Hi, folks. I know this group is primarily for those who're still pursuing relationships with women, but if anyone here is more inclined to monk mode, you might find this interesting. It's an article I wrote about the negative belief that by being a bachelor, you're going to miss out on love -- and in particular, you'll miss out on the deepest and most profound type of love, romantic-sexual love. I think that belief drags a lot of single guys down, so I wanted to pick it apart.

Here is an excerpt. If you'd like to read more, link is below.

"If you are trying to live a happy, contented life as a bachelor, you have an enemy, and the enemy is inside.  Actually, there are about a dozen of them. 

I’m talking about a set of destructive, interlocking negative beliefs about the alleged perils of bachelorhood.  These beliefs can ruin your chances of having a good, satisfying bachelor life.  They can leave you stuck, feeling sad, remorseful, envious, shamed, or uncertain.  [....]

I’ll focus on this one first — the idea that bachelors miss out on love, and that, in particular, they miss out on the deepest and most profound form of love there is, a long-term, sexual-romantic relationship with a woman.    

As I’m sure you’ll agree, if that is true, it’s is a pretty big deal.  If we are missing out on one of the most meaningful experiences in life, that’s bad.  So, let’s take a look at this idea. 

I’ve wrestled with it for many years, and I’ve 95% rooted it out of my system.  I’d like to pass on what I’ve learned. If you’ve ever been bothered by doubts in this area, you might find this useful.  Even if you already know what I’m about to say, it can help to get a refresher, because the cultural and biological programming is so pervasive.    

https://goodbachelorhood.com/missing-out-on-love/