Closure is Bullshit
As a man, you don’t need closure.
A girl either wants to fuck you or she doesn’t. A long, emotional conversation will not change this fact.
Girls, however, need to put a man they are dumping into a desexualized box and wrap a pretty bow of closure around it.
By participating in the closure process you are helping her tie the bow around your desexualized fate.
If a girl breaks up with you: Do not talk about your feelings Do not talk about her feelings Do not argue with her reasons Just accept it and grieve on your own time. This is hard.
Because a woman will never give her ACTUAL reasons for breaking up with you. She will only give you society-approved bullshit that makes her look innocent.
She will never say “you didn’t fuck me good enough” or “you’re too nice and not exciting” or “no other girl I know wants to fuck you so something must be wrong with you”.
She will say “I’m really busy with school and work and don’t have time for a relationship now” or “you’re great but I”m not ready for anything serious” or “I care about you as a friend”. Sometimes the reasons she give will be SO false, such obvious flowery bullshit, that you will feel a deep burning need to set her straight, to correct her misunderstanding.
You can’t logic a woman. You can say “okay”, walk away with a smirk and never contact her again.
Being robbed of emotionally dripping closure, she’ll always feel a little incomplete. Why didn’t he fight harder for me? Did I really not get to his emotions? Am I not as desirable to him as I thought? Is he more desirable than I thought?
Girls have egos. They WANT to know you’re emotional about her breaking up with you. It validates her. So don’t do it.
You want a girl dumping you to question her reasons, not verify them.
When a girl dumps you, you want to be able to look back on how your handled it with pride. When you give a girl closure, you give her your pride.
This isn’t my words. I saw someone link to on asktrp. https://archive.is/ENAtL