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If she left tomorrow, would your sex life be better?

August 8, 2014
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If your wife (or girlfriend) left you tomorrow, would this be a significant setback in your sex life? Or would your sex life actually improve? If you can’t answer that second question with a resounding yes, then your marriage (or long-term relationship) is doomed.

I was finishing my workout this morning, getting undressed for my shower, and the gym locker I happened to nab was next to a mirror. I see myself. Damn, I look good with my shirt off. I didn’t always. I used to be your average skinny-fat, introverted nerd. If I’d taken my shirt off then, you could count each of my ribs, yet somehow, I had a little pot-belly, too.

I said hi to some of the regulars on my way to the showers. And some strangers, too, just because they were there. Except when I’m in the middle of a set, I talk to damn near everybody. At the gym, waiting in line for coffee, on the street between my office and wherever the heck I’m going, with people from other offices in my building while we ride up the elevator. I didn’t used to do this. I was shy, introverted. Frankly, I was afraid. I lived in fear of rejection, constantly imagining what people would think about me and how weird I’d seem if I said something stupid or carried myself stupidly or used an awkward tone of voice, or worried that just the mere fact that me, some lanky-ass weirdo, was talking, might get be burned. I told myself that I was just quiet, took pride in minding my own business and having other people mind theirs, that I didn’t mind having only a tiny handful of friends and nothing to do most weekends, but really, I was afraid. And lonely.

I drove to the office along a really scenic freeway, in a city I only recently moved to. It was a good opportunity, a step up in my career, and while I left behind my parents, my friends back home, and my wife really didn’t want to relocate and leave behind her social circle, I moved us anyway. Now, she couldn’t be happier. She has new friends here, our daughter’s thriving and has made more friends than both of us put together. I’m good, too. In charge of people, paid more than I’ve ever been paid, doing a job I’m good at and don’t find too annoying. And I’m leaving this job for an even better one in just a few days. The old me never took risks. The new me has a hard time being comfortable.

It had dawned on me in the locker room, this morning, that if my wife left me, I’d have no problem finding other women. Sure, they wouldn’t be my wife, I’d miss my daughter terribly, I’d lose a shit-ton of my assets, and life would suck more, but I wouldn’t lack sex. In fact, if my wife left tomorrow, I’d be having more sex. And that’s the key. That’s the statement that needs to be true for your marriage or your long-term relationship to be successful: If she left you, your sex life would increase.

Women are perceptive. They know when they’re dating or married to a loser. If you’re the kind of guy who’s only attractive to his wife, no other woman would have him, and she’s his only option for sex, then you’re the kind of guy who’s going to subsist on a trickle of once-a-month missionary from a woman who isn’t that into you. She knows the score. She knows you’ve got nowhere to go, that you’d do nearly anything to keep her since she’s your only option, and worse, she knows, very clearly, that you’re not doing all that much for her. Her friends aren’t whispering in her ear, constantly, how awesome her husband is. If anything, being married to you is costing her points and she spends the hours she’s not with you doing damage control on her reputation due to having a shitty husband. (Depending on the woman, “damage control” might mean badmouthing you to her friends, bragging about denying you sex, bragging about the massive income you provide for her and how little she works for it, and cheating on you with a hot douchebag to prove to her social circle that she’s attractive and not really stuck with you, because they’d oust her if she were actually a loser woman and you were the actual best she could do.)

This is exactly the kind of man who lies to himself. Tells himself that he’s proud, noble, and good. That it’s okay that no other woman wants him, because he’s not supposed to be trying to attract other women anyway. That it’s okay that he barely has any life of his own and nothing to do on the weekends, because that’s more time he can devote to his wife, which is what he’s supposed to do. That he definitely needs to forgive his wife’s flaws and past behavior, not because he has no choice, but because he’s a good man and it’s the right thing to do, right? This is the kind of guy who gets cheated on, and forgives his wife, because, you know, he’s such a good guy. Definitely not because deep down inside, he knows he’ll never find anyone else and this shitty life, shitty wife is his only shot.

