Guy records his wife screaming at him because he won't take her to the lake

June 9, 2014

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Title Guy records his wife screaming at him because he won't take her to the lake
Author BustinAllKindsOfNuts
Upvotes 39
Comments 78
Date June 9, 2014 10:24 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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[–]pupplenupple44 points45 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Joke's on him, he married her.

[–]neoj88885 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

It's not hard to figure out why she's like this, her mother thinks he's a dick for posting it. Based on the content of the video, it's obvious that she posts negative shit about him whenever she wants, on Facebook, etc.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Anybody want to start placing bets on just how beta her father was? This has 'princess syndrome' written all over it; this is the same kind of reaction you get from toddlers first learning the word 'no'. Some children learn it later than others, as can be seen in the video.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, totally 'princess syndrome'.

But how do you deal with it? I mean this is TRP where we deal with imperfect women.

[–]pupplenupple1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

He's not so much a dick for posting it as a dumbass. Airing his dirty laundry like that. It is his dirty laundry as much as hers, see my first point, jokes on him he married her.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I don't think she behaved like this before the marriage or has shown any signs of it.

He let it happen. Women are like children. She needs the right treatment like a child who thinks he can go as far as that. Show the child as well as the women where the boundaries are. No more no less.

[–]pupplenupple0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Oh bullshit. She may not have thrown a tantrum that big before but there would have been major signs. Just look at the pictures on the dailymail story and do the math. She's probably a 7, he's about a 6. Unless he's considerably richer than her (doesn't look like he is to me) then that counter-hypergamy difference has to be accounted for by something less visible. He was obviously what she had to settle for because her crazy is worth maybe 3 to 4 points off her SMV in a LTR. A bunch of guys in the 7 to 8 range would have pumped and dumped because they knew marriage would not work out. What was so "special" about him wasn't that he couldn't see the incoming craziness, but that he made the mistake of thinking he could handle it 24/7 for the rest of his life.

I feel sorry for the dude but fair's fair, There are guys who could have handled it and he should have known he wasn't one of them.

[–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

So, that's basically tactics? Basically the woman thinks she can get away with everything - like this behavoir - when she thinks that her husband won't leave her? Is that a reason for escalation AND showing a woman that - even in merriage you are high SMV - and that you could have another women if you just wanted to?

[–]BustinAllKindsOfNuts[S] 4 points5 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Yes, you are correct. The reason why high sexual market for men is important is so that your partner can't get away with shit-test behavior.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Thanks. So, in essance this is a "beautiful" example of TRP => Don't ever get to the point where the women thinks she has control over you.

[–]BustinAllKindsOfNuts[S] 1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Yes, women want a sense of "equality" with men. Not true equality but the sense of equality. This is why feminist groups are constantly trying to bring men down because they know they know men are the one's that lead & are the enforcers in society. Why else would they use the tactics of rape culture & fat acceptance? (It's because self-victimization is the best tactic against Red Pill) They'll shame you for improving your life with Red Pill ideology because it deflects each of their arguments swiftly.

My take of male dominance & emotional vulnerability: When you're with a girl you want to be in a relationship with (not a plate) you need to show her some emotional vulnerability. After the first night hookup or LMR, she may be afraid to invest emotionally in you if you're the alpha guy that gets whoever he wants. This can be intimidating and has been the main obstacle for me as I'm tired of spinning plates. Sometimes I have to bring myself down to her level to build comfort but not to the point where's she is the dominant one. Just enough to let her know I'm human just as every "nice guy beta" in her head. I'm trying to say more often, "I feel happy with you" or "That's a really interesting story you must have felt lonely." A guy that listens and can support her emotions is a good way of building deep rapport.

In the case of the video girl, she has some mental illness & I think she's too damaged even by feminist standards.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

BTW I don't think that this is a thing of 'mental illness'. As I read more comments about it, this behavoir is more common than I thought...

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

I agree with you, being an alpha and sharing some emotions/supporting her emotionally is not a contradiction. But never ever share your weakness with a girl.

On the other hand. Isn't 'dealing with difficult characters of women' all what TRP is about. I mean, if all girls were unicorns, this sub would never exist. So the girl in that video must have been nice when they met, or otherwise he wouldn't have had married her. Put differently, my theory is, that HE let it come to a point where she would bitch about such things in that immature way. Women are just little children that act emotionally. The same way it's your fault as a parent when a child acts crazy and has tantrums, it's your fault when your woman has tantrums because you didn't treat her the way she needs to be treated.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

you didn't treat her the way she needs to be treated

Could you please outline the ways in which a wife should be treated in order to avoid this?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Escalate. Don't tolerate any of this behavoir. Basically show her that this behavoir has its 'natural' consequences - for the worse.

