Summary: Came across a specific sexual strategy theory that seemed extreme at first. Then I realized that it had happened to me in the past and it needed to be shared.
Well guys, apparently my hindsight is not 20/20 as I once thought. This morning, while reading /u/Clint_Redwood's post, I began nodding my head in agreement as I cruised through his analysis.
Then I read /u/NeoreactionSafe's take as to what really happened in that video.
These are excerpts from his comments:
First of all I saw that video and in my opinion the girl really wanted to set up the drama on their third year anniversary because she wanted out of the relationship.
So unlike others that might see this as a "random slutty act" in reality this was her way to get rid of the guy and break his foolish Disney love.
[...] ...so the guy who is being "cheated on" isn't really being cheated on, but being broken up with in a subtle way. For all we know the girl coached the new guy to be her White Knight and defend her from a jealous boyfriend who she wanted to leave. So as you think more deeply on it you see her side of the story. She wanted out... she picked a guy that is the boyfriends acquaintance (they knew of each other somewhat) and this was done on purpose. If the boyfriend never showed up (unlikely) then the drama she wanted would have been postponed to another time.
[...]Women use big drama to define events. Guys need to understand the message beneath the drama. The drama is typically the distraction.
The new guy might just be the White Knight we don't know. My point is that the woman creates the drama by setting the scene so that the focus is away from her. That's key. By recasting the breakup as a White Knight protecting her from the "evil ex-boyfriend" she shifts the blame away from herself so that the boyfriend only thinks of the new guy. All the emotions that were formerly directed at her ("you slut you, why can't you be my Disney princess?") are shifted towards the new guy. ("I hate that dude because he destroyed the most beautiful love that ever existed since the beginning of time") It's all about emotion. She "reoriented" the boy's emotions away from her and towards generic "other guy". In all probability the new guy bangs her once or twice and that's it... the drama is gone... and everyone is broken up. Drama creates temporary tingles... those go away after some time if there is nothing substantial to follow.
At first it seemed far fetched...
If I hadn't experienced the following, I might have dismissed the idea as a conspiracy theory. I'm willing to bet many of you have done just that.
The following will demonstrate that such an act does not have to be masterminded. Sometimes pieces simply line up when you have a pussy between your legs and all you have to do is play them correctly.
Cee the Self Proclaimed Spinster
I met Cee at college a few years ago during some on campus club meeting we were apart of. She was a 29 year old HB8 with a bangin body who was studying Philosophy. I was 25 at the time but since everyone else at school was early 20’s I was relatively sophisticated in attitude and fashion (high SMV). We got together a couple of months after our initial meeting where their was obvious mutual attraction. We would flirt in person and google chat on and off for several weeks. Now that I look back, it was her that created the opportunity for me to ask her out on our first official date (read: branch swing).
What Red Flags?
We hooked up a few times and would hang out more and more at school, plus go out to bars. As that semester came to an end, we were getting closer. I realize all the mistakes I made with Cee clearly now. By far, the biggest one was registering for classes during the same times as each other for the upcoming semester. Seeing each other 4 times a week was not ideal, as it turned out. Cee lived with her dad and younger brother, since her parents had divorced years earlier. Her dad was handsome, owned a very nice house and drove a Porsche 911 (despite of the divorce rape I'm sure occured). According to Cee, he was a womanizer, and she would mention it with disdain. Cee rarely talked about her mom, but showed me pictures. It was obvious who she got her looks from, mom was a fucking hottie. The men in the house were very cold with Cee, as if they were putting up with her because they had to. The evidence points that Cee was not only a spitting image of her mother, but the personalities were similar as well. In case you are wondering what Cee’s Philosophy in life was, it was simple: Manipulate everything and everyone to benefit Cee.
Gimme That Pink Pussy!
Her hotness, coupled with the volatility of the relationship made the sex the best I’d ever had. I remember one time after school we went to a Chili’s restaurant for a fundraiser held by some on campus club. We ate and had a few drinks and decided to check out the other bar and grills on the strip. We drank more and got into an argument over god knows what. We went outside to have a cigarette. In front of the bar was one of those curbs designated as a loading/unloading zone which was on the edge of a ridiculously busy main street. Cars were constantly dropping people off and picking them up. By the time the cigarette was done, things had become heated. She said some things that got me heated and muttering shit under my breath. Her drunk, dramatic ass did the unthinkable. She ran up to a VW Beetle with a man in the driver seat, as she yelled “omg he's gonna hurt me.” Without even waiting for his approval she opened the passenger door and jumped in. Like the lame ass white knight that he was, he immediately drove off. I bet he thought it was his lucky day. This was one of many incidents of the kind, yet it’s enough to show you her level of crazy.
Met a Bear at a Bar
The fateful night that prompted this post began just another one of our after school outings. We ended up at a dive bar we had never been to. We got pretty drunk and their are missing events between the beginning and the end of the night. However I remember clearly, both of us getting a ride home by this bear of a man in his 30’s. He was handsome and was physically very threatening. I got dropped off first. (Let the level of disrespect wash over you).
So the next day I found my own way to school but arrived late since she didn’t pick me up and wouldn’t respond to my calls/texts. I walked into some bullshit class we had together as it was about to wrap up. As I walked in she looked at me as if she was scared, just enough acting to get the attention of the class. Everyone including the professor was on alert, I immediately left the class. I went outside and began thinking what the next move was, since my backpack was still in her car from the night before. She came outside in a few minutes and we got into an argument. This bitch saw the smoke coming out of my ears and decided to throw more fuel on the fire and fan the flames. She knocked off the designer sunglasses sitting on my face and they fell on to the sand and gravel mixture below, scratching the lenses.
The Bear Wants to Brawl
They say there is no reason to hit a woman. Those who believe that with unquestioned devotion have never met Cee. The situation was already tense but this bitch tried to bait me into catching a case. I didn’t react, but in case you're cheering for Cee, don't worry she had a back up plan. The bear from the night before showed up right on time to pick her up. She hadn’t picked up her car from the previous night, which makes me wonder if he spent the night with her or he actually went to pick her up the next morning to bring her to school. Either way, he pulled up and jumped out. I stood 6 feet tall with 190 pounds of the softest dough on my frame at the time, but I’ve always had the heart to fight even if winning was not an option. This guy was there to get down, and if we scrapped it would’ve been similar to that bear attack scene from the Revenant. Unfortunately, I would not get an Oscar nod like Leo did.
In My Defense
I won’t even attempt to justify my behavior during our dealings with each other over 4 months, it was beta. It wasn't some unconditional love, Disney brand of beta though. It was a simple case of being pussy whipped. Until reading /u/NeoreactionSafe's comment, I thought the fight was the reason we parted ways. Further analysis showed that we were going to part ways one way or another and the fight was just the smoke and mirrors she used to exit my life in a dramatic way. This is how women keep you thinking about them. I bet you are wondering why she she made her move when she did. In two short weeks, we would be marking the end of the semester and the beginning of Summer.
*Anytime you learn a new theory or dynamic its smart to look to prior interactions and see if your assessment of the outcome still holds up.
*Remember that every loss is actually a lesson. This loss turned into a lesson 5 years later.
*You may cringe at your recent behavior, but the day will come when you’ll look back and laugh at yourself.
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