This is the kind of man who is constantly denied sex by his own wife. The kind of man who gets nagged to death. The kind of man who gets cheated on. The kind of man who gets served with divorce papers and is genuinely surprised by this fact, because he’s just so darn nice and devoted and that’s how you keep a wife happy.

On the other hand, however, women know when they’re dating a winner. If you’re the kind of guy who’s attractive to lots of women, you’re extra-attractive to your wife. Not just because you’re attractive, in general, but because you chose her, and she benefits socially from having such a badass husband. She’s the envy of all of her friends who have loser husbands. Contrary to many Red Pill pessimists, she doesn’t fuck your brains out with great frequency in some kind of manipulative effort to keep you. She fucks your brains out because she’s genuinely in love with you and wants to please you out of respect and admiration. Hell, if you’re awesome enough, you could even cheat on her, and she’d take it in stride and just try harder – not recommended, obviously.

Bear in mind, however, that women love a bargain. They need to date up. You need to be able to say, with 100% certainty that if she left you today, you would end up with more sex. Not the same sex, not equivalent sex. More sex. Women don’t want to date their equal. They need to feel lucky, like they’ve won the lottery. You need to have options that are better than her, but still choose her. If she’s your best option and you’re hers, you’d think that’s ideal, but you’d be in for a world of shit tests. (Maybe you should marry your second best option.)

In summary, the key to a successful marriage (or LTR) is actually pretty simple: Be more awesome and more valuable than your wife (or girlfriend). Perceptibly more valuable.

A woman who thinks she’s lucky to have you will act like she’s lucky to have you. If your woman isn’t acting like she’s lucky to have you (not just saying so, acting so), then you have some work to do.

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Title If she left tomorrow, would your sex life be better?
Author Archwinger
Upvotes 262
Comments 63
Date August 8, 2014 3:35 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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[–][deleted] 77 points78 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Since me and my ex broke up, I've had no problems getting sex.

But serious issues getting GOOD sex. After you spend a year or two getting to know each others likes and dislikes in the bedroom its hard for strange to top that at times. So there can be a trade off.

That being said variety has its own benefits.

[–][deleted] 22 points23 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This is big. As Archwinger pointed out, it's more about her knowing you could go out and get sex easily at any point, and in return your LTR sex stays awesome.

One of the benefits of a solid LTR no doubt. I haven't had the same kind of nut bust my ex could give me after 20 different girls. I'll be honest, when that happens I hope I can keep my frame. I miss that good sex.

[–]Endorsed ContributorRedBigMan-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Well the truth of the matter is that a woman does not care about the quality of sex you are or would be getting. To women quality does not matter, only quantity.

To Team Woman the price of V is the same across the board. So whether it's some slut showing interest in you or a HB9 mirring at you it's all the same to her... it's women moving in on the asset she's already secured for herself and she'll defend that asset (you) with whatever she can... Usually this means she'll fuck your brains out to keep your loyalty.

In the end play your cards close to the vest... your wife/ltr doesn't need to know she's the best lay that you have ever had. Always remember abundance mentality... If you found one woman out there that good at sex, you can find another.

[–]Endorsed ContributorCrimsonCapsule29 points30 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

Well, as a recently broken-up dude, it's been weird.

I've been single for a couple months, and I just haven't put myself out there yet. I'm making more money, reconnecting with friends, getting back into my hobbies...but spinning plates just seems like a hassle.

The girls are out there, and there have been opportunities for sex. But while sex was so important when I was in the LTR, now it's taken a backseat to the all the freedom and opportunities being single can bring. I'm happier — but getting laid suddenly seems way less important than it did.

YMMV, of course.

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I think deprivation and thirsting for it is necessary when you are at that stage, just my personal experience.

[–]lilacblaze5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Had a very similar experience. Initially I dated a couple of chicks, just to prove to myself that I could, but I after that fear was assuaged, my desire to date loads of women has dropped way back. I'm pretty sure it will pick up again as I get the rest of my life back in order

[–]Endorsed ContributorCrimsonCapsule14 points15 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

That's another thing — I kinda want to date the girls that will want to date the future version of me that has his shit together.

