TL;DR We have met the enemy and it is monogamy.
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I get it. I get it and I'm with you.
But maybe it's one of the givens that's wrong. Maybe it happens before any of the givens makes to any of our brains.
It's not the women that are bad, spiteful, ungrateful, hypergamous, gold digging, lying, whore bitches that only open their thighs when they see an opportunity and can't be trusted to keep a promise.
Maybe it's the culture. It's the drivel we've been led to believe. It's monogamy and it's various permutations. Maybe it's what WE'VE been led to believe. That your woman is YOUR woman. Maybe that's the fallacy.
If you buy into Sex At Dawn and their evidence with primates and primitive culture its that we've been led by the nose down a path that is contrary to our natures. We weren't built for monogamy, no how no way. Men, women, others. Nope. That came in when we got property that we could bequeath and so we needed to develop a lineage. If your woman wasn't monogamous then who was this kid you were giving your land to? By that account, then is when the troubles began.
But if you look at primates or more primitive cultures that doesn't exist. Everybody fucks everybody. That spreads the genes, everybody's happy. Nobody gets bored, men get the young ones, women get the studs, and if you don't share and put out you are considered selfish and ostracized.
But instead, we've bought into monogamy, all of us. And so there has to be a hamster that justifies primitive behavior because it's contrary to the culture and norms and society.
So it's not just her. We have set her up to fail. But monogamy is the real enemy here.
Have at me now.