If you haven't already read Rollo''s article titled "Making up for missing out" I recommend it. I discovered TRP 1 1/2 years ago when my 15 year oneitis high school;on again off again; sweetheart got back together with me after breaking up with what I now see was "chad". It didn't last long, about 2 months before she started losing interest. Partly my fault as I wasn't fully RP aware but partly I think had to due with the "alpha widow" aspect to it. So beginning of Jan 2017 I get a phone call. Its her crying saying she thinks she's pregnant. I was floored. After all these years I was ready to walk away and then she hits me with that. Anyways, it was hell, I played the supplicating beta for the first 2 months (what else was I supposed to do?) doing everything to support her. She pushed me away and despite my efforts, dropping groceries off, gift cards for the baby she just wouldn't have anything to do with me. I realize now she was thinking and talking about her ex. Brutal as growing up we had always wanted that "fairy tale" life. The house, car and dog. Smh. Fast forward, the baby was born and she was actually trying to convince her ex that he was the father. At this point I was deviated, working 12 hour shifts, bought my first vehicle, a big ass ford expedition, ya know for the family and dog. (I have a chocolate lab that everyone adores but for some reason she hates). 3.months after he was born I'm driving down the street and I spot her, fibally a chance to meet my son for the first time. I park and intercept her as she's walking, I was reclusive, reluctant, shelled.up but just happy to see him. Bunch of drama, she ends up saying she's back with Chad, and you know the rest. 1 month later she starts chirping and calling my phone, spinning it all around l. "When are you going to see your son, do you even care". I knew chad was out of the picture. I was working 2 jobs and wanted to see my son. I didn't care what happened because I knew we wouldn't last We got back together and I was seeing my son on a regular basis from November to Feb. But then she started "wondering" and after I read some messages on her phone I found out Chad was in jail for trying to disarm a police officer. Anyways, that was over as I predicted. I made numerous attempts to make arrangements or some type of schedule to see my son on a regular basis but she was ignorant or too stubborn. One last phone call I said last chance or I'm walking and you're on your own. I warned her that her idea that she was going to give chad a place to stay out of jail, and he was going to "take care of her and my son" was delusional and she would get burned. Silence for 3 months. I got some texts last week, same old guilt trip and "your son needs a father". Ignored. Very hard BTW because All I want is to have a relationship with my son. Last couple days, especially this morning she's been blowing up my phone. And here's the part where the title fits in. We were discussing things and she was giving me the "poor me" routine but then she hits me with a subtle hint that "I can do what I want with my body, and if I wanted to strip I could make good money". WTF? She was never like that in the 15 years I knew her. So regarding rolls article, she's 31 and has spent the last 9 years raising her son and now my 7.month old. The introduction of chad into her life 2 years ago has flipped a switch and I can already see where this is going. I'm concerned for the 2 boys and her future. She was never into drugs or alcohol, she was a Good girl. Making up for missing out, she realizes she's 31 and emphasizes that "she still has her body". I can see where this is going thanks to TRP. I am numb, and not so much bothered anymore as I've come to expect the worse in women. AWALT. I'm still pondering how to react to all this. If I should get involved with my son (will she use him as a pawn), or if I should walk away completely. TRP takes a LONG time to internalize and I have gone through about 4 of the 5 stages. I'm in the acceptance stage, on the verge of action. Newbies who read the material think they've swallowed TRP but it takes a while to actually digest it.

Conclusion

15 year oneitis gets a taste of chad Wants to live the younger years Hints at becoming a stripper