Missed Connection

November 18, 2015
315 upvotes

Summary:

Sometimes when you miss a surefire lay, fate gifts you a second chance. I saw the same girl twice on my commute. Pussied out round one, manned up round two.


Body:

This FR begins last Wednesday, on my commute:

Commuting is commuting, it’s routine. I do it every day, same train, same subway, same destinations. I often see familiar faces on this commute but never anything more than an acknowledging nod in their direction and back down to my iPad.

Wednesday was different; I got on at the same station at the same time and found the first open seat to be next to a cute girl, HB7 by my metric, we will call her Sugar. Like any other commute, I said nothing, just observing naturally as she applied her makeup.

She is thin, has blonde hair, no wrinkles on her hands or eyes, a freckle on her cheek. She is just staring into her Instagram app using the camera as a mirror.

Using Instagram as a mirror... +1 to my slut radar

She is simultaneously engulfed in several conversations. I know this because she has a super annoying text tone. The kind you can’t help but look at.

She’s received text messages from no less than 3 different guys names on a morning commute… +1 to my slut radar

She is wearing a pretty cute yet still professional dress to work, however...

Fishnet stockings under her business attire… +1 to my slut radar (ok this last one is a bit of a stretch but the other two had me making assumptions)

This girl is an attention a whore. I’ve been doing this long enough to know it when I see it.

This is where I pussied out. (Yes, even The_Titleist misses sure fire opportunities to open a slut) I hamstered it in my brain (yes, this happens to men too) that it was the morning and even I would hate it if someone opened me up and talked to me on the train. It’s not even 9 am. Besides, I had another plate that was coming over. I move on without worrying about what could have been.

24 hours pass and I’m standing at my station waiting to get on the train. I get on, and wouldn’t you know it, the first open seat has the same girl sitting there.

I don’t miss an opportunity twice

I sit down next to her. She is doing the same routine as yesterday. Time to open this girl up

TT – “You don’t have a mirror at your house?” (I like to open in such a way that she is qualifying herself to me immediately)

She looks over and laughs after she recognizes that it’s the same guy from yesterday.

HB7 – “Haha, I do, but it passes the time on the train and you can’t commute without a good commuting selfie”

slut confirmed

TT – “Of course. Where do you get on?”

HB7 – “I get on at [Station Stop]”

TT – “Well if this is going to be a regular thing I better introduce myself. I’m The_Titleist”

HB7 – “Nice to meet you TT, I’m Sugar”

We have general chit chat about how she now lives in the town I grew up in and I continue to tease her for turning the train car into a public restroom. This goes on for about five minutes and the conversation dies naturally. I let it die; there is no need to force anything, yet. I open up my iPad and play some chess, she returns to her makeup and we ride together in silence like any other commute, only this time, I have her hamster spinning over me.

We reach our destination and I look her in the eye.

TT – “If you get on the train at [Station Stop], then you know where [Local Bar] is.”

Her eyes light up as if she had just gotten fucked in the bathroom there before walking to the train.

Sugar – “Of course! I love that place! I live across the street from [Other Local Bar] and a block away from [Local Bar].”

Giving away more information than is needed… This one is all but in the bag.

TT – “We should meet up there tonight” I give her my I’m going to fuck you the second I see you there face

Sugar - “Oh I can’t, I have something going on with friends” Shit test identified

TT – (pause) “Shame” I get up to leave. Counter with dismissal

Sugar - “But if you’re going to be there on Friday we can” Shit test passed

TT - “Cool, what’s your number? I don’t want to lose track of you.”

Sugar - “it’s (###) ###-####”

TT - “I’ll see you then”

We go our separate ways.

I meet up with her on Friday at [Local Bar]. She knew what she was there for. The second I mention that I live by myself she is ready to leave.


Conclusions:

-Women are everywhere, and they want you to talk to them.

-If you see the signs, do not hesitate. Life does not often give you second chances.

-When you hold frame and you have awareness of game, getting laid is easy.

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Title Missed Connection
Author The_Titleist
Upvotes 315
Comments 55
Date November 18, 2015 5:05 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit /r/TheRedPill
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/TheRedPill/missed-connection.38238
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3tbc90/missed_connection/
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[–]Profdiddy 128 points128 points [recovered] | Copy Link

Good FR. I Like your shit test specifics. We need more of this in the reports for ummm errrr the noobs. Certainly not old grizzled hounds like yours truly.

