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Recent lurker here. I rarely post online but wanted to jump in on this one.

This is an interesting post. I used to play around with this concept and it does indeed work. In fact, an interesting thing happened which I'll explain in a minute.

Anyhow, I started doing something similar to what the OP suggests a long time ago. When around a woman I wanted, I would simply think of a specific thought that always gave me joy. It immediately would change my demeanour as I could feel my face relax, my eyes open wider and a smile would seem eager for an excuse to trigger.

It wasn't until I started doing this that I realized I was walking around with a blank look on face that could easily be misinterpreted. Apparently I have an 'intimidating' look and this technique has taught me to soften it.

I now am much more approachable and the results speak for themselves as both men and women will initiate conversation with me. They simply pick up on my 'energy' and know that my response will most likely be positive, which puts them at ease.

Anyhow, I mentioned earlier that something interesting happened. Instead of thinking of that one thought that gave me joy I started thinking of several others. I then noticed I was thinking of happy things that I had forgotten about. I'm definitely a more positive person overall since this all began. I guess somewhere along the path I had forgotten about the forest for the trees.

As far as it not being a technique that alphas use is complete bs. Alphas are always looking to improve themselves in all facets of their life. You don't just wake up one day an alpha. I used to be beta when I was younger but trial and error and experience and forgiving myself for failing is what turned my toward an alpha lifestyle.

I'm 49, never married, no kids, self employed professional, good looking, athletic, charming, slept with literally a boatload of women, etc etc. I love my lifestyle and so do all my married buddies. But I'm always open to learning and trying new things.

Some of you little grasshoppers shouldn't be so quick to judge. The OP is well on his way in the right direction.

Dom

What I find works for me - Be grateful

I.E. be thankful for the blessings you have in this life. If you live in America or in the Western world and reading this on a computer with an Internet connection and in a warm house and will go to bed at night with food in your belly, that's tons more than most of the rest of the world.

I've been to places in the world where children are conscripted as soldiers, where girls not old enough to have their periods yet are sold into sexual slavery, where there is no clean drinking water, where it's no uncommon to suffer and die for what you and I could get fixed or treated like it was nothing.

Being thankful for the things you have is a good way IMHO to put everything into context. If you strike out 100 out 100 times with some cute chicks, but you sleep at night in a warm bed with food in your belly and no one is going to drag you and your family in the middle of the night and shoot you in back of the schoolhouse, then your life is probably not that bad.

Personally I cannot "fake" happy. I'm sure others can, but I can't. However when I am grateful, I think it puts me in the positive mindset and helps me see abundance in my life around me. I'm not sure people want "happy" but I think people do respond to "genuine" Someone who is genuine and open about it is so fucking rare, you might call it ta partial unicorn.

Be grateful and by extension, be genuine and simply accept you cannot change the world, but you can change how you choose to engage the world. And if how you choose to engage it means you must stand alone, up against the tide, against all odds, then I say fuck the entire world. Fuck it right up the ass.

I do not subscribe being "Fake" except at work. Work is an entirely different animal. Though I see it less as "fake" and more as "playing the game" It's weary bullshit, but you are dealing with weary full of bullshit people most of the time.

Wake up in the morning and think about five things you take for granted that some others in the world would give up everything to have or have again. I grew up with a guy who is now in a wheelchair. He is a millionaire. Self made, hard worker, good person , just bad luck and bad health. He'd give every penny to walk again. Whenever I feel like feeling sorry for myself, I think that I can walk, he cannot. And I've never seen him pity himself, not in front of others. If he can't walk and won't bitch about it, who the fuck am I to bitch about anything at all?

Happiness = Readjusting your expectations

This is why most women, esp most "basic bitches" are never the fuck happy, because they EXPECT EVERYTHING. They WANT EVERYTHING. They NEED EVERYTHING. And they want it, expect it and need it RIGHT THE FUCK NOW.

Well...there's something to this, but I have to seriously question your priorities here:

The key is to pretend. Just try it, and see the results. Talk positively about everything, every fucking thing, even if it makes you cry from inside. Mother died? Feel any emotion you want to feel but show to others that you are thankful, she must be in suffering and death have freed her of it. Hamster to the next level. Show others that you can't think negative.(Death of mother is just to illustrate an example, hopefully you won't start arguing about it)

Yeah, you preempted this with the "hope you won't argue this example" bit but it's too perfect as a transition into the main objection to this advice: what you lose by following it.

You lose something by being a fake.

Pretending to be "alpha" isn't a good strategy. Yeah, there's a place for "fake it til you make it". That place is limited, and it often gets turned into "fake it til you feel like you're good enough," which curiously never seems to happen.

This is the classic "just be yourself" vs some form of strategic posturing problem.

In my view it's far more effective to focus on your own experience and managing your own emotions, reactions, etc than it is to focus on impression management. You shouldn't make a habit of faking your emotions for other people - to whatever extent you do this, you are that much a fake person. It doesn't work; it's stressful for most people and highly demanding for sociopaths.

For both types there's a better way, which is to actually become a better person. Instead of managing impressions, manage yourself. Manage your reactions, your emotions, your habitual thought patterns, so as to build yourself into a stronger man who has more to offer.

Faking emotions has a small role in that process, which you outlined well above. It shouldn't be overly emphasized.

It's better to work through your suffering than pretend it's not there.