I don't hate myself now or anything — I just don't see the point of going out there and trying to pump randos just to prove that I still have some baseline of sexual attractiveness. It's there, I'm sure, I'm good...and I'll be back on the pussy wagon at some point. But I have some shit that's more important to me right now.

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[–]Soultrane90 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You need time to strengthen your mind and body. This can take from 2 months to 2 years. There always will be 20 year old girls, no need to rush.

[–]feelinglazy1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You should get your Testosterone level checked dude.

[–]Endorsed ContributorCrimsonCapsule0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

That's probably a really good idea.

[–]Endorsed ContributorBluepillProfessor20 points21 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Arch hits another one out of the park and explains almost all of TRP theory in a short post.

Women are perceptive. They know when they’re dating or married to a loser. If you’re the kind of guy who’s only attractive to his wife, no other woman would have him, and she’s his only option for sex, then you’re the kind of guy who’s going to subsist on a trickle of once-a-month missionary from a woman who isn’t that into you. She knows the score. She knows you’ve got nowhere to go, that you’d do nearly anything to keep her since she’s your only option,

a/k/a dread is the key answer to maintaining a LTR. If she thinks you have no other options she loses interest. Cause....Effect.

deep down inside, he knows he’ll never find anyone else and this shitty life, shitty wife is his only shot.

a/k/a avoid oneitis at all costs.

This is the kind of man who is constantly denied sex by his own wife. The kind of man who gets nagged to death. The kind of man who gets cheated on. The kind of man who gets served with divorce papers and is genuinely surprised

a/k/a Alpha Fucks/Beta Bucks: Beta's don't cause tingles.

Contrary to many Red Pill pessimists, she doesn’t fuck your brains out with great frequency in some kind of manipulative effort to keep you. She fucks your brains out because she’s genuinely in love with you and wants to please you out of respect and admiration.

a/k/a Hypergamy. This picturesque image of female hypergamous behavior and moral justification evokes Davie Dieda's (Way of the Superior Male) explanation of female shit tests ("she pokes you in a soft spot because she wants to feel Shiva, your present masculinity penetrating her soul"). Of course she does. One of the major RP theory issues you missed in this post was female solospsism and hamsturbation. Don't tell me there is not even a little bit of a secret agenda with all that enthusiastic before marriage sex followed by /r/deadbedrooms.

If your woman isn’t acting like she’s lucky to have you (not just saying so, acting so), then you have some work to do.

a/k/a self improvement- full circle to the core of TRP.

edit: My sex life would be not be better right after my wife cut me off. It would take at least 20-30 days for me to get the first member of my harem.

[–]myschadenfreude10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It took me 30 hours when my wife said we were done with no chance. I thought I could establish an instant and formidable "dread game", before I even knew the term. She was happy for me.

Moral? There is a point of no return. You need to always be the man she wants. Recovery can reach a point where it's impossible.

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[–]TRP VanguardArchwinger[S] 13 points14 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

We're all different. I think guys could debate for hours over whether to prioritize sexual frequency or sexual quality, i.e., whether you'd trade weekly awesome sex for daily average sex, or weekly awesome sex for bi-weekly super-awesome sex. Yeah, some badass guys have it all -- frequent spectacular sex. But that's not a common set-up for most men.

For most "average" men, the problem they face is just plain getting a woman to have sex with them with any degree of frequency. Forget their likes, dislikes, or anything even remotely approaching quality sex. Just getting their wives to put out more than once a month is already an insurmountable hurdle. So I tend to prioritize frequency over quality and advise most married guys to do the same. You can work on quality, but if you're not having or barely having sex at all, that's a much bigger problem. And a much more common one.

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[–]lonGterMgoalS2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Not uncommon at all. Best sex I've ever had is with my wife and it's gotten a helluva lot better with time.

[–]2johnnight0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Downvoted for cowardly excuses and oneitis!

I doubt any random woman could push my fun buttons as well as my wife does.

Your wife is not special. She is just as random as any other woman. The other woman would have learned your buttons in a few months.

[–]robesta[🍰] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

You know I agree and disagree with this. My ex wife and my current LTR know what I like, but after being with an old plate last night who can deep throat my whole dick without a second thought I'm second guessing this. Different chicks have different strengths.

