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[–]RPBulletDodger9 points10 points11 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
No excuses...
On the flipside, you just created this entire shitpost of excuses to get married (and the best excuse that you could come up with is "at least the wedding ring is cheaper bruh") under the guise of 11/10 being Singles Day (in your country; the rest of us feminist infested shitholes in the West do not have the luxury of such a blissful holiday).
...and no regrets.
You will, and sooner than you think.
[–]1Entropy-7[S] -4 points-3 points-2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And my witty response is "fuck you". Live your sorry life but don't diss my day or what practical advice I can convey, young pup.
[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon19 points20 points21 points 6 years ago (23 children) | Copy Link
Next week I am taking myself off the market and today I pick up the wedding rings
Come on OP... you've dated enough women to know that relationships have an expiry date. Marriage is a gateway to a deadbedroom and financial evisceration.
And don't tell me "just be alpha enough bro, and it'll all be fine". It won't. Most marriage fail, most of the rest are awful for the man (and not that great for the woman). Divorce is universally terrible for men and provably shortens male lifespan.
Don't do it, don't encourage others to do it. Get a great girl by all means, but don't expect it to last because it won't.
[–][deleted] 7 points8 points9 points 6 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
On a micro scale, marriage is a bad deal, especially for men in the Western world.
But macroscopically, marriage is immensely important. How else would one raise children in a stable social environment?
This is probably the part of the red pill that I am most skeptical of. I fully recognize that marriage is a bad idea on the individual level in the Western context -- but civilizationally, it's immensely important. But I understand that this is the part of the red pill that advocates "exploiting the decline." That's fine, but I'd hope that people still concede that, societally, without marriage, we're fucked on the long-term.
[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon6 points7 points8 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Marriage destabilises because you are literally paying her to leave you and break up the family when she divorces you, which statistically she will.
but civilizationally, it's immensely important.
in its current form it's destructive to everything. it only benefits women - not men or children.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Huh? Yes, in the West, where you are literally paying her to leave you, it is destabilizing. Hence why it is declining here. But I meant historically, because that was not the case historically -- there's no such thing as alimony or child support payments in the Islamic world, for example.
I agree completely
[–]gELSK0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
// , veritas_0ne, if you're using a non-dictionary definition of a term, e.g. "historical institution of marriage" rather than "marriage", make sure to spell it out.
I'm sick and tired of equivocation of this kind.
[–]1Entropy-7[S] -3 points-2 points-1 points 6 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
My bride is a Filipina - from the only country in the world that does not have divorce laws.
I honestly don't know if kids are in the cards given that I am in my 50s. I would be almost 70 by the time the kid went to college.
[–]Morphs_0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
You decide here. You're still fertile. So the question is, do you want it?
[–]1Entropy-7[S] 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Yep. That will be first topic for discussion.
[–]TheRedPillRipper0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
That's one of the first things I would've ascertained prior to even contemplating getting married/living together. She might want 1 and you want 100. It's arguably the biggest topic/reason to enter a relationship for both parties.
A couple of questions;
Her financial status? 18 years difference and you being in your 50's appears she may be using you for a sugar daddy/meal ticket?
Her nationality/citizenship status? She could be using you to gain residency/citizenship to your country? Especially if she lives/lived in the Philippines.
Your motivation for marrying? Could you be love-blind-sighted by this woman?
Have you put in place precautions in case of failure/marriage breakdown? Pre-Nup? Separation of finances?
It can work. I made a lot of mistakes with my first marriage and now I live with my current partner(won't marry again). My game however needs to be and is tighter than a nun's bum-hole.
[–]1Entropy-7[S] 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I generally condider myself a rational guy but admittedly, this was not a rational decision. I fell in love and maybe it will be the death of me.
1 No sugar daddy. I am a vagabond and she actually has more assets than me. My earning power is about 3-times her's but I have pissed everything away while she has real estate and is building what will be our summer home.
2 Nope. As a Filapina it is actually easier for her to get status in Canada than to get status with me and stay in China. I don't know all the details but basically a Filipina can come to Canada and work as a domestic for 2 years and then get residential status.
My motivation is two-fold. First is that she is so wonderful and second is that I am getting tired of the game. I am hyper-self-aware of what I am getting into, and yet I chose this. Again, I do not reccommend this for younger guys.
Not for me, but any other man should. As I said, I am a vagabond and now she is my only defining feature. Whatever we build from here is 50/50 and I am comfortable with that if (I doubt it) we split down the road.
[–]1Entropy-7[S] -2 points-1 points0 points 6 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
I don't encourage younger guys to marry but I've been at this for over 30 years and it gets tired.
I am not going to be gaming women as a senior citizen and I don't want to die alone.
I found my unicorn after a long haul so don't piss on my success, but rather emulate it.
[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon14 points15 points16 points 6 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
marriage isn't retirement for you. it's retirement for her. your performance requirements don't drop. hers do. it's completely one sided and not in your best interests.
I don't want to die alone
marriage won't help with this.
I found my unicorn
Unicorn.
I can't help you, but I wish you luck.
[–]1empatheticapathetic5 points6 points7 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Let him be his own Guinea pig. She's not his, it's just his turn. He's going to bet it all on black and keep betting until it all goes horribly wrong and subsequently makes a TRP report about it. Let's just see what happens.
[–]1Entropy-7[S] 2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Checkback with me 10 months.
[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You'll be fine for 10 months.... probably even a few years.
[–]1Entropy-7[S] -1 points0 points1 point 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Or maybe 35 years - - -my life expectancy,
[–]alecesne-1 points0 points1 point 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
This I the answer. If you're 30 and trying to give a 50 year old advice, imagine how you would react to yourself half a lifetime ago.
Marriage is an ancient and very human institution. Don't condemn it while cloth even if modern states have deformed it a bit. There are legitimate reasons-
[–]1Entropy-7[S] 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This girl does things for me that none other has done for 30 years so I think she is a good bet.
[–]sir_shitfuck 1 points1 points1 points 6 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Can someone mark this as a blue pill example
[–]1Entropy-7[S] 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Someone could but they won't and they shoudn't.
You are young and don't really understand things.
[–]beam_me_up2017 1 points1 points1 points 6 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
today I pick up the wedding rings - at a 12% discount
I was really hoping this would be followed by a scheme to sell them back at a huge markup to beta proposing guys in advance of Valentine's Day.
[–]1Entropy-7[S] -1 points0 points1 point 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Maybe that is their game but I don't think so.
[–]foot_odor2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
The rage can be big here sometimes. It’s like people are almost wishing anyone who declares entering a LTR wherever in the world will fail.
[–]1Entropy-7[S] 4 points5 points6 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Women are not the enemy: you are your own worst enemy. Get over yourself and you will be much more happy despite any relationship situation.
[–]gELSK1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
so always take her counsel
When dealing with an intellectual equal, and in an arms length exchange of information, not status, I would agree.
Marriage involves NONE of the above conditions, though. In my eagerness to learn from others I learned a hard lesson, that every piece of advice comes with an implicit status inference.
Be sure to post all the fascinating pictures of your marriage ceremony.
Remember, the more lavish, the more she will feel like her status is high.
We are getting married at a Hong Kong government registry. We will probably have two ceremonies in PH and CDN.
[–]vwzwv1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
51-18=33
Odds are you have a post wall 33 year old woman doing her best to fuck good long enough to hitch you and carry off half your money.
[–]MrCompleteRealism-3 points-2 points-1 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
All of that god chinese p00n around, you're not black, and you are marrying a dirty filipina? Come on man.
What can I say? I am slumming the Love Boat.
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