Taking wife out. First shit test she tries real cute to say she made a mistake at work resulting in her owing them 10 euro. (She basically stole it but the hamstering was slightly amusing) Asks to borrow 10 which is not a problem but I refuse on the principle that she knows this is a big fuck up on her part. By the time I can act good to her again she just asks for the money again and I decide to cancel our early plans and sit her down to a drink to talk about money issues.
I lay a lot of shit out and get her to agree to a joint savings account that will be peanuts to me but enough to fall back on for the shit she regularly can't afford at the end of the month. Shes young and sucks at budgeting. She kicks and scream the whole convo through with the usual emotional jabs like "you're such a little boy" (the one who is offering joint financial instruments) but eventually agrees.
We go shopping for her grandpa's birthday. Go for dinner. Second shit test is to complain how unfair it is I make more money and won't help her when she needs it. Hold frame and relate to how she needs to build financial trust with me (we are newly married) and until she stops acting like a gold digger I'm going to deny her on principle. Eventually this back and forth ends when I made a point on how many "gifts" she buys me and I land one back on how many of those I paid for when she said she'd get me back and never did. I can't eat I'm so disgusted with her gold digging rationalizations and I basically ignore her while she trails me for an hour in town.
We go to one lounge and I make small talk over wine but ignore her alot between this. By the end of the night I know this is certainly the worst date I have ever been on and the toughest I have ever treated a girl out on the town all gussied up.
On our way home she finally starts hugging me and looking at me with these big eyes and says she feels mad in love with me and thinks her endorphins are flowing or whatever. Proof that sticking to your guns confidently when you stand on principle is better than giving in just a little to appease a "good date" when she expects to be treated like a princess.
tl;dr - 4 hours of grueling date diverts into serious financial discussion and ignoring her while she swallows reality. Positions me as a respectable leader in her eyes. Commit to frame twice as much as you commit to her.
edit: one word out of place