I'm breaking my own suggested rule by posting this before I've been a subscriber for 90 days, but I thought it was such a perfect example of what can happen to a male who is raised to be a woman with a penis that I'm willing to play the hypocrite.

I realized today that my wife has been emotionally abusing me for years

Read that, gentlemen; it is not the writing of a man. It's the writing of a person who is physiologically male and mentally female. "Mangina" doesn't begin to cover it; he's not white-knighting or championing feminist causes. He thinks like a female.

But I don't just want to bitch and moan about pussification; what can we take away from the story of this cringe-inducing domestic clone?

Aside from the obvious RP analysis - his wife is disgusted by his betahood and is practically begging him to act like a man with her provocations - it's also a pitch-perfect representation of my personal line in the sand, my Alamo where feminization is concerned: language.

You can draw a lot of clues to how a person is in real life by their writing style, and even more from how they speak. Holding frame is the foundation on which most of living the Red Pill rests, and we talk a lot about body language and nonverbals. The importance of all of that is indisputable, but your frame can be undermined not only by your self-talk, but how you phrase things when speaking to or in front of a woman (or another man).

  • If you use passive emotional language (I am constantly kissing her ass and trying to say whatever she wants to hear to try to get her off my back, but sometimes the words don't come to me and she doesn't back off.), I don't care how good your frame is; you will come across as weak.

  • If you use politically-correct euphemisms, you are indicating your surrender to the opinion of the crowd and willingness to be just another faceless sheep in the herd.

  • You know those times when you're about to say X is true, and that's final, but you tone it down to "well, I kinda think x, what about you" because you don't want to offend her or be seen as tyrannical? She knows you're holding back.

There are so many more examples.

Don't think of it as a license to be a domineering dickwad, but for God's sake, talk like you mean it. Use body language, eye contact, tone of voice, and emotional self-control; but make sure you're not forgetting the importance of style and wording. Make your writing and speech clear, definitive, and to the point, not meandering and wishy-washy. If it means you have to think for a bit before responding in a face-to-face conversation, then do it. Done right, it will only add to your situational dominance.

Your frame can be reinforced by your words, or it can be destroyed by them. Keep that in mind.

Yeah, well, that's just, like, your opinion, man.

-- The Dude