[–]HedRotPiliCeppers 5 points5 points [recovered] | Copy Link

(Depending on the woman, “damage control” might mean badmouthing you to her friends, bragging about denying you sex, bragging about the massive income you provide for her and how little she works for it, and cheating on you with a hot douchebag to prove to her social circle that she’s attractive and not really stuck with you, because they’d oust her if she were actually a loser woman and you were the actual best she could do. )

I'm really disgusted by that whole mentality. The more red pill I swallow, the less attracted I am to women in general.

[–]TRP VanguardArchwinger[S] 21 points22 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Women hate each other, passionately.

You think the female propensity to discard a man they no longer need or are no longer attracted to is bad? Just watch how they treat other women.

It's fucking vicious. We have it easy. Women are incredibly worse to each other. It's a funny dichotomy. Women are extremely pro-woman, always siding with one another and with the female gender as a whole independent of logic or reason, but when dealing with specific women, as individuals, they hate each other's guts, put on a front when they're together, and tear each other apart the moment their backs are turned. Even their true friends aren't safe. One slip up, one loser mistake, and she's off the invite list to the next outing, during which everyone there will promptly gossip and make fun of her.

[–]heeb0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

I think you just opened my eyes… Unbelievable. My wife is very quick at making loads of female friends, but she's also very quick, too quick in my eyes, at ending such friendships. Sometimes these friendships have lasted years, were deep, meaningful friendships, but then a friend makes a mistake, sometimes (in my eyes) quite a trivial one, and my wife just ends it.

What would be a good approach to try and change this behaviour? Or would you recommend I just leave it like it is? It's not hurting our relationship directly, but it does piss me off a bit when I happen to like (platonically, obviously) a friend of my wife and suddenly she's out of the picture.

[–]WishfulTraveler1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Why would you try to change that? To me that gives her very high value. She sees the game around her, shes playing it, and shes successful enough that she can remove and exchange pieces on the board as she wishes.

Part of /r/theredpill is developing those female relationships yourself without her.

[–]heeb1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks for the insight! I appreciate it.

ADDED: Oh, and yes, I do consider my wife high value. Obviously :)

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

To build on Arch's reply. An example over the years my social circle has grown to include some girls who hang out with us, 3 best friends. One of them is damaged goods and no one wants to touch her, the other two entered relationships with guys in my social circle. One of the relationships didn't work out. Best friends no more. She was dropped like a sack of potatoes, other girls don't want to risk leaving their much improved social circle, had a 'argument' (aka an excuse to stop being friends with her) and blocked her on Facebook.

Best friends for like 5+ years!(it's sort of win though because she was a basic butch if I ever knew one)

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Women don’t want to date their equal. They need to feel lucky, like they’ve won the lottery.

There's a reason you're top endorsed man. God bless

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

There are reasons me and my gf shouldn't be together but we have sex about 10 times a week for 4 months straight.

Yesterday the second she walked in she got on her knees sucked me off, came in her mouth before even saying hi.

I found her thanks to red pill.

[–]Endorsed Contributorbicepsblastingstud2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Counterpoint:

I think you've said it yourself, Arch, but if your wife isn't dying to bang you on the reg, you're in trouble. Sexual desire is probably the best thermometer of whether your SO actually likes you.

And so it is that I disagree with your fundamental premise:

If your wife (or girlfriend) left you tomorrow, would this be a significant setback in your sex life? Or would your sex life actually improve? If you can’t answer that second question with a resounding yes, then your marriage (or long-term relationship) is doomed.

If your SO left, your sex life should decrease, because she should be jumping your bones every chance she gets.

[–]TRP VanguardArchwinger[S] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

It's looking at the same thing from a different angle.

The fact that you're awesome enough to have frequent sex without her is the very thing that drives her to have frequent sex. Kind of an awesome vicious circle. Sex begets sex.

But lack of sex also begets lack of sex.

[–]draketton2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

http://i.imgur.com/vHjSszZ.jpg

I've gone through this cycle 5 times in the last few years. Currently I've just started a green spot.

[–]captainramen2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Can we get that in a spreadsheet?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

2 steps forward 1 step back?

