

You shouldn't WANT to get married. If you do, you are stacking the odds against yourself.

It still might happen, but don't set yourself up for failure.

But if marriage is NOT on your to do list, guess what?

You do what you want.

You make your own rules.

You become choosier about what women are worth your time.

You walk away much more easily, which all the RedPill/PUA stuff says is one of the most attractive traits men can have.

You have extra money to spend on things you want.

You can constantly keep your seduction skills up.

Your attitude toward marriage should be the same as toward women: aloof, indifferent, outcome independent. Live for yourself and make women prove themselves to you. Make them bring something other than their gold vaginas to the table. You'll become solid and you'll not be a pushover. That oneitis that turns you into a pussy almost never strikes anymore....you've been there and realize the illusion that it is.

None of this will make women lose attraction to you. If you keep yourself in shape and your interests up, it will do the opposite.