Have you ever had some experience and you just wanted to submit it to /r/sex or wherever as a question just to laugh at the bad advice you'd get?

There's a girl, I'll call her Jane. Met her months ago. Made a pass. She shot me down. It's okay. That's life. She was very nice about it.

But I see her every now and then. I'm not going to draw you a flow chart but she's the sister of somebody's husband's friend etc. She's in my circle. I say "hi" to her but don't talk much beyond that. We've never really become friends, but I can't help but notice guys fawning over her whenever she's out.

Well last Friday night, out of the blue, she propositions me. Now just to be clear, I totally get that a person sometimes just wants meaningless sex. That's a very human need, right? I'm totally cool with it. I even cut through some of her BS to just straight out say that I was cool with it and let's just fucking go.

So she stays at my place overnight. The next day, I take her out for breakfast, then drop her at her car. A few hours later, I send her a text saying that I had a great time and hope she has a nice day. That's basically all I said.

Her reply: "you're a really nice guy. I had a great time too. But I don't see this as a long-term thing. Sorry"

I text back: "long term for me is a weekend"

She says, "lol." There's no further contact.

Last night, I happen to see on facebook that my friend (through whom I know her) is at a new place that just opened up. I reply to my friend. She says the place is awesome and I should come check it out. I drive there. Friend isn't there, but Jane is.

I give her the "hi" nod but didn't say anything. I talked to some strangers, then went outside because my sister called me. Jane comes out and asks me what I'm up to. I say, "god, I'm starving, let's get food" and just start walking. She says, "well I can't leave my friends" (I didn't see any other girls in the group she was in, btw - take that for what you will). I don't respond, I just keep walking. She runs to catch up with me.

We have a nice evening out, and end up back at my place. I just now took her for breakfast and dropped her back at her car. This time, I know better than to text her.

The point is, I know with absolute certainty that the reason she's willing to have sex with me is because I basically ignore her. For whatever reason (and her reasons are her business and perfectly valid) that's what she wants right now in her life. But I know for a fact that if I submitted that story up to the first text as a question to any other subreddit, they would tell me to reply with something lame - which would result in me never fucking her again.

"Dear /r/askwomen, a girl wanted to go home with me last night, what should I text her this morning?" - oh, you need to be a gentleman and make it clear that you're pursuing her.

Or even before that - "Dear /r/sex there's a really hot girl and I asked her out and she wasn't interested, but now she's flirting with me. What should I do??" - oh, you should respect her earlier decision and just walk away.

All bad advice. Sometimes, a girl just wants a guy who doesn't (appear to) care about her.

I like her. Don't get me wrong. There's a part of me that wants to text her right now and say that we should spend the day together and frolic or whatever. But The Red Pill lets me see that's not what she wants. That would just scare her off. I am 100% confident that my first instinct reply, in which I mocked the idea of an LTR, is what kept me in the running.

What is Jane looking for in a guy? Well, I got a few whiffs of that, and I just laughed. When she saw my car, which is a nice car, she went out of her way to tell me about a guy she used to date who drove a Maserati. She also told me about "her friend" who plays for Tampa Bay. Whatever. I'm not in the alpha-widow-fixing business. tl;dr: My thesis here is that if you listen to what everybody else in the world tells you, then you end up failing.