TL;DR
Late 40s guy explains how to pull girls, after 30. This assumes you don't get married (for guys who want to). That's a different thread. This thread is about what worked for me.1 The beauty of being a man is for us, "The Wall" is coterminous with "Death".2
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From time to time, I see guys ask “What happens when you’re done with college/over 25/after 30?”
Awesomeness, that’s what happens. But it doesn’t happen by itself.
So, since, in John Maynard Keynes famous dictum, “In the long run, we’re all dead”, how then to maximize the post-college/20s years?
What to Do Now
Your Health Fucking take care of it. If you’re a young guy, now, it’s never going to be easier to get in shape and stay in shape. Lift, do something for aerobic fitness (jog/swim/whatever works for you), and eat clean. Stay away from bad shit. I know that stuff can be fun, but it’s not going to help, except for some short term pleasure. Put those gawddam Twinkies DOWN! Don't become a fat slob. Stay as fit as you can. Do it FOR YOU; as a side effect, you will be more attractive to women.
Rule Your Own World You want to know the best way to fuck your life up? If you stop making decisions based on what’s best for you, and start putting the ‘needs’ (read: wants) of others ahead of your own. Give up your dream job at Google b/c your g/f wants you to stay in Sucktown, Ohio? That will feel great when she dumps you a few months later. Look the fuck out for #1 (hint: that’s you) This is related to…
DGAF There are people who will not like what you do. That you are ‘different’ from them. Who want to have an opinion about your life, like they are entitled to tell you how to live it. Someone (particularly post-Wall SJW cunts) doesn’t like how you live your life? They can go eat a bag of dicks. That also goes for Bitter Billy Beta and White Knights who are pissed that you dare to do what they do not. If there’s someone in your life that you can’t tell to fuck of b/c you’re a young guy living at home, as an example, just say ‘Ok’, then shut up. You’ve acknowledged them, without agreeing. Don’t waste your time arguing about shit.
Figure Out What You’re Good At This applies both work-wise and fun-wise. You know what sucks? Working at a job you hate. So figure out what you like to do, and do that, if you can manage it. If you have to take a job in CorporateLand, fine. Go read my posts on how to survive there. You should always have an eye towards becoming independent. For some guys, that means living the life of a globe-trotting vagabond. For other guys that means becoming an entrepreneur. Doesn’t matter, find what works for you. Then, as God said to Moses, “Whatever thee settest thy hand to do, do thy damnedest!” (quote approximate.)
Get Your Money Straight Pay yourself FIRST. Start with 10%. You won’t miss it. After that, figure out what your needs are for what you want to do, whether vagabonding or entrepreneurship or house in the ‘burbs or whatever. Live cheap now, so you won’t have to, later.
What to Do Going Forward
Pro Tip #1
Stay away from shit that ages you: drugs, smoking, too much booze and especially women your own age. You know what post-Wall bitches HATE? A man in their age cohort enjoying himself, and living life on his own terms. Double or Triple Hater Bonus Points if he’s stuffin’ young muffins. “How dare that guy, my own age, that I’M ENTITLED TO reject me and bone that young hussy!” Yeah, like that.
Pro Tip #2
Be exceptional at something. Or two or three somethings. I front my own band. I also play on a beach volleyball team in the summer, where I’m the 2nd best player behind a guy who was a scholarship player (who knew?) in university. That’s two places for me to shine. It also helps that I make bank, but money is only useful in the right hands. There's a reason it's called Beta Bucks. Don't be that guy.
Pro Tip #3
Approach like a motherfucker. I am a natural extrovert, so it's easy for me. I have zero approach fear and haven't for a long gawddam time. Like decades. WTF is the worst thing that happens? You get turned down? So fucking what? There are girls out there who really DIG older guys. But they don't wears signs that say "Love Me, Daddy!" so you have to approach to find them. And you know what turns young women on the most? That other young women like you. Pre-selection. Put it to work for you.
Pro Tip #4
Exert your dominance. Sexualize the conversation early, before you get put in the dad/uncle category. You know what I text a girl after she agrees to meet up, as my closer? “Be sure to wear pretty underwear for me.” It sets the tone (as if it wasn’t clear already) that I’m not some pussy orbiter. I can feel them get giddy. You want to know how many of them have ever gotten ‘offended’ by that? Zero. Almost all mention, in a moment of post-coital bliss that the loved it that I “took charge”. A girl who is a candidate plate (have not banged her…yet) told me the other day that she likes it when I “get all rough and tell [her] what to do.” The Pussy Tingle Generator is ramping up….
Pro Tip #5
Don’t Try to be Something You’re Not. Don’t try to act or dress like a young guy, b/c you’re not going to be as good at it as a young guy, and you’re going to look like a doosh. Your move is “studied cool”. Other guys are trying to be somebody; you already are somebody.
Now go forth and SLAY!
1 And really, if something else worked for you, your buddy, your uncle or your dad, then great. My advice, as always, is the product of my own, meandering experience. It worked for me. If you take a different path to the top of the mountain, great.
2 And don't bother arguing with me about it. Guy who want to argue about how 80 year old guys can't pull 20 year old girls can't pull 20 year old girls themselves, now. (My youngest plate turned 20 yesterday, so I totally can pull 20 year old girls. At least one, anyway. And every one of you would crawl on your belly through broken glass to nail her. So there.)
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