Hi guys, FCB here again. I'm sure How To Win Friends and Influence People has been discussed in the past, but I wanted to shed light on how it relates directly to the standards of RP after reading the sidebar and going monk mode for a while. For those who saw my previous post on Mark Manson's learnings, this is just a continuation of the many learnings I gained during my monk mode period.

  1. "Don't criticize, condemn, or complain" This one is pretty simple. For many of us here in the RP community, we are still in the anger phase and many others just leaving it. We are angered by the fact that our previous Nice Guy™ self didn't grant us entrance to a woman's pussy. For many of us, this first principle was/currently is hard to digest. However, after going monk for a while, I can finally start saying that I understand it. Complaining isn't going to get me friends nor is it going to get me laid. Criticizing women (however fucked up feminism is) isn't going to get us dates. What gets us dates and plates is game. So before we can approach girls, we need the right mindset. We need to rid ourselves of all that anger that had built up in the past and move forward.

  2. "The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it" I was in a silly 6-month long-distance relationship with a girl thousands of miles away from me. You know how it went. Love and that crap until I watched it all fall apart. After reading TRP and applying it in my life, I decided to end that shit right away. As an inexperienced beta fool, I decided to get into an argument. Little background though: I fell on my knees for that girl, sent her love letters, heard all her emotional crap, yaddi yadda. But you guessed what happened. That dog left me the moment I opened my mouth. So I just broke it off. After recovering from a long depression after the breakup, I could finally see things clearly. And the learning I gained was solidified after I read the book by Dale Carnegie. You can't get into arguments with girls. Nor anyone for that matter. And here at TRP we know that women are the "most mature teenager in the household." (Read: Women, the most responsible teenager in the house on the sidebar). They are excellent at emotional manipulation, just like children. So what does that mean. Well, as men, we have to hold our frame. We have to be a rock and avoid being swayed by the clashing waves of the ocean. That means we can't enter argument. Women will beat an argument the moment it begins because they don't rely on reason, only emotions. So how do we win an argument? By not entering it in the first place. If the girl decides to start it, we simply withdraw attention.

  3. "Throw down a challenge" The economy runs on competition. So does the dating game. With the introduction of abundance mentality, dread game, social proof, plate spinning, and most importantly, competition anxiety, we "throw a challenge." It's simple: women want a challenge. They don't want guys buying her flowers, doing her chores, and that crap (okay maybe they do, once they hit the wall and rode the cock carousal). They want to see that tons of other women want you. You challenge them by creating the fear that there are other women who could readily replace her. Also, it's important to note how this applies to shit testing. When a women shit tests you, she is challenging you in her own way. By applying agree and amplify, disagree and amplify, pressure flip, and so on, you challenge her back.

  4. "Call to people's mistakes indirectly" This one is really important. If the girl bitches all night long about her ex or some other drama, congratulations, you've essentially become an emotional tampon. But we don't need to take her shit. In cases such as these, we just withdraw attention. There once was a RP post that explained how we "pay attention" by one of our fellow RPers. Women need to earn our attention. We literally "pay" attention if they deserve it. By withdrawing attention (and thus calling to her mistakes indirectly), we get her hamster spinning. If the hamster spins, you have won. She is probably in one way or another dreading the consequences of her actions, if you have fully established frame within a given relationship.

  5. "Arouse in the other person an eager want" Yes, now to the fun and sexual part of it all. Obviously we can't tell our plate, "Yo let's go fuck." No, that doesn't work. We got to make her feel like having sex is her idea. But before we can do that, we have to go past her ASD. That means we got to game her and make her hamster think, "It's okay to fuck this one guy, even though it might end horribly. But I can't control it, he's just amazing at this." In terms of gaming logistics, depending on your situation, kino usually helps. For those of us not familiar with kino, it's basically when you touch a girl to sexually escalate. Other tactics such as going to multiple venues on a date (making her feel like she has known you longer than she has), applying shit test principles such as A&A, and so forth. Now how does this "arouse in the other person an eager want?" Why don't you go out and try it and tell me.

I'll be honest. I have yet to apply these learnings. I currently have zero plates (yeah I know). But that's not stopping me from putting myself out there. And RP has been a lifesaver. So thank y'all fellow RPers. Thank you for your support during my times of distress and for guiding me as I transition to an effective RP lifestyle.