She Said, "We're Not Going To Have Sex," Three Times. You Won't Believe What Happened Next.

June 25, 2018
There were hundreds of beautiful women in the Vegas Nightclub, Omnia. I scanned the balcony for potential prospects. I approached an attractive blonde girl in a sun dress standing next to her friends and said, “You don’t really look like you belong here.”

She replied, “What do you mean?”

“Well, you don’t look like a party girl. You’re dressed too classy for a Vegas Nightclub.” I continued, “But that’s a good thing. I’m not a party girl, either, so we might just get along.”

She laughed, told me her name was Carly, and started asking me questions about what I do, who I’m with etc. (always a good sign).

As we continued talking, Carly told me she was a published poet and the valedictorian at her high-school (when a girl tries to impress you, it usually means she likes you).

I said, “Who would have thought we’d end up talking about poetry in a nightclub? This has turned out to be interesting.” She agreed, and I continued, “Let’s head to the dance floor for a minute.” I took her hand and brought her to dance with me.

After dancing for about ten minutes, we returned to the balcony and I asked Carly what she was doing later that night. She replied, “Not sure, what about you?” (When a