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[–]TRP VanguardArchwinger[S] 4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Get your T levels checked and make sure everything's kosher physically. It's fine to have hobbies and interests that push sex to the back burner, but if you have actual libido issues, it's worth getting them looked at.

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[–]TRP VanguardArchwinger[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Nah. My sex drive's pretty normal. I haven't had any symptoms.

[–]kungfudiver0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

Is it an issue of her not taking care of her body, i.e. physical attractiveness, or an issue of the sex just being 'bad'?

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[–]calabazadelamuerte1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Archwinger is spot on. Get your T checked. If that is the problem, easy fix. If not, she isn't the girl for you.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sounds like low testosterone, you can get that checked with a blood exam. How's your libido in general? Do you masturbate often? Porn? Other women excite you?

[–]reason_is_why1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Any reduction in access to mating opportunities is going to make a man's sex life worse.

[–]lorddeathhhh 2 points2 points [recovered] | Copy Link

I am going to have to disagree: everything in moderation. When I was with one of my ex girlfriends in college we had sex ~3 times a day and we fooled around a lot even when we weren't having sex. It seriously cut into my social life (I did not hang out with my guy friends as much and I felt little desire to go out and party to meet new people because I was already getting my dick wet multiple times a day with a 9/10). I missed copious amounts of bonding time with the bros (which would increase my confidence to new heights) and gaining acquaintances with even sexier, funner chicks (which I would have met at all the parties or other social events that I usually did not feel like going to because of sexual contentment).

[–]reason_is_why0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

In terms of sexual strategy it is important. The greater the number of opportunities to copulate and the greater the variety of partners, the more successful the male is, evolutionarily speaking.

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Well, if she left tomorrow I'd certainly miss her. And I'd lose the 'guaranteed sex safety net' that she provides, bottom line is unless she's dying, she never says no. In fact not only that but she initiates around twice as often as me.

But would my sex life improve... Yes, but it wouldn't be completely transformed or anything. The reason being she's only part of my sex life.

I already have a few other plates spinning, they all know the score, that its physical only and from the looks of it that's all they want from me.

What her leaving WOULD do is free up a large block in my schedule (basically most weekday nights) which I could then divide between a larger number of dates.

Furthermore, a lot of the time I attract what can best be described as the wrong sort of women.

My friend for example, gets far fewer numbers, far less overall interest, but his interest is far better focused, almost all of his options accept their role as plates. I on the other hand get a lot more offers, and generally the offers are (recently at least) from higher quality women (this weekends highlights involve a glamour model and a personal trainer both in their mid 20s) but almost all of them, those two included, want to be my girlfriend, not my fuck toy. And it is frustrating watching them slip through my fingers when they realise that I'm never gonna commit. Being I could play that line far easier.

[–]The_Americano3 points4 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

I will take a lot of heat for this but if you would like to use your high SMV you should look into the swinging lifestyle. My ex wife and I ventured into the lifestyle and I had some of the most memorable experiences of my life fucking some amazingly hot women.

Let the down votes begin...

[–]1Zanford8 points9 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Look for girls for 3-ways and-or get your LTR to allow you to have mistresses, but why allow her to swing with other dudes? It will just make you LESS attractive to her. For this reason (and STDs and paternity BS) I wouldn't allow this even if I secretly had a cuckold fetish.

[–]The_Americano0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy Link

It had dawned on me in the locker room, this morning, that if my wife left me, I’d have no problem finding other women. Sure, they wouldn’t be my wife, I’d miss my daughter terribly, I’d lose a shit-ton of my assets, and life would suck more, but I wouldn’t lack sex. In fact, if my wife left tomorrow, I’d be having more sex. And that’s the key. That’s the statement that needs to be true for your marriage or your long-term relationship to be successful: If she left you, your sex life would increase.

After reading this it becomes clear that OP (feel free to clarify on this OP) is OK with ending his marriage. not to say he checked out but he is more than willing to part ways. He feels like he has nothing to loose,hes holding onto a handful of low value chips which he could drop and have nothing to worry about since he can win some more due to his ability to be a good player. The way I see it is this way: He has nothing to loose, he is not interested in creating attraction he is already at the top of his game. why venture into swinging instead of finding additional females/ a mistress? simple,its much easier to break into the swinging community than to venture into the woods alone looking for females that are willing to join your circus. not that its impossible,it's just easier to join the swinging community.