[–]Endorsed ContributorThe_Titleist[S] 53 points54 points  (13 children) | Copy Link

Thank you.

You're right, TRP is not the place to come and gloat, its about sexual strategy and masculinity. Writing a FR as a dick measuring contest provides no value to the community. If one noob TRPer reads this FR and becomes aware enough to get laid one time, I will have done my job.

EDIT: A word

[–]Cyclo_Hexanol16 points17 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

As a noobish member I agree. The only thing that pushes me away from this learning community is the tone of some of the posts. The break down made this really amazing. Between the slut radar and the shit test identification this was the most helpful FR I've seen helpful.

[–]Endorsed ContributorMarsupian4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The harsh tone is partly a necessity. At times someone takes it a bit far but hard criticism is a valuable commodity in today's society and an overly masculine environment keeps the bitches and PC pussies away.

Yes at times its overly antagonistic against new guys but it's often with good intentions in the hopes of giving them a wake up call.

[–]An_All-Beef_Engineer2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

the tone of some of the posts.

Go over to /seduction and see how useful the bleached tone of those posts make them.

[–][deleted] 2 points2 points | Copy Link

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[–]An_All-Beef_Engineer0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Good job mate! Now we can see behind the iron curtain of censureship and downvotes.

[–]tiiiiiiim 3 points3 points [recovered] | Copy Link

the tone? you mean what happens when men get together and use straighttalk? of course it makes you feel uncomfortable that's what happens when you're raised with a culturally produced gynocentric outlook

[–]1aguy010 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Seriously guy is blessed to have found this place.

[–]6482624 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I skip field reports usually due to the slick talkative superman complex people who write them often seem to have. I would not have read your post had it been called "[FR]" or something. But now I did and got something out of it. It reads as a normal situation that I could put myself in - so thank you for sharing.

You were excellent in just accepting the silence and letting the hamster spin, and how you dealt with her counter at the end.

Accepting silence... I'm going to work on that.

[–]Endorsed ContributorThe_Titleist[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Accepting silence... I'm going to work on that.

That is a vital point to my success here. If you're in a situation where you're going to be stuck together for a while there is no need to force anything. A lot of guys fail because they believe that if the conversation dies the attraction dies with it, wrong. Remember, she is there with you and she is not going anywhere.

Law 4: Always say less than is necessary

Adhere to the natural flow and your results should follow suit.

[–]EmDeeEx141 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Don't skip field reports. Often times they're the most useful resource we have here, next to personal experience.

[–]zyl0w0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great field report! You handled that situation really well.

[–]3savoryprunes0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

We need more of this in the reports for ummm errrr the noobs.

No shame in admitting you're an intermediate RP and benefit the most from detailed tactical analysis.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I agree. As a noob this is the type of FR I look for. It's very educational.

[–]systemshock869 29 points29 points [recovered] | Copy Link

Fishnet stockings under her business attire… +1 to my slut radar (ok this last one is a bit of a stretch but the other two had me making assumptions)

An ex did this. If my experience counts for anything, your assumption is correct.

[–]Endorsed ContributorThe_Titleist[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ha, I knew it

[–]Mustaka12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Is there a rule about shitting where you commute?

[–]1Dis_mah_mobile_one23 points24 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Nope. There's no "commute authority" that could potentially ding you, unlike work which usually has myriad levels of management above you.

[–]RawPoseidon5 points6 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Somewhat confused at you getting up to leave once the shit test came around. Did you have elsewhere to be or was it your stop? I understand that you were purposely relieving her of your attention, but am unsure if you would have done he same thing whether or not you had somewhere else to go. Where would you have went had she not stopped you after the shit test?

Just some curiosity.

[–]Endorsed ContributorThe_Titleist[S] 12 points13 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Somewhat confused at you getting up to leave once the shit test came around. Did you have elsewhere to be or was it your stop?

Remember, we were on the commute to work. The train had pulled into the station and we were still on the train. Then the shit test came and you identified that I used that tactic purposefully.

Situationally it the the best tactic that I could have used because I am headed to my place of employ, as was she. It also reinforces that I am not dependent on her answer. It avoids an extended awkward moment if I am turned down and allows me an escape valve to not blow it after securing her information.

but am unsure if you would have done he same thing whether or not you had somewhere else to go

Again, that response fit the situation. Were this to happen at say a party, a different response would be more appropriate. These are nuances that come with time and practice.

