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Ensure your actions drive your emotions

June 4, 2017

Imagine back to a time you felt fear rush over you.

There's a good chance that this was one of your early experiences with girls.

You got a girl's number, and you're starting to text. It goes well but all of a sudden she stops responding. An hour passes, then three hours, and before you know it a full day passes with no response.

Inexperience and scarcity mentality cause you to panic. Is she talking to someone else now? Did I say something wrong? Panic rushes over you.

This panic makes you do some pretty stupid things. You end up texting her to ask if she got your message, apologising for your last text if it sounded stupid.

Great, now you look needy and insecure, with nothing better to do than panic about whether she talks to you. Could have gone better!

You probably could have still rescued it after this, but we'll get to that thread in another post.

That's a strong example of emotions driving your actions. The feeling of panic rushed over you, and you let that take control of your actions.

You will almost always regret an action taken driven by emotion. Relax and take a deep breath.

Whenever you feel extremely strong emotions rushing over you, breathe deep into your balls and repeat after me, "My actions drive my emotions. My actions drive my emotions. My actions drive my emotions."

You're a man. A strong man. You don't let your emotions have such a strong control over you. And women respect you for it. You are an oak tree, unperturbed by the chemical whirlwind of your emotions.

Let's rewind back to the texting.

The girl you're talking to goes a bit cold on you. Instead of panicking and sending a needy text, you put the phone down, go out for a walk and don't text her for a whole day. Take a whole day off talking to her.

Then the day after that, you send a funny text about how you saw a kid eating a Krispy Kreme doughnut on your no-carb day and totally almost bribed him for a bite. Because you know that although you feel panic now, a day without your contact will make her opinion of you reset, and she'll feel intrigued by your sudden lack of attention to her, and the funny text will make her feel good, and you can use that as a strong base to start working on getting her out on another date.

Another example. You have a long day at work and feel tired. You usually go to the gym on Tuesday evenings. You know that although you feel tired now, after you have done a workout you will feel much more pumped, refreshed, and virulent. That's making your actions define your emotions.

Another example. Some cock in a fancy sports car drives up alongside you about to overtake you, and there's a speed camera up ahead. You've already been caught speeding this year, so if you speed again you'll get slapped with penalty points and a fine, probably doubling your insurance. Rather than let your ego take over and risk a big financial hit over an incident you'll probably have forgotten by tomorrow anyway, you hold your ground and stay at the speed limit as you go past the speed camera. The sports car guy does the same and slips behind you, so you 'won' this silly little encounter anyway. That's making your actions define your emotions.

TL;DR: Ensure your actions drive your emotions. You will almost always regret an action taken out of pure emotion.

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Title Ensure your actions drive your emotions
Author newls
Upvotes 63
Comments 19
Date June 4, 2017 8:14 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit /r/TheRedPill
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[–]NeoreactionSafe16 points17 points  (14 children) | Copy Link


At root it begins because you expect her to be obedient to you.

If she disobeys you (acting indifferent and nonresponsive) she is trying to gain power over you.

It's a Shit Test.

And she does it because the Blue Pill mythology has placed the female above the male and she believes she has the power to act this way.

She can be impolite, she can swear, she can spit, she can get tattoos and act as manly as she wants these days and you can't do anything about it.

There are no "manners" anymore.

Get used to women being the "Whores of Babylon".


[–]JcHgvr2 points3 points  (13 children) | Copy Link

she can get tattoos

And what's wrong with a little ink ?

[–]PreOrgasmGroanLness9 points10 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Hey man, it's an unpopular opinion right here. Why don't you get aboard the generalisation bandwagon like everyone else so you don't get downvoted?

[–]JcHgvr9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

It's not uncommon for people to look down on tattoos. I thought TRP would be above something that petty.

[–]vwzwv2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

For the most part, IMO, both getting tatoos and looking down on them is petty. I struggle with not looking down on them, especially the ones that look like free online clip art.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

deleted What is this?

[–]NeoreactionSafe5 points6 points  (8 children) | Copy Link


No guy wants to have a virgin with tattoos.

The two are opposing concepts.

Like drug usage the tattoo signals low impulse control. (slut)

It's a low SMV indicator.


[–]JcHgvr0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy Link

Not every tattoo is impulse / spur of the moment tramp stamp. Looks like PreOrgasmGroanLness was right about generalisation.

Also we hold guys o the same standard here ? Every guy who has a tattoo or does drugs is a slut with low impulse control ?

[–]NeoreactionSafe2 points3 points  (6 children) | Copy Link


It's following behavior... imitation.

Basically the Blue Pill mythology creates the emotional programming that makes the idea of body modification seem like something emotionally attractive to do.


  • "Monkey see, Monkey do."

  • "Don't forget me, I have a tattoo."


I was at a festival today and saw two heavily tattooed lesbians and thought:


  • "Those two are emotionally programmed... someone, somewhere is laughing."


[–]JcHgvr5 points6 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Ok great, how about successful people having high flying jobs and a life this sub reddit promotes that also have tattoos ?

