Guy tries to win ex-gf back by making "romantic" website dedicated to her (exact type of thing women SAY they want men to do). Result: Women shit on him for being "pathetic loser".

MajorMid · 2014-10-22T15:43:23+00:00

This reminds me of a story I heard about a friend of a friend.

Back in highschool this dude was dating a girl who would always claim how bad she wanted to go to Italy and how it was a dream of hers. So the boyfriend recreated and decorated his whole basement with Italy everything. All types of food and stuff. And invited the girlfriend over.

Girlfriend broke up with him because it was "creepy". Lol.

I_Wear_Jorts5 · 2014-10-22T14:15:47+00:00

Give a woman an inch and she'll take a mile. Then she'll complain she didn't get two miles.

Great point. Essentially, Briffault's law 101. Something that all guys starting on TRP need to internalize and understand. Women are hardly, if ever, grateful for things you do for them. The millisecond you buy them something or do something for them, they immediately begin expecting more. In the end, it's not about what you do for a woman or what you can give her (unless you are a top tier BB), but about how you make her feeeeel. So, even though this guy goes out of his way and creates a "romantic" website, it makes her feel creeped out.

JP_Whoregan · 2014-10-22T13:57:34+00:00

I don't defend this creepy, selfish site in the least, but let's be honest: if this was in a rom-com, girls might eat it up. In other words, I sometimes feel for the mixed messages dudes get about romantic gestures. Not to the point of excusing this shit though.

That lovely comment, from commenter "Jenna Joyce", is about the most poignant admission of at least 5 different TRP maxims I can think of right off the top of my head.

What she really means is, if Matthew McConaughey pulled this shit in a movie, girls would tingle so hard their clits would be diagnosed with seizures. And not because they found it attractive, but because it would be following a Disney-esque storyline that they all romanticize that they should find attractive. And it's because the man doing it is a man so far out of her league, it wouldn't matter if he was making romantic websites or farting on her upper lip.

But remove a pathetic gesture like this from the context of fantasy and place it squarely in the realm of reality with a normal guy in the normal guise of a relationship, and it's pathetic, nauseating, and "creepy".

And she freely admits that women communicate "mixed messages". Well, actually a "mixed" message would contain even a small dosage of truth to it regarding what truly makes the panties soak. This is actually a "hamsterese" admission by the lovely Jenna here that TRP is spot-on accurate with "watch what a woman reacts to, never listen to what she says."

Because at the end of the day, if you were to listen to the shit she "says" she finds attractive, she's never gonna "excuse this shit".

edit additions edit 2 thanks for gold

Ignatius_Oh_Reilly · 2014-10-22T14:25:38+00:00

Women tell you what they want to want. Not what they actually do.

cwschizzy · 2014-10-22T13:42:40+00:00

I have no words. I used to be this guy. Just....wow.

2014-10-22T16:19:11+00:00

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southernfriedcode · 2014-10-22T15:51:54+00:00

Did everyone miss the 'EDIT' at the bottom of the post that makes it seem like the website worked?

From the link: "Update: If Facebook sleuthing is any indication, Shauna totally took him back."

twistedbrother2 · 2014-10-22T16:12:36+00:00

I made a romantic website for a girl once - back in 10th grade when I was a virgin, and I was properly ridiculed by my friends and her friends and her for it.

IVIaskerade · 2014-10-22T15:16:50+00:00

My favourite part is where she starts saying "You're not being specific enough for my liking! I want to know your real name, and what the 'mistakes' you made were!"

She dresses this up as cowardice "He doesn't have the balls to get into specifics" when she's really just fishing for juicy details, annoyed that the man could be so selfish as to not let the world tear him apart over his specific mistakes. I mean, this site is for only one person, and both of them already know what happened, but this woman, like most of them, can't just let it remain a private matter between two individuals, she has to know the details.

It's unintentionally ironic, that in a blog post about how this website is "all about him" she tries to make it all about her instead.

Bottled_Void · 2014-10-22T15:21:15+00:00

Seems like he won her back.

Happy BPing to him if that's what he wants.