Stop the car. The way she behaved was a danger for both of them. Let her calm down on her own. Go out of the car. Explain to her camly - similar to a child who cannot get what he wishes - that he needs to do maintenance on that car or whatever he needs to do. That she needs to express her wishes earlier so that he could reschedule maintenance.

You have to reach her emotionally and show her that it's not possible today to go to the lake.

[–]BustinAllKindsOfNuts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I suspect he has some inner game issues. Outer game is easy, but inner game is the real deal and it resonates with the people around you. Personally, inner game has been difficult for me, I've only started reading this sub for two months. Applying Red Pill theory in real life has brought me instant results. I've become a new man faster than I have in last four years.

Outer game is easy but getting to the point where you being "alpha" is congruent with your inner game can take months, sometimes years. This is why most guys here prefer plates. It's easy lays, quick results, and little commitment. But when it comes to marriage or SO that's a whole different ballpark. This is where inner game is so important. I'm trying to get the point where I don't care if I get laid or not, I just want to be happy with someone when I'm older.

That's why Red Pill is so helpful. Instead of women qualifying you, it teaches YOU how to be the one that gets to pick. In this society, many men feel like they don't have much decision so they put all their eggs in one basket: they meet a friend through a social group, a workplace friend, a blind date. These events could take place months apart and leads to desperation. I'm tired of letting life come to me, I'm grabbing it by the horns and killing it =S

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[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yeah, but not with her husbad (that time is long over because she has lost all attraction to him), but with another alpha that is fucking her behind the husbands back.

[–]BustinAllKindsOfNuts[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

To be honest, the woman in the video is the type that would seek out betas. Surely, giving a beta duty sex once a week in return for a home/money would fit her lifestyle.

[–]FattieShamer900011 points12 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

They really are teenagers stuck in adult bodies.

[–]Offensive_Brute12 points13 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Calling her a teenager is really giving her too much credit. She's in full on toddler mode.

[–]cthulhucumsicle2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link


Not all toddlers are like that.

My four year old never has tantrums, and can gain control of disappointment or frustration after a few minutes of calm conversation. He has never been that irrational that emotionally violent ever.

All ages do what works, this nightmare woman has learned that this works. I bet she was the screaming three year old at the playground that was handed mommy's Mountain Dew after a few seconds of screaming and rolling in the dirt.

[–]Offensive_Brute1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

True that I have a nephew that was big on tantrums, and a niece that was big on saying mean and inappropriate things. Then the third and fourth were more Zen.

[–]cthulhucumsicle0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Nature/nurture both important, part of why parenting is hard is learning how to communicate with the innate.

But shitty parenting always gets a shitty outcome. And great parenting should result in good kids with healthy values almost every time.

If a parent does not act as though they are responsible for the child's mental and emotional Heath, then they are doing it wrong.

Clarifying: not "making" the child healthy, but "enabling and leading" that child on a path where they are able to become responsible for their own health.

[–]AngraMainyuu1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link


[–]1sam_ba_lam5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

It's a laugh.

Does this dynamic happen for real? Yes it does.

The guy holds frame well. Amused mastery. Ultimately, he is amused at the antics of the child and for every comment he makes on the status of affairs, she listens yet replies from her limbic, emotional state.

The explanations he provides are based on fact (tyre servicing) yet her replies remain emotional and based (biased) upon her needs.

And her inability to service her own vehicle is subject to an interlock limitation. DUI is DUI.

In relationship some go for bat-shit crazy and some go for the more subdued, sultry who are the same in their biological urge.

[–]BustinAllKindsOfNuts[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Reminds me of when I mess with my little brother when he gets mad. I can't help it.

[–]Gstreetshit5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

(Off topic): I bet she's wild in bed ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

I bet they hardly ever fuck.

[–]2popthatpill11 points12 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

1) Surely this has already been posted

2) Why is she obsessed with the lake? (hint: she's cheating on him)

3) The guy's constant nattering is inane

4) She either has very low IQ, or a very short attention span, or a personality disorder (tantrums are common to all). Her weird stretching and contortions are consistent behaviour

5) She has no tattoos (far as I can tell from the video), which is unusual for someone who's probably very trashy

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[–]AngraMainyuu2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

I don't think you can infer cheating necessarily, but there's definitely something at the lake she seems to have a deep emotional commitment towards, and its not "I wanna go hang out with my friends" either.

[–]BustinAllKindsOfNuts[S] 2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

You're looking way too deep into this

[–]AngraMainyuu1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Well the alternative is that she's throwing this tantrum over something that doesn't mean anything to her at all.

[–]BustinAllKindsOfNuts[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Most likely

[–]AngraMainyuu0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Well, fuck. Even children have more credibility than that. I know they cry about stupid shit, but when a 5yr old throws a tantrum they're genuinely upset about something. To a child with a very limited perspective on life it really does mean everything. Kids aren't bullshitting you when they're upset, its just that when you get older you realize those things aren't important.