[–]TRP VanguardArchwinger[S] 8 points9 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

You can love your wife even if she's "lower value" than you are. You can love your children more than any other creature that has ever existed or will exist. You can set a goal of "fixing" your marriage and remain monogamous with that wife you love without being a submissive loser (in fact, being the exact opposite of that is required to fix anything).

But through all of this, yes, most certainly, you have to be okay with the possibility of your marriage ending. Being at-peace with the possibility and knowing you'll be okay if she pulls the nuclear option and burns everything you've built to the ground, children, house, finances, career and all, is absolutely essential if you plan on coming out the other end of a bad marriage.

[–]Soultrane9-1 points0 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Being at-peace with the possibility

How the fuck do you do this? I recently found my RP self and went out to dance last night with my girlfriend. My muscles began to came back (i was decently ripped when we met, got fat during the LTR), my confidence is rising. We were early at the party and was the first couple to start dancing. There were a few losers standing with girls just doing nothing because the party was empty, just me and my girl. Man, the eyes those girls standing with the betas gave me was empowering. I could have pulled any one of them.

But i'm having a hard time. When she goes out i'm worried. Mostly becuase how the hell would i know if she cheats on me. She can just lie and smile. How do you keep an "oh, well" frame here?

[–]DexterousRichard-1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I know this may not be what you want to hear, but you have to fuck some other women.

Once you've done that, you will stop putting her on a pedestal. You will stop putting any women on a pedestal. You will begin to see them all as silly children and know that you can fuck someone whenever you want.

You're afraid of her leaving because you value her too much. By the time she starts being a bitch to you, it will be too late. But that will cure you too...

[–]Soultrane90 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Thanks for your point of view but i think cheating is not the answer here.

You are right about valuing her too much, that's becuase i care about her. I'm in the middle of rebuilding my frame. (i know lot of people here say that's not possible / not worth but i want to learn from my own mistakes :P).

[–]DexterousRichard-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You sound very timid and fearful man.

If you won't fuck other women, at least you need to get to the point where your subconscious groks the fact that you can. I would try to push myself to get a woman to the brink a few times to change your subconscious.

You need to push back against that fear. Not just by "trying" to have a stronger frame. Your frame is dictated by your deep consciousness of reality. You need to change your view of yourself and your relative value vis a vis your girlfriend.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Goes both ways. She would find someone to give it to her ten times a day.

[–]Jewish_Hercules0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sex in a marriage gets better and better... While I could get MORE sex, the quality wouldn't be as good. We know what each other like.

[–]ruskeeblue0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Manuella would be happy. Hell she might even start to look better than your ex.

[–]MooMooMooN0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes. I typically have more sex when I am single... but the sex is better with a person you know.

[–]yeoxnuuq0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

The last woman's pussy was as dry as a catchers mitt.....so yes it was an instant improvement

[–]soulracer0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good post. How about asking, "if she left tomorrow SHOULD I be having better sex?" If you ask, will I be having better sex, sort of implies settling. Some guys that are getting a minimal amount of any sex, would prefer the bad sex, to the unknown of not knowing if they CAN have better sex, for lazy comfort reasons. If you know you should be having better sex, is similar but takes you out of comfort mode and into self improvement mode. Consider your potential and ambition too.

[–]Hatorader0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Doesn't the answer to this question kind of depend on how good the sex is that you're getting from your girlfriend or wife?

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I talk to damn near everybody. At the gym

Lol I never try to talk to anyone at the gym. Too focused on my workout. I literally try to keep convo short if someone tries to talk to me. Don't eat where you shit.

[–]demilitarizdsm-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good post. I'm more thinking you should balance it out and demand more from your wife once you surpass her attractiveness... you don't want to be the guy getting all the looks and start wondering why you're married to this dog...

But, yes, just knowing you could leave and go get some better makes alot of the inane shit get the volume turned down.

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