When Malcolm X was about 16 he spent a lot time in Harlem, the underbelly of New York. While there, he spent time with (not having sex, mainly smoking weed and chillin') with many prostitutes. He said they saw him as their little brother or whatever. They talked to him and spoke about the differences between men and women, and I think its good info. He heard all about the differences between men and women and the common misunderstandings both sides share.
One quote in the book is something that the prostitutes he talked with understood and lived by, but is not perceived by very many people. "All women, by their nature, are fragile and weak: they are attracted to the male in whom they see strength." This can be seen most anywhere. How could a woman want to be with someone that doesnt seem to hold any sort of power? Of course it does not elaborate on what sort of strength or how to get that strength.
Along with that it says that most Men are easy to push around because they desperately want to assert themselves as Men. This is seen in many failed relationships where the Man goes off and cheats because his wife is a total control freak not allowing him to assert himself. Asserting onesself is part of being Patriarchal. Once that is taken away those same men end up becoming desperate for assertion and in desperation they lose their strength. Men can then get bossed around and mentally castrated to the point that they can no longer be Men around their controlling wife, and then turn to prostitutes so they can have dominance somewhere. (Marriage can get pretty fucked)
Basically, Women dont understand Men because they do not see that the Male's greatest urge is to simply be a Man.
It also says that women are practical. In that they will at all costs try to keep their social status crystal clear while also keeping to their own secret lusts and debaucheries. This I felt was pretty good info because its something that can easily get missed when looking into the logic of someones life. Social status can be all that matters. Malcolm X saw many women who would marry a rich white man for the financial stability. Even while married though, the same white women would secretly lust after and have sex with the more manly black men.
Take this info how you will. I sorta liked it
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