Sounds like he was doing it right the first time around.

thisjibberjabber · 2014-10-22T17:08:26+00:00

Making a mixtape, giving your favourite book, doing a portrait, surprising her with some small gift or event - these gestures are what you do after you're in an established relationship, never before you're in it or after you're out of it.

It's simple: if you're a high-value man in her eyes you won't need to go to these lengths to win her.

FUTBALAR · 2014-10-22T14:41:13+00:00

I read the entire article and I am enraged, to say the least. It feels like the author (Jessica Coen) has some kind of personal vendetta against the dude who made the site. The title starts with "Pathetic Man"; later, the dude is called "Sad Sack Sam". WHAT THE FUCK?! Seriously!
So, she comes across a website that was dedicated to an ex and defamation was the first thing that came in her mind? WOW!

INDEED, BITCHES BE CRAZY!!!

Deaddpooll · 2014-10-22T14:31:16+00:00

This is fucking stupid and desperate.

At least be a charming beta

favours_of_the_moon · 2014-10-22T15:49:53+00:00

Here's what Jezebel says about it: "It wouldn't be out of place in a police report."

That's where their mind is at, boys. Remember that, next time SHE does something INSANE.

Surf_Or_Die · 2014-10-22T16:12:15+00:00

sings

everything is creepyyyy, everyones a creep when he's not looking gooood. Everything is creepyyy, If you think he's not good

Gold_Mouth · 2014-10-22T14:06:49+00:00

Remind me of Robin Thicke writing a song called "Get her back" a few months ago.

She divorced him last month

charlesbukowksi · 2014-10-22T15:44:00+00:00

It is because women know how codependent they are that they hold codependence from men in contempt. They are the par excellence of what we in psychology call a social loafer.

JohnF30 · 2014-10-22T19:22:50+00:00

"To become a good fisherman, ask another fisherman, not the fish"

This is my new favorite quote of all time.

Mouthpiece · 2014-10-22T16:33:03+00:00

TLDR: desperation is NOT sexy.

Red pill as fuck.

Jaereth · 2014-10-22T17:23:15+00:00

You want a real look at how women view the "romantic" gestures like this guy here did? Look at the words she uses in the article.

The websites OP is a "Sad Sack". He's a "Man-child". He "doesn't have the balls" to get into the specifics of his breakup. He's "desperate" to get his girl back and makes a "bat shit insane" website, which is a "groveling attempt" to get his girl back.

And yet, this is what the media narrative says. This is piped into the homes of youngsters growing up. That this kinda shit works and in the end they will ride off into the sunset together.

In reality, even if she does take him back, the absolute lack of respect the girl will have for him for the rest of their lives together will ensure their time together will be anything but fairytale...

dvidsilva · 2014-10-22T18:30:20+00:00

To be honest the guy is pretty pathetic, like we need a new category for people like that.

2014-10-22T22:10:14+00:00

The funny thing about all this is even though I was always blue pill at heart... I was always lazy as fuck.

I would not say I am a "natural Alpha", but I just would not put up the effort to do shit for her.

Didn't buy her gifts because I am cheap. Always chose the restaurants because I am cheap. Always had her come to my house instead of going out because I am lazy and cheap. Never wrote her some stupid poem, never sent her long romantic text messages. She would ask me to do shit for her and I would just say no because I am lazy. I would even blow her off from time to time so I could sleep in.

At times I would feel worried I wasn't doing enough sweet things, but in reality my laziness helped keep the relationship together.

LukesLikeIt · 2014-10-23T01:38:19+00:00

If you continually treat a women like shes too good for you she will start to believe it.

candyred1 · 2014-10-22T16:26:55+00:00

I am completely shocked by everything I am reading here. I am also disgusted in that I am living in a world where any "woman" would be such a cold-hearted self-centered bitch. Not all women are like this, I am nothing like this and am very angry that other women are. What happened to being a Lady? What happened to traditional values? Maybe I am one of the few lucky women to have had a caring, kind hearted mother with morals and respect for men as well as anybody. If any of my daughters act like the way these people are I will be deeply disappointed and feel like a failure as a parent. Evolution didn't intend for women to become selfish c**ts who dress trashy with their tits hanging out half naked, who must only go for men that are assholes and macho. I get the whole natural attraction to an alpha male as it is ingrained for survival instincts, but we are more intelligent than animals and that is no excuse for the way these women are behaving.

