TL:DR - A man needs to get his needs met directly, a woman covertly through his needs. It is a horror story when it's the other way around.

In a past post, I had written that when you're in love with someone, whom you ultimately love is only yourself, because ultimately your needs - physical, emotional, survival whatever are being met. Being in love is a field of energy that sweeps you in, and it is that which you seek ultimately through another person. Somewhere you are able to include another person in it, or else this would be totally solipsistic, but often that never happens, especially not now.

So what it means is, this thing called love that we all want because it feels so good, is the ultimate covert contract. How it goes is like

  1. I say I love you because you meet my needs, but actually I love myself ultimately.

  2. You say you love me because of the way I make you feel and meet your needs, but actually you love yourself.

  3. We will both believe and act as if we have no awareness of this contract, because nature drugged us up with lots of good feelz.

When the feels wear off for any reason, the contract gets exposed. In rather shocking and painful ways.

But what about devotion, ? Well, devotion is great, but it doesn't need a relationship. That is a consequence of your own frame and how you want to be.

Neither is devotion a substitute that can replace attraction, nor is it some reward for attraction, nor is it something that creates sexual attraction. Attraction is a pure, selfish, reactive, but ultimately mutually beneficial emotion.

But does it mean it's a bad thing? Absolutely not. Because in the absence of attraction, revulsion is the result. If anything, a lack of attraction would expose the covert contract so overtly that you see it is actually a very cold blooded deal without the emotions behind it.

But you need to be aware of this covert contract. Needs aren't the issue here, life can't happen without needs. Emotional needs are important. And any person pretending to be needless exposes themselves as dishonest after a point, usually when they throw a victim puke. This lack of honesty means that Nice Guys, and all women, resort to covert ways of getting their needs met.

A man, as he awakens to a Red Pill Awareness, must ultimately become honest about his needs, make them a priority, turn the covert contracts into honest ones by becoming responsible for his needs and being in the drivers' seat, and replacing neediness with abundance. All that is covered well in the books. Good examples of how this is done can be found on mrp. First thing is that men slowly start making themselves responsible for their needs and becoming the men they need to be. This get shit tested by their women, which slowly transforms into comfort tests, can culminate in a main event. If the relationship is authentic, it gets to a point where the woman is snapped out of me me and me and realizes what the man's needs are, and that they're important. And that if she refuses to recognize this, he can always get them met in his own ways, and she and her needs would be the loser.

So the frame comes into the man's life when she's realized that for the fulfillment of her needs, she needs to fulfill his. It is this that eliminates the covert contract. She still gets her needs met covertly, but through her man's needs instead of using him as a mere tool that she eventually falls out of love with. And that brings us to a very important observation.

Men turn out to be very good at this process of meeting their needs overtly because that's how they were meant to be all along. In order to execute an overt fulfillment of one's needs, one needs abundance and the ability to love by looking down. Women on the other hand, necessarily need to love and get their needs met covertly. They just can't play this overt game. When they do, instantly the man is beneath them, and the attraction is gone, and in it's place, contempt results. You can see this that a woman only communicates overtly when her natural communication has failed, and she's frustrated and angry.

That's the number one mistake all feminists do. Many of them had poor relationships with their fathers and spouses and other men and they couldn't get their needs met in a feminine way. Then try to be too overt, and when they do, the sweet covert contract becomes a psychopathic, contemptuous overt contract where the truth is laid bare. Women just cannot love a man whom they see as beneath her and only a tool for herself. Men can feel this contempt at a visceral level - we are totally wired to recognize signs of a woman's contempt. And we do not like that tone she uses when she tries to communicate overtly, because there's contempt in it. We can be totally overt and they can love us for it, but she can't.

To avoid her fulfilling her end of the relationship contract overtly, we need to stop our covert contracts, which means becoming honest about our needs and fulfilling them in more direct ways. This can only happen when life is our own frame. So long as we operate in her frame, we will be the ones trying to get our needs covertly met by being weak betas, and she'll be getting her needs met directly by treating us with utter contempt and dumping us for a man where she can actually feel feminine around.

Guys, there's just no other way it can really work well. Women make terrible men, men make terrible women. Men love overtly, women covertly.

The problem with all of us is that the last time we were naturally masculine was probably when we were toddlers (read Anton's book - The Manual to get this). After that, we've been raised by women, heard their BP delusions, but been the victim of their RP actions, and have only learnt how to love in the way children and women do, a needy, dependent love that looks up and tries to get one's needs met through covert, un-masculine ways. We have forgotten how to love as men. Meanwhile, those women, not finding the masculine energy the needed from us, have tried, at least in LTRs, where this stuff becomes important - to love in overt, un-feminine ways and have failed miserably.

This problem cannot be solved by them because they don't know what they're doing. We know, and only we can fix this, at least in our own lives. Men aren't a true herd as I wrote in an earlier post, and a collective change requires every individual man to wake up from delusion. For which every man, needs to get his butt kicked by life at least once, or be naturally who he is from the start.

Of course, just because we're doing everything right doesn't guarantee total security from her, because if there's one thing forever changing and prone to flux, it's woman. If there is one thing that never really is secure at any time, it's life. The one thing that can be the steadiest presence in your own life under all situations is you alone. Otherwise security is an illusion, and you can only be confidently secure when you realize that you have overcome this need for being safe and secure always. When a man is ok with dying, he has overcome his fear of death. So don't make a covert contract that "If I do everything right the RP way, her love is guaranteed".

You are the only ever present reality in your life, all others just come and go. Either they will do it themselves, or time will do it in the long run. That does not mean our needs don't matter, but let's be realistic - the world is what it is. Only when we put our foot down strong enough and actively enough, we create a world where we are taken seriously. Emphasis on "create".

Doing everything right the RP way will make your life authentic, it will make your relationships authentic. If they were genuine, they will get better. If they are not, they will fade and die. If they were already dead, you will write the epitaph and publish the obituary, and put yourself and everyone out of their misery. When you have come to a point where you are no longer insecure about the truthful outcome, then you have overcome your need for security, and your need for covert contracts in you relationship. You can be the man in the relationship Meanwhile let her meet her needs covertly through your needs, even if she's aware of it, that's better for her and keeps her attraction high in the relationship. Then she can be the woman in the relationship. If she doesn't want to, she may go, and you'll be better off too.