[–]2popthatpill0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

What do you think's going on at the lake? Maybe she's just really into boating or feeding the ducks?

[–]mast0rz2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

1) is true.

[–]veggie_girl2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think this time it's the "least" mature teenager in the house.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is insane. I would love to fuck an insane girl like that.

Never getting married, though. this finally convinced me. Who in the world would want to spend any time with someone like this? And you say it happens in most marriages? Fuck that shit

[–]flplatespin6 points7 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

This guy is within his rights to record this craziness. She is acting like a child. This is a warning to all of you who want to get married.

Almost all women melt down like this in a LTR. He should drop her off at the lake and leave her there.

[–]Offensive_Brute-2 points-1 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Its his fault for not being able to handle her properly.

[–]Redpillage3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

how the hell do you handle that at all. aside from telling it to shut the fuck up?

[–]Offensive_Brute0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Its like bull riding. Ride her hard until she tuckers herself out. Avoid the horns and the hooves.

[–]RAL90001 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Some People mature with age. Some People don't. Some People stop maturing at age 9.

[–]otiswild2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Some People stop maturing at age 9

Those people are called women.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I think this sum ups the video pretty well.

[–]RAL90001 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Props to the guy - he handles it very well. At the end he calls her out on her facebook bullshit and the last line is just pure Gold.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don't know I didn't look at it until the end. The energy she displayed scared me.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Hey OP. I showed this to my wife while on a good note. The very next time she started bitching about something dumb, which surprise wasn't much later, I just looked at her about to laugh. She said no don't you even and I just burst out laughing and yelled "WHY WON'T YOU TAKE ME TO THE [email protected][email protected][email protected]@? WHY???" She couldn't help but laugh off whatever dumb shit she was thinking.

[–]jolly--roger0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

this has been here, don't add N to the SNR

[–]JohnnyLawman-4 points-3 points  (15 children) | Copy Link

The girl is being a baby, but come on. Get your tires rotated another day, and take her to the fucking lake. He's just pushing and pushing her buttons. Even won't stop to get her cigarettes. She's a pain in the ass obviously, but dude, just do it. Hell, he could have done the tire rotation earlier and made an appt for a specific time and told her they'd do that then go to the lake.

[–]AngraMainyuu1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Occasionally this is okay, but as an overall strategy, placating someone every time they throw a tantrum is bad mojo.

[–]JohnnyLawman0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I agree. I'd say this is one of the battles that you just let go. Get the tires done another day or earlier, let her have some calm down time, enjoy the day, and don't be an instigator.

[–]cthulhucumsicle1 point2 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

Great plan you have there. /s

Behavior that is rewarded is repeated.

[–]JohnnyLawman0 points1 point  (9 children) | Copy Link

In this case, its not that big of a deal. No need to overdramatize the situation. Get your tires done in advance or another day. Choose your battles.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy Link

No, win your battles.

[–]JohnnyLawman0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

I agree...if you're twelve.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

Well that didn't take long to start insulting.

The more you give, the more they take. I learned that the hard way and am paying for it.

It's ridiculously like war. If you attack an enemy and they retreat, you'll see them weak and keep attacking. If they overwhelmingly fight back, you're much less likely to pick a fight with them. Fight hard every time, and then they'll only send scouts (little shit tests) once in a while which you send home in a bag.

You get the point. Shitlord out.

[–]JohnnyLawman0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

its an immature thought process if you feel you have to win all the battles. And that is what you implied, because I said, "choose your battles." Feeling you have to fight all the battles is childish.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

You glossed over my explanation and went straight to defense ^

[–]JohnnyLawman0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

choose your battles...let it go ;)

[–]cthulhucumsicle0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

No exaggeration, rewarded behavior is repeated behavior. This "princess" has bitched and yelled her way into everything her whole life. Too late to change what her parents fucked up, but at least he learned to not/stop giving in.

[–]JohnnyLawman0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Right, so choose your battles. Let her have this one, and one that really matters you put her in her place. I've been with those annoying bitches before and they know when its time to shut the fuck up.

[–]BustinAllKindsOfNuts[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I'm sure he would have gone the next day. She says he payed a lot of money for the trip, he doesn't intend on wasting it. He had to get some work done this particular day. I don't think he's intentionally pushing her buttons, he finds her attitude & screaming amusing therefore he's laughing. Women like her deserved to be laughed at, she can't even handle a coherent conversation. No way should you stay quiet & without being able to communicate like adults the only alternative is to find amusement in exposing her childness.

[–]JohnnyLawman0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I disagree. And I think he was doing intentionally. She's a psycho, and god help him, but in this case he was wrong imo. I agree on communicating and not being a fuckhead like her.. But he was instigating the situation. Like I responded to others , sometimes you have to choose your battles.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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