Edit: I was just told that men probably think women like me are usually unattractive and can't find a boyfriend. That they would be shocked to see I'm "a 9" and very attractive, and don't use that to stomp on men.

2014-10-22T18:07:16+00:00

It can't be any worse than the Gary Dell'abate apology video.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DWuQI6sW5q0

clls · 2014-10-22T23:03:42+00:00

how would you feel if an ex-girlfriend (that you broke up with for legitimate reasons) makes a website for you in order to win you back?

2014-10-22T23:29:54+00:00

It's the Garbage Man Test in a different form, nothing more. Girl's want guys to do exactly what "Sad Sack Sam" did, grovel, beg, plead, flog himself, but because he's "Sad Sack Sam" (read: Garbage Man), he's a piece of shit low life that they'll laugh at. If he was a hot guy, they might be able to hamster away his otherwise sappy website, but Sad Sack Sam / Trash Man? Fuck that loser.

feelinglazy · 2014-10-23T02:58:53+00:00

Da fuck is wrong with these jebezel bitches?

UrRealDad · 2014-10-23T07:20:24+00:00

The very last line of the article is an "update", in which the author claims to have done some "facebook sleuthing" and determined that the target of this "creepy" website did in fact take "Sad Sack Sam" back.

Interesting twist.

rockumsockumrobots · 2014-10-23T09:38:24+00:00

jessica coen

coen

How to spot a divisive feminist? The nose knows. ; ^ )

2014-10-23T15:28:47+00:00

This is great that women are making websites like this. For too long some guys ask other women on dating advice when they don't know what they want, let alone another woman. Somehow the idea got started that women like romantic gestures and men (and women) got sucked into believing it was true. The best way to understand women is experience, the second best way is from a guy that does have experience. Women will always be a little crazy, if you act like they aren't your gonna be a sucker like this poor sap. Finally women like this author are pulling the veil off for many stubborn men. Don't blame women because you think overly romantic gestures are effective, I don't recall a GF or date ever telling me she wanted extravagant gestures.

LuvBeer · 2014-10-22T15:21:16+00:00

This is fucking hilarious...thanks

elchoma90 · 2014-10-22T17:58:14+00:00

All I get bitches are stolen roses (Single rose. Always) from someone's front yard (I make up an obviously absurd story of how hard it was to get such unique rose) and rice krispies. Bitches love rice krispies. So many women have asked me "what are you getting that special someone this valentine's?" And when I tell them a stolen rose and a rice krispies they all call me cheap and unromantic and demand I at least take my date to a fancy restaurant. I laugh at their faces and tell them they all love it and someday I might get her a rose and a rice krispies so she knows how it feels. Tingles follow. Women are amusing.

TheSKSpecial · 2014-10-22T18:54:32+00:00

Late to the party here but hoping to get a few responses from you guys. I have been subscribed to TRP for quite some time now, and a lot of info I get here I find useful, but most of the time, this sub comes across as hateful. I mean, like a general hatred or disdain for women. Why is this?

Kardlonoc · 2014-10-22T17:21:09+00:00

"I love you."

Three words. All you need. You can go maybe one or two sentences over but if you start writing papers and making websites professing your love...you are going to come off needy and a bit crazy.

Women like a curt man. They enjoy when talk in a straightforward matter and don't use too many words. Why? Because women are the exact opposite. Subtley, social talking and conversing are generally specialties most women have.

raouldukeesq · 2014-10-22T18:36:23+00:00

It's not a romantic gesture and no significant group of men or women would ever argue as much. No one advocates for guys to make websites to get their girlfriends back. Classic strawman argument.

I think the web site taking a collective shit on the dude is more interesting and worthy of comment.

Ask a fishermen and not the fish? Fish cannot talk. If they could, I'm pretty certain that any fishermen worth his salt who be an effective fish interrogator. Not believing what people say at face value does not equate with their answers being totally invalid. Have you ever played poker? What people say is incredibly valuable.