It has been about 3 years since I started my red pill journey and it has been a pretty wild one. Taking my SMV from being in the crapper to being advertised as one of the 18 most eligible bachelors in my city has been quite the ride.

A charity bachelor auction if you don't know is a type of fund raiser where a bunch of (hopefully) well to do women bid on what is agreed upon high value men. There is a lot of factors that go into setting the price as well as a bunch of pageantry and work that makes you appreciate the miss America contests.

I found out about the auction about 2 months ago and a friend of mine is involved with the org that puts it on, I asked him if they were looking for bachelors, he sent me a form and I filled it out. I didn't think I would be selected but I was.

This particular format was 3 preview events and then a big show on a Wednesday night at one of the top clubs in the city. Tickets were reasonable and the big event filled up with about 400+ girls drunk on the promise of objectifying men and free cosmos.

Each bachelor was encouraged to build a dream date, or was assigned one from the org, trips, spa days, wine tastings, dinner at fancy restaurants were very common in the packages. So the ladies could easily hamster that they were bidding on the package not the guy that was on stage turning them on. The usual opening line from any girl once they found out you were a bachelor was "what's in your package?" The proper response on this always was a lifting up of my jacket and and looking down and saying "well...." This never got old or failed.

The event was run by a male only charity (yeah they still exist if you look hard) which had been doing this event for many years, it was well run and the night went off without the usual last minute panic that so many events have. The only girls involved with the event were props for some of the guys on stage and a girl doing make up. It was amazing to see a group of guys work together and pull it off with no drama and good leadership. Men working together for a successful night to raise a lot of money for a good cause was really good to see.

If you do have an opportunity to be in one of these and it's run by men take it, I don't know how a women led one would do but I can't see it being as much of a well oiled machine.

The preview events were fun, the moment any girl at them found out you were a bachelor you could just about see her eyes light up. Pre-selection in action. I got a few numbers out of them, but not really anything solid as they were mostly filled with women older than I usually date.

The main event was something else entirely.

All of the bachelors dressed for the event in tuxedos, the org rented most of them, but I own my own (among the best $250 I have ever spent, bought it from a buddy who didn't need it any more) it is perfectly tailored for me and one of the local shops donated suspenders, pocket squares and bow ties that allowed some colour and differentiation from my usual traditional black tie getup.

After getting briefed, we all made our way into the crowd. Even with massively high SMV at the event many of the guys still didn't approach. I talked to EVERYONE. It was like playing on easy mode and the quality of the field was high. It seemed like every hot girl in the whole city came out for this thing. There was a smattering of cougars and trophy wives, but it was all for a good cause and you wanted to convince the girls with the cash to bid on you. Imagine a night where you don't get blown out of a set the whole night and girls are dragging you around to chat up their friends too. While I was out on the floor I met a really nice girl who was just my type. I made a note to find her after the auction and get her contact info. There was a few others I was interested in but this one stuck out in my mind amount the 50-70 other girls I interacted with.

The biggest barrier of the night was that many girls came in 5+ more girl groups that were not easy to break apart, so it was a number closing type of night.

After mingling and drinking for 2 hours it was time for the show. Each guy had a minute or 2 on stage to dance, strip, do what ever to pump up the crowd to bid.

I was in the early part of the auction and the value of my "package" was on the low end of the field, but mine was very different than most as well. The key set piece in my was a bunch of sports equipment and lessons to use it, taught by me. There is a history of the girls buying the package and taking a friend instead of the bachelor on it, I didn't want to suffer this fate so I made mine not work without me. My activity was also quite an intense one and one that I am very passionate about so I themed my whole persona around it. So while I didn't go for as much money as other guys with bigger or more attractive packages (yes you can smile here) my hope was that I would be bought by someone I would actually enjoy taking out.

This is exactly what happened.

It turned out I made enough of an impression on the girl that I said was just my type that she dropped $1000 bucks to go on a date with me. When I found out she had bought me I couldn't have been happier. My biggest fear on this was a 65 year old cougar would buy me and it would be a chore rather than a good time.

I hung out with the girl who bought me and her friends who will be joining us on the date (group dates were a focus, higher value price, better hamster food) and they were all pretty wasted on the booze that was flowing freely.

The night ended with her group leaving and a good group of people moving next door to another club. More fun was had but it's not relevant to this post.

So key take always on this:

  • I can't think of an event that will give a guy higher value, I suspect this night will be paying off for a long time as I get recognized by girls that saw me on stage.

  • I have now been invited to other exclusive events by the female run sister orgs of the male run charity. The female one is specifically high society girls 23-35 that have never been married. Think of it as a post-college sorority. I go to the first one tomorrow.

  • Building an interesting life full of hobbies, travel and work that qualifies you to be part of something like this. I had one of the lowest value careers there but still sold very well. Doctors, lawyers, CEO's, former nfl players, and even a guy that was a finalist on the bachelor was on the block with me.

  • looks count! but game counts more. Many of the guys didn't approach when the girls were dying to talk to them. I did my best to wing and help the guys out. I got bought by a girl I wanted specifically because I had talked with her before I went on stage. Some of the girls that bought other bachelors were not ones I would be happy about going out with.

  • I did this for the story and the experience and as a validation of how far I have come. I often use heartiste's male SMV test as my marker of where I have come from. I started off with a score of 3. I now after 3 years of work, many many dates, a gig as a speed dating host, a gig as a brand ambassador (model) and losing 50 lbs of fat, I now score a 19.

  • I put this up as an example of how with a whole bunch of work to change your life by taking the red pill can pay off. I wouldn't have been in this without this sub, Christian McQueen, the private man, roosh, rollo, heartiste, rok and the many other parts of this corner of the internet. The trigger event for my change? Becoming a widower and having to learn how to date from scratch and recover from that wound. In my view this was recovery complete.

I am happy to answer questions about how I got here, but I want to do my best to keep my identity quiet. I am pretty public about my dating and participation but I don't want to invite the trolls where I don't have to. Please feel free to pm me if you have something specific that you want to know that would not work in the open form.

Tl;dr: I raise a bunch of money for a great male run charity by selling myself on the auction block. Massive SMV boost and had a lot of fun.