Long post. TL;DR met two girls in a bar simultaneously (they were friends) and was trying to piece together who was interested in me, who wasn't and how to close. Skip to the bottom for my "what I did well, what I could improve on"

Hopefully this makes sense. It's late, but I wanted to share while it's still relatively fresh.

The bar is not my forte. I'm not that tall and don't particularly stand out in the bar scene, but god damn if I don't like getting out there and trying stuff.

Here, there were some things I think I did really well, and other things I think I could have done a lot better.

I was out with some buddies and there's a small dance floor. I got some moves and I always like to make a fool of myself, giving no fucks, dancing a bit and seeing who notices.

A couple of girls noticed and my friend said I should go and talk. I didn't. Not yet, at least.

We move off the dance floor and these two girls inch their way closer to our group. I call attention to it.

After a few minutes I walk up to these two girls. "OK, I noticed you guys hovering around us. You're obviously attracted to me or my friends."

We'll call them Jasmine and Pocahontas. Jasmine immediately bursts out laughing "no! What do you mean!"

"Don't think I didn't notice. Look, I'm giving you the chance to live out whatever fantasy you've been having in your mind for the last ten minutes. [more laughter] So tell me who it is, and yes, I am an acceptable answer."

It was hard to tell exactly if it was Jasmine or Pocahontas who liked me. Pocahontas was a little friendlier to the touch - she broke the touch barrier almost immediately.

Jasmine wasn't giving me much to work with, so I focused a bit on Pocahontas. A little more touching, some sexual comments to gauge her reaction (I fucking love doing this - seeing how far I can push it), that sort of thing.

Both girls were very entertaining, shit tests galore which I just agreed and amplified. God that shit is fun. Fishing is fun. I digress.

Pocahontas was definitely flirtier, but it was in such a way that almost seemed canned. Jasmine was much more genuine of a person upon first interactions.

It's just the three of us chatting, dancing, drinking. I made them laugh a lot and touched them here and there, making sure I wasn't landing on that friends ladder (all the sexual comments). I played them off each other, flirted with each, danced a little with each.

Then a group of dudes showed up that these 2 knew. Apparently one guy had recently dated one of their friends. They were NOT happy to see these guys, but they were cordial and did what they had to do. These guys orbited around for the remainder of the night.

But this turned the whole thing kind of sour. I got the sense from Pocahontas that she was just a big flirt, sunbathing in those validation rays, and Jasmine was much more entertaining to interact with. So I zeroed in on her.

Was I more attracted to Pocahontas? Sure. But something about the way she carried herself turned me off and I didn't want to waste my time, and I was having more fun joking around with Jasmine anyway. And Jasmine was pretty cute too. I decided I liked her better. And I could tell by the way she looked at me, talked to me, reacted to me, etc, that she was interested.

So I'm talking to Jasmine and then, what I like to call The Gay Interlude happens.

A guy says to me "are you gay?" I say no. He's disappointed. Then he proceeds to explain to Jasmine and Pocahontas why I'm "a good fuck." Points out my biceps, face, body, etc. I didn't mind. Gay pre-selection? I'll take it? Jasmine even says, about the gay guy "he's definitely a bottom" and I made some snide remark about being aggressive in bed.

After that, my conversations with Jasmine escalated a bit. She accused me of not being interested in her, and only Pocahontas. This is where I didn't like that now I was feeling like I had to convince a girl that I liked her.

I wasn't exactly sure how to manage this situation. I couldn't go back to Pocahontas even though she was more receptive, and continuing on with Jasmine was a risk.

She admitted to thinking I was the cute one in the group. And I called them out on it (which they loved), but I was "clearly more interested in Pocahontas" and that was that. So I sweet talked her for a bit and she eventually gave in. I could tell when it happened too. She realized that she was wrong and I was right.

[After my time on Tinder I've gotten good at saying shit and watching if they receive my comments as if I were alpha, or react as if I were beta. Jasmine reacted both ways. Sometimes she loved me being aggressive and handsy, other times a comment would make her stop in her tracks. That was the reason I didn't completely walk away]

Pocahontas was dancing with some dude, whatever.

Eventually, after dancing intimately for a while with Jasmine, I went for the kiss. She pulled away "did you just try to kiss me?"

"yes"

"um, I don't kiss boys in bars" She was actually playful here. Everything she did was playful.

"we could leave the bar"

"i'm not going outside with you"

"then maybe I should just get your phone number"

"yeah, maybe you should do that"

I pull out my phone and she was ASTONISHED. Actually. So I got her number and called her right away. "Oh my god, are you one of those guys that calls right away? You're a jerk!" Slap on the shoulder as she saves my number.

And we continued to dance.

BUT: I honestly should have gone back to my buddies, who had some more female friends of ours come out, and ditched these two. But I wanted to see if I could crack the Jasmine egg. Her dancing was very enthusiastic, and her friend never tried to pull her away.

I knew in my gut nothing was going to happen but for some reason I stuck it out.

Towards the end of the night I was left alone with Pocahontas while one of these orbiter dudes went away with Jasmine to get us drinks. I danced with Pocahontas for a while and told her some of this stuff to see how she reacted. She laughed and was not surprised, and told me that Jasmine definitely liked me. Pocahontas has a random hobby, and I happened to know a few things about it and she was actually very impressed.

But now I'm dancing with Pocahontas and Jasmine is dancing with the orbiter, which I'm fine with. Let her see her friend touching me.

Afterward I pulled Jasmine over to me and she was a little off, and from her words I gathered she still thought I was into Pocahontas more. Since I was dancing with her, I guess.

Then they turned on the lights and we left. I got Jasmine's number, but I'll be shocked if I ever see either of them again. They both left together, without any guys, and Pocahontas was sober. I never saw her kiss anyone, either.

So I made it home and had a bunch of nude snapchats from a tinder girl. Cool. Life goes on.

All in all, I was actually a little confused. I don't know why I didn't just stick with Pocahontas. All the signs were there. It was just the two of them most of the time, and I was stuck in the middle. It was VERY tough to isolate until I got dancing with Jasmine, though I did have some brief alone conversations with Pocahontas.

What I did well -I approached. -I passed shit tests. -I kept laughing and kept it light. -I led the interactions. -I escalated. -I know how to dance.

What I could improve on -I think I stuck around for too long. I had SO MANY opportunities to say "you know Jasmine, fuck this. I don't have time for this." Which I did say once or twice which DID make her relent, but I probably should have just dropped them. But I was SO curious as to how it would all shake out.

-As I mentioned above in the FR, there was a period of time where I felt like I was having to "convince" her that I was interested. I didn't like this feeling. I felt like I was pleading, like she was the prize and I was the contender. This is the opposite of it should be and we all know it. I feel like if I have to be doing that, I've already lost. However, I knew she liked me and used that to my advantage.

The two comments above are kind of me feeling like I beta'd out a little bit. I could feel it while it was happening and didn't like it.

-I probably should have stuck with Pocahontas. The girls initially didn't tell me who they liked from my group, and I picked the one I liked (Pocahontas) and went for it. Then diverted because I thought I'd have a higher chance of success.

Anyway, looking forward to your thoughts! Thanks for reading if you made it all the way down here.