Just today, I accomplished what I had once thought of as the near-impossible; lost my virginity. After tons of flakes, phone calls, texts, and matches with multiple women, I was able to land this one chick. Sure, I had been lifting. Sure, I bought some money and spent well on drip to match. But at the root of it, there were problems besides sex that were rooted in me; some I hadn’t fixed until months or weeks prior to the linkup, and some things I realized mere minutes prior. Here are the things that young men struggling with escalation need to realize and fix:
•There is no ‘other time’. Often times we think we should ‘take things slowly’ as a buffer for rejection, saying: “It’s fine, there’s always a next time.” She will never forgive you for being a pussy, and life won’t either. Maybe her ex texted her back, maybe she’s moving tomorrow, there are no guarantees.
•There is no ‘seduction’. It’s no mere theory that men need a certain amount of persuasiveness, or ‘game’ to get pussy, but this isn’t applicable for a hookup. I would waste time trying to get to know her, and game this bitch like I’m about to marry her; fellas, remember that you got this. She wants to fuck too, but she ain’t tryna make herself easy and available. This is why she’s putting up this show. As long as you’re the same guy as you were thru text or in person, you don’t have to outperform to get the pussy. Be minimal.
•Make it clear what you want. Another buffer for rejection, dudes will often act as though they’re not trying to get sex, as some runaround way of showing her they’re not only there for sex. Buddy, she only wants you for dick; drop it off and close up shop, don’t ever deny your desires.
•Set rules Don’t settle for less than you expected. Catfish? No niceties involved. Blocked. Genuinely disrespectful? Leave. NDTF? Boot her. Set your rules, and stand by them because you deserve it.
•Be persistent. As I mentioned in one of the other points, the dog-and-pony show she puts up isn’t to make your life hard, but to validate her anti-sluttiness. The ASD will kick, but don’t kick back. Don’t be discouraged, just think that she’s playing her little role well. Don’t try harder, just retry. At the 2nd or 3rd try, she will most definitely be dtf. Seize your opportunity here. Most importantly, don’t even appear to be upset, or quiet. She may give you the excuse of her ex, her parents, her damn dog as a reason to not wanna fuck, but don’t even let her finish the sentence. Just segue: “So what you think about the Raptors game?” Remember, it’s a game. Let her play her little role, when you strip the panties down and the pussy is shaved, you’ll know for a fact that she was expecting you.
•Don’t overthink it. Remember buddy, you got this.
I wanna thank redditor u/ForeverKarlMalone for inspiring me to write this. I may have not formatted it well or written as deeply as the rest of y’all, I hope you guys enjoy my perspective of knowledge and give me some advice where it’s due.