Cherchez La Femme

“ Cherchez la femme, pardieu! Cherchez la femme!”

-“The Mohicans of Paris” by Alexandre Dumas.

The French have a wonderful expression: “Cherchez la femme!” It translates as “Look for the woman.” How many times have you known a guy who suddenly starts acting out of character? How many times is there some new woman in his life when that happens?

Those Frenchies were on to something.

“Steve never comes out with us anymore.”

“Cherchez la femme.”

“Tom has quit drinking and has started going to church.”

“Cherchez la femme.”

“I’m always broke these days.”

“Cherchez la femme.”

In English we would use a far less couth saying: “His girlfriend is leading him around by the dick.” Less poetic, but just as accurate.

Beautiful Women Can Make You Do Things You Don’t Want To Do.

When a woman is particularly beautiful – or when she is your only source of pussy – you may find yourself doing things you don’t want to do, spending money you don’t want to spend, and caving into demands that you don’t want to cave in to.

Compromise is one thing; appeasement is not.

How does your Uncle Vaz handle such situations? He dumps the girl.

Women who hint too strongly or openly about “gifts”? Dumped.

Women who try to nag me into doing things I have no interest in? Dumped.

Women who try to strip mine my wallet? Dumped, hard, at maximum velocity.

And so on. This becomes much easier to do the more abundance, or at least abundance mentality, that you have. And when you do, you will feel a weight lifted from you.

What is going on my tombstone? “If you were maintaining sexual relationships with multiple women, none of this would be a problem.”

I once broke up with a woman who went on to become a Playboy Playmate because we were making each other crazy. More specifically because she was making me crazy with her ridiculous demands and I was making her more so because she wasn't used to guys pushing back on her crazy, which I did, hard. She had a habit of threatening to leave if I didn’t comply.

So I called her bluff.

Calling Her Bluff

Call her bluff, but you have to be ready to walk, which in this case, I was. There was just so much chaos.

Her: “Well I will just go back home then!”

Me: “Ok. Maybe you should.”

She never saw this coming and immediately switched into crisis mode because replacing me wasn’t going to be easy. She started peppering me with questions about my likes and dislikes, if only to fill the silence. The second or third one was, for some unknown reason, about whether I liked golf or not. I have no idea why, other than she was flailing around. I mean, golf is fine for those who like it, but that does not include me.

I replied, with a chuckle, “Have you ever seen golf clubs at my house? Have you ever heard me mention golf once in conversation? You don’t really know me at all, do you?”

Anyway, she was visiting for another day or so, and in order to preserve the peace, I waited to dump her, and then I did.

Her: "Guys don't break up with me!"

Me: "I just did."

Also Me: "You can’t be happy with things. I’ve seen how upset that you get. And it’s making me crazy, too. Why keep torturing each other."

The Coup de Grace: "We’re both good matches, just not for each other."

^ This (sometimes) takes the sting of rejection out of, well, rejection.

Subsequently, she tried to get back together with me, I think for the sole purpose of pulling off a "revenge breakup", but I declined. Sure, I probably could have fucked her again, but I have to at least like the girl as a person and she had burned that out of me. She made sure that I knew she became a Playmate, and texted me to tell me, in a backhanded way, that she was engaged - a "Look what you missed out on!" move. She later dumped that fiancé, got another one, dumped him, and moved on again, as I understand it. She's also on either her 2nd or 3 set of implants. Wherever she is, I hope she is doing well, but I suspect she is as unhappy as ever.

Takeaways

-Do not do things you do not want to do, especially as a result of coercion

-Having more than one option for getting pussy will make your life easier in so many ways.

-Call her bluff, but be ready to walk

Further Reading

Abundance Mentality - Why It's Good For You.

-If You Really Want To Know, Go And Build It.

The Anna Karenina Principle and the Problem of Bad Relationships

-Sometimes, Even Good Fits Are Bad Fits.

OLTRs: What They Are, And How To Manage Them

-Open on your side, closed on hers.

Think HORIZONTALLY, Not VERTICALLY

-Don't Become the Mayor of her FriendZone.