This story made my blood boil extra because in my beta days I was like this. Never again... God I feel so fucking stupid lol just reading it from the other side, my instinct was right even in my BP days and I could sense this stuff was happening, but couldn't actualize it into words or conscious thoughts. I'm posting this more for myself than you guys so I can come back to this on my profile later and reflect.
Link: https://archive.is/Jmqlz
So, I've never had a 'healthy' relationship. My first (and longest) relationship was a codependent mess which had insane highs and crashing lows.
Basic Push/Pull.
I deeply loved him, obsessed over him, even though in hindsight he treated me terribly, and of course it ended disastrously, taking me years to get over. I've tried dating other guys since then but either they weren't interested and just used me for sex, or I'd realise I was just using them for validation, and nothing ever lasted. I eventually gave up on dating and up until recently, I'd been happily single for about a year.
Notice how she says "I was just using them for validation". Every man would love to be used for validation if they can in return use you for sex. It's the whole premise of the friendzone and nice guys finishing last. The thing is... she only wants validation from alphas, not the beta billy in this story who I'll get to in a moment. This bitch's hamster is strong, she claims to be using the alphas when you notice that she never mentions exchanging sex to "use" the beta in this story for validation... because the beta's opinion doesn't matter.
The thing is, he's smart and funny and super nice and actually likes me. He genuinely listens to me, he cares about my interests and remembers things I've told him, and he doesn't play arbitrary relationship games (all of which I'm not used to in the slightest).
Oh wow... super nice? She must be so aroused from being treated so well. I mean, we see all these BP notions in mainstream society about how chores are the sexiest thing a man can do for foreplay and all that other shit right? Surely, this introspective and self-aware and bold empowered woman is head over heels for the guy who treated her the best... right?
However, I don't feel like I like him as much as I should. I certainly do like him and I love hanging out with him, and the romantic, intimate stuff is pretty good. But compared to past relationships, as disastrous as they were, this one feels almost ... boring in comparison.
Oof... it almost stings more when you hear females saying it. You study RP for years, almost memorize the sidebar, yet somewhere deep in side you sorta hope RP isn't true, that you're proven wrong. But once the RP lens is on your eyes, you can't ever close them.
I don't crave to be with him, I don't get wild fireworks when he kisses me, I don't feel my heart flutter when I get a text from him. I do feel a strong sense of affection that's almost a weird mix of close friendship and 'this guy is a dork and I really like kissing him'. And for the first time ever, I almost prefer just hanging out in his kitchen and making dinner together to being intimate (which is totally opposite to past relationships that were mostly built around sex).
Okay. Let me ask you guys this (newcomers). Would you rather be the guy who she gets wild fireworks for when you kiss her, who's heart flutters from just a text from you, and who prefers having sex with you than to do a chore like making dinner together? And has sex with you most of the time? Or do you wanna be the guy who she thinks of literally as a dork and a "close friend"? You need to shed BP fantasies because they're not gonna make the bitch fall head over heels for you. TRP does that, or at least it can if you utilize it properly.
So I've been wondering how much of that lack of intensity is due to him not being right for me, or if it's because he is right for me. Maybe I don't get fireworks when we kiss because he freely kisses me all the time without making me work for it. Maybe my heart doesn't flutter when he texts because I know he'll always text back without making me wait for hours on end. Maybe I don't constantly think about him and crave his presence because I know he'll be there when I need him. Maybe the intensity isn't there because I don't have to fight for his attention, or walk on eggshells, or agonise about him not being there for me. I know I feel a sense of warmth, of contentment, when I think about him, and when we're together there's not really anywhere else I'd rather be. Maybe that's enough?
That's exactly right. She doesn't get fireworks from kisses because Chad's kisses are in USD, whereas the beta's kisses are in Pesos. Showering her with affection isn't gonna make her feel the most passionate she possibly could about you. You need to understand that you need to man up and escape BP conditioning, and relearn gender dynamics and social structure from an unbiased and scientific perspective. Do you want her to constantly think about you and crave your presence? Then you heard from her own mouth what you need to do... women drop gems when complaining, they just don't realize it. I was watching Youtube vids a long time ago on fuckboys, and women who complained admitted that they felt a thrill about them and they chased them ruthlessly. You have to make her crave your attention. Oh, and this bitch is completely lying about there not being anywhere else she'd rather be... she literally admitted before that she doesn't feel the same attraction and intensity with the beta that she did with the Chads... if Chad called her up she'd easily drop the beta to spend more time with who she's really attracted to.
TLDR: A lot of newcomers will fall into the same trap I did. They'll be hesitant to apply their extensive knowledge of TRP because they crave true romance. You need to drill into your head that the BP will NOT get you to that romantic place, it'll just stifle your progress and make her lose interest and find the relationship boring. TRP is way more effective for making her attracted to you, the girl in this post admitted it over and over. I know some of you guys want love, like me, but before you get love you have to conquer the pussy sexually and get lust first. And train her to crave your kisses, affection, attention, etc. THEN you'll know what's it's like to have a girl head over heels crazy about you... and in occasional bouts of passion at that point, you can feel the most intense romantic connection you ever will. TBP doesn't get you love... TRP is way more effective for making her cherish, crave, and almost worship you.
Edit: Also forgot to mention this gem, credit to Beegoop.
I deeply loved him, obsessed over him, even though in hindsight he treated me terribly, and of course it ended disastrously, taking me years to get over.
You could read that 2 ways... one is on-the-surface, and the other is "guys, if you wanna make me deeply love you and obsess over you, here's what you do". Read between the lines.
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