These words came to me as I was re-adjusting a younger friends head. It's probably old news for some of you, but I can imagine there are still guys that need to hear it.

Most people fail...
...at most things...
...most of the time!

Let that sink in. Ponder it.

Failure is the default state of nature. Failure is statistically inevitable.

This is why we like winning. Winning is hard. And rare.

Most of the things most people try will end in failure. Going to the gym to get ripped? Failure. Learning how to interact with women? Failure. Making money? Failure. Getting a good career? Failure.

Most people will fail at all of the tasks listed above. Yet, their own failure seems to hit them out of the blue - sometimes they even do their best to forget they even had goals in the first place. They can not handle what was almost guaranteed to happen.

Now here is the kicker:
"Most people" includes YOU.

Yes.
You.
You will fail.
At most things.
You will probably fuck up a hundred more things by the end of the year.
And there is only very little you can do about.

What will set you apart from "most people" is how you handle failure.

Expect it.
Embrace it.
Cherish it.

Because if you persist, failure will become the currency that buys sucess.
The more you had to fail to achieve something, the bigger the success.
And correspondingly, any success that can be achieved by most people is not a success - it is the illusion of success.

Shitting out babies? That worthless degree? That soulless dead-end job? That little bit of cardio? Playing video games? Participation trophies? Being a nice guy? Having a (lame-ass) girlfriend?

Those are not success. We try to frame them as such, but on a gut level we can't. If we are honest with ourselves - trying to do so disgusts us to the core. And it should.

Reject those illusory successes for things that are HARD to achieve.

And then fail.
Again and again.
Until you don't.