Not to mention that the argument of monkey see money do can be used on a lot you teach here

  • Monkey see other monkey get ripped, monkey gets ripped. Remember me I have big guns.

  • Monkey see other monkey dress fashionable, monkey dresses fashionably. Remember me I have a nice shirt.

Same shit, not every tattoo is a stock tribal tattoo every dude gets. Just like not every guy with muscles it a meathead. Not every tattoo is a tramp stamp your local bar slut gets. Or a little slut princess getting a star here and there.

Here on this sub reddit we say:

  • Get ripped for yourself

  • Dress well for yourself

  • Adopt IDGAF for yourself

The list goes on.

So why can't a person get a tattoo from themselves. How many people do you pass on the street everyday who have tattoos that you'll never know about because their clothes cover them. Because they didn't get that tattoo for you to see.

And I know exactly what type of person and tattoos you are talking about. I know a girl like that. Tramp stamp above her ass in Latin. Angelina Jolie style dragon on her arm, a rose next to her pussy, the list goes on, yea I've seem them all.

[–]NeoreactionSafe0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link


What the tattoo signifies is some imitation caused by peer pressure.

In all cases you listed this is true.

Tribal identity is a good example... in a sense all the SJW are "virtue signaling" something that makes them appear as imitating something related to group norms.

All conformity is based on imitation of the peer group.

So (as a bizarre conclusion) all tattoos are in some way conforming to something.


50 years ago the only tattoos were with military guys who would put their military identity on their arm. That was without doubt a tribal tattoo.


A masculine man is by definition a man who thinks for himself and has a Frame that blocks tribal influences. A masculine man may join a tribe, but he remains a "free man" if he wishes to stay masculine.

If you join a street gang and are told by the Alpha male (the gang leader) to go fetch beer for the club you are the slave... the beta male... of the club.

Once you climb to the top of the gang you regain your free will.


This is why Chad Thundercock exists.

Chad Thundercock is masculine (thinks for himself) but would never join a group because he's a lone wolf type.

To be Alpha means group connection and dominance.

Therefore, you can achieve Alpha status in a group which requires a tattoo as entry, but it's existence proves beta obedience at some point along the way.


[–]JcHgvr0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

So does a new phone, or this seasons clothing, or a hair cut or even a good car. You can take just about any thing a person does and find couple million more who do or have exactly the same thing

And it's funny how tattoos are now conformist, given how 20 - 30 years ago you'd get a tattoo and people would shake heads at you asking you are you going to get a job now.

Also Chad Thundecock doesn't give a fuck what someone else thinks of his tattoo.

And you still talk about tattoos as something to keep on display. Ignoring the fact that most people get tattoos that are covered by their clothes on daily basis. No one's talking about getting a tattoo on your forehead.

So yeah if you got a tattoo to get into a group sure you're a conformist. But the same does not apply to a person who has a tattoo that not visible to others.

[–]NeoreactionSafe0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link


But the same does not apply to a person who has a tattoo that not visible to others.


All that's doing is hiding your shameful conformity from others view.

The "point" is that no one would just out of the blue decide to inject ink into themselves. It serves no purpose. It gathers no food. It does not enhance your health.

The only reason someone does it is because of imitation.

Monkey see, Monkey do.

Try this guy:


...he based an entire philosophy upon human imitation.


[–]newls[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I agree wth this. This shit, all of this shit written down in this sub helps but none of it should be taken at face value nor should it be taken too seriously. Have a strong sense of your own reality, apply a mental filter to things you see written down and use your common sense and social intelligence to things you see as you go through life. THAT's the kind of cool guy that people want to be around.

[–]reddttt9 points10 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

For the young ones like me, I'd recommend doing some high risk activity. Anything, even illegal ones. You'll learn the difference between real fear and useless fear like approaching that hot chick.

For those who are afraid of getting caught, do extreme sports. Even if once, just do it. And yeah, you can die but who gives a shit. You can die by going to the supermarket.

First time I skydived, just before I jumped, I was fucking scared shitless. Really, my mind was on autopilot, even with the instructor jumping with me, he said I was the one that needed to make the jump and I did. Boy, what was fear turned into something that almost made my heart fucking burst and I never felt so fucking alive and happy in my entire life. It was so life changing that approaching hot chicks turned dull and I get away with giving the most stupid of lines. It helps that I always was into sports and got good looks and already enjoyed hb8 pussy on the regular but damn, that experience was over the fucking top.

[–]newls[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Interesting thought. Something that adds a bit of a thrill and mixes things up.

It gives you some great stories too.

[–]tredpillthrowawayy2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I'm 17 so I can't go skydiving just yet, any other high risk activities you'd recommend?

[–]reddttt1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Depending on where you live, hunting is great too. Not so much of high risk itself, depending on the game you're after but an awesome experience nonetheless. Or rock climbing without ropes. Start small and with a pro at first so you can learn quickly. It sure made my mind think twice before I took any major decisions in my life.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Ok now I want to go skydiving

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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