[–]systemshock8695 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It also puts pressure on her to reach out if she really wants a meetup to happen, instead of you bumbling to find some other way to fit your schedule to hers.

[–]1Soarinc0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Wow this explanation was EXTREMELY insightful as well. I was wondering the same exact thing. You basically were able to think "3 moves ahead" (like in chess) where you had a good followup to her two most likely followups to your question.

[–]Elfclan306 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

just a question, why ¨Oh I can’t, I have something going on with friends” is a shit test(and what kind of shit test this is) and what would have been a bad answer.

[–]Endorsed ContributorThe_Titleist[S] 22 points23 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

This is an excellent question. Shit tests are separated into 3 categories:

  • Dominance
  • Compliance
  • Fitness

This is a fitness test. After less than 10 minutes of conversation I'm making a bold move in asking her out. Now, she may have something to do with her friends, however, how I handle the setback lets her know if I'm am the alpha I'm selling or a beta who has stumbled on to something by accident.

I passed this shit test because I showed her that I want her but I am confident enough in myself and my options that I do not need her

I could have easily failed this test by either working way to hard to accommodate myself to her schedule (beta orbiter behavior) or slinked away disappointed (borderline omega behavior).

[–]Elfclan301 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

wow, thanks! I appreciate this!

[–]keytoimmortality0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is taking a bit of a tangent, but would you recommend acting in a similar way with male friends who are being flaky with catching up with you? I hate the feeling that I'm trying so hard to accommodate them, and the desperation comes across in my demeanour. Sounds gay having to worry about this with friends but it's something that happens with me

[–]EmDeeEx143 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Beautiful field report. Really liked how you had little tips as to what you did within your own frame in bold. That's the gold info there.

Please don't hesitate to chronicle your field reports more lol

[–]Stythe2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Well written. I like it when people point out what to look for. It took me ages to notice that stuff

[–]Quarter_Century_Club1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Excellent FR for us noobs. Thank you, sir - keep them coming.

[–]hiphoprising1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

of course she's willing to talk to you, she's texting three other guys at 9am and taking selfies on the train... She'll take any attention she can get.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great FR. Proves that real life pickup is 100% more tingles generated than Tinder hookups.

[–]GrandmasterHurricane4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Applying makeup on the subway should've gave it away.

[–]SuckingOffMyDad 3 points3 points [recovered] | Copy Link

Nice post, but:

TT – “You don’t have a mirror at your house?”

How come she didn't react negatively to this? I've never talked to a woman in public who's immediate reaction wasn't to be overly hostile followed by a complete disinterest in continuing any conversation.

Are you exceptionally good-looking?

[–]Endorsed ContributorThe_Titleist[S] 10 points11 points  (23 children) | Copy Link

I sat next to her the day before so there was a familiarity between us that gave me a little more leeway. Had I said that the first day I likely would have had to get up and move.

[–]SuckingOffMyDad 4 points4 points [recovered] | Copy Link

I've never really experienced any familiarity between people when commuting. Most people just keep to themselves and ignore each other. Did you make eye-contact and smile at her before or something like that?

[–]Endorsed ContributorThe_Titleist[S] 14 points15 points  (21 children) | Copy Link

We made eye contact and had an acknowledgement that we were sitting together on the train, but you're missing the key point. Through my observations I identified that she was a slut and therefore would be open to an attractive alpha making a move on her, it literally does not matter where it happens at that point.

[–]SuckingOffMyDad 5 points5 points [recovered] | Copy Link

I'm asking because there are some things in pickup that just don't line up with my own experiences, and I'd like to understand why because it's hindering my progress.

Do you look exceptionally good, muscular or hot or something like that? Because I've tried talking to different kinds of girls in different kinds of situations, and while I'd rate my looks as 5-6 (I see myself as better-looking but I'll assume that I'm a mere 5-6) and my charm and personality as 7-8, they'll either respond with disgust or complete disinterest.

Is there anything you think would explain why the reaction you received to talking to a strange girl was better than anything I've ever gotten?

[–]Endorsed ContributorThe_Titleist[S] 14 points15 points  (19 children) | Copy Link

I am 6+ ft, 200+ lbs and 12% bodyfat, so maybe that has something to do with it.

However, looks are malleable, bro. It is one of the few things that is within our control. A great body can make up for an average face.

