First post. I wanna spread out some basic ideas. I don't lurk anymore around here but the RP knowledge I gathered here offered me a great insight on life, which I am quite enjoying since a few years thanks to it.

Sorry if the grammar gets weird, not a native speaker.

Most often than not, a guy fucks it up with chicks because he overcomplicates stuff. Even being a nice and weak beta rug demands some effort, some abnegation. It's usually a certain form of manipulation. All he does to please women will then be seen as cute or creepy. Both mean unattractive.

Having sex with a girl you just met is not that complicated. Maybe tonight, maybe in a week or two, maybe never. But it's actually way easier than all the contorsions you could ever imagine. As far as I know, frame is the number one factor of the equation. Be your mental point of origin. Respect yourself first. You don't need a woman in your life. This is an instinct. Embrace it, but know that you are more than that. Don't let it control you. The more you are convinced of your own value, the more you will attract women and keep them around with minimal effort.

The problem, in my opinion, is that you won't realise how simple it is before you ever tasted true abundance. And you won't taste true abundance only by focusing on yourself, you will taste it by learning game.

If you're just starting off with TRP for example, it would be useless to focus on yourself and expect result with girls. The same way it would be ridiculous to try out game on women without thinking about how you look first. You could follow a simple program in 3 steps, each one being a few months to one year long :

Step 1 : Monk mode. Focus on yourself, put your professional situation in order, sleep better, eat well, lose or gain weight if you need to, meditate, read, spend time alone. (Read Rollo Tomassi + redpill/mgtow stuff)

This will free your mind from the bullshit, and prepare you physically/mentally for the next phase.

Step 2 : Game mode. Go out, meet new people, make friends, approach girls, find your playground, find your style, read about game, spin plates, break plates, find abundance, look for more, lose them, repeat. (Read Roosh V + game stuff)

This should be easier after monk mode than it was if you tried before. You shouldn't get out of this phase before you're sick of it.

Step 3 : Pro mode. Work, focus on your career/mission and on your purpose/hobby, spin less plates, or slower, work more, get tired, work even more, fail, get back to it. (Read Robert Greene + stuff from your field)

Here you should get the advantages of both phases, as you're having sex regularly but can go back to focus on yourself, on a more professional and external level. Read Mastery.

Maybe a step 4, with a LTR ? For that, I'd advise to read The Way of the Superior Men by David Deida.

I myself am right now in Step 3. I on't feel the need or desire for any LTR.

Last year I dedicated a lot of time and energy to sleep with various girls and see them regularly. I fucked a lot. Lots of different girls, lots of time. Everything at my place, I kept count. I did stupid shit also, as you can imagine but that brings me to my point : I may have been a little over-the-top last year but this sense of climax gave me the peace of mind that I have right now, regarding the SMV in general. I'm chill. Things are actually getting better. I'm 28 by the way. I spent winter away, with almost no contact from the 5 plates I left in my town at the time. Since I came back at the beginning of the month they're all there, and I keep meeting new girls, at a slower pace. Actively spinning plates was crazily exhausting. I was still struggling to do something simple. They do actually spin themselves.