[–]SuckingOffMyDad 5 points5 points [recovered] | Copy Link

Thanks for the encouraging words, but I'm not sad about it. It has just REALLY been fucking with my head when I read FRs and guys are getting reactions that are the complete opposite of mine. I know I'll get there too a few years from now, but until then I want to try to figure these things out.

So would you say that you look like you're a top 20% male or something like that?

[–]beachbloke10 points11 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Yes he is a top 10%-5% male. Top 20% is within almost everyone's reach because few men actually try, so trying for a year or two is almost a guaranteed ticket.

I came from being a bottom 50% guy to now just barely into the top 20%. Its a huge difference. Women pursue me now where before they would ignore me. They offer shit without me asking -- for instance I got free olive garden yesterday and free house cleanings for the past month. The women who do this are magically always available where a couple years ago conversations were short and curt. These women also somehow enjoy exactly the same things I do and don't tell me any of the shit they enjoy that I don't like.

The major changes I made were starting to lift, stopping a couple vices/crutches, and stopping complaining about stuff (a crutch in itself). I don't game... probably should... but women are beginning to be everywhere around me suddenly so I'm not feeling compelled to pursue it.

Internalize that if you are attractive, you are enough. Nothing you do can change whether you are attractive enough or not ... not how clever you are or how much money you have or anything else. Read some "Chad Thundercock" fake tinder profiles for what this means. If you are enough for a woman, she doesn't give a shit about anything you do. She pretends to so she can get laid by you. So based on that, getting laid based on raw attraction (versus provision) is just getting big fucking muscles and being aware of your own desires at all times.

[–]redditispurecockshit3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Basically, get buff, speak low and slow, move with unconscious intent, eye contact, have options, (or at least pretend to), take up space in a relaxed manner. It's all inner game for the most part.

[–]beachbloke0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

lol, so after writing this I got a free coffee at McDonalds this evening. There was some confusion at the price ... I wanted a $1 small coffee ... the high school HB7 chick at the window thought for some reason I wanted a $1 large coffee. She explained to me something about how it was a promotion that ended. I just said I didn't want that and stared at her until she stopped talking. But she didn't stop... instead she jabbered on and eventually said sorry and went and got her manager. Manager woman proceeded to explain how "my" large was 1.29 while I stared at her blankly and waited for her to stop also. Before she stopped, she eventually just gave me the large they had made for free. Honestly would have paid what they wanted ... but lul

The best part is how High School was blushing like crazy during the whole exchange, which is typical of that kind of situation. It feels the same as those movie scenes where a hot babe gets a pass on her speeding ticket. Its amazes me how much free shit I've gotten lately compared to years past. Its usually stuff I say I'd like in passing and then a woman (always a woman) volunteers "no problem take it". That was something that never happened to me before about a year ago. Women have no morals for hot dudes, and I'm barely a 8/10 on a very good day ...

[–]clitbeastwood1 point2 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

maybe check your body language and tone of voice ? My friend is not an attractive looking dude by most standards, but he can get a girl engaged in a convo pretty easily

[–]SuckingOffMyDad 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy Link

I don't think that's the issue if you can take my word for it, since most people know me for being charming and socially competent.

[–]clitbeastwood4 points5 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

i can dig that. but you don't need to be anywhere near a "top 20% male" or watever that is to get a girl engaged in convo

[–]verify_account0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I am 6+ ft, 200+ lbs and 12% bodyfat, so maybe that has something to do with it.

God damn you've been putting in your work at the gym. I'm 6'2" and a lean 200 lbs is my goal (currently stuck bulking in the 180's).

[–]flat6turbo2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

How come she didn't react negatively to this? I've never talked to a woman in public who's immediate reaction wasn't to be overly hostile followed by a complete disinterest in continuing any conversation.

dude you don't need to be exceptionally good looking, just not bad, not fat, and try to smirk or smile a little bit when you say it so she knows you're joking around.

if you're fat and you scowl when you say this of course they're going to have a negative reaction.

[–]Nikelu0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

There is a chance this wasn't an actual shit test but nevertheless you passed it.Strong frame.Hope you get laid,but assuming decent appearance and good game it is 100% sure you will

[–]Faps2Down_Votes0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Shit test? What if she actually had plans?

[–]Dazok_850 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Well played sir, well played indeed. Life is full of opportunity if you are inclined to pick up on it.

[–]1mr_nate_-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

God DAMN my boy TT is a professional plate magnet. Bonus points for making me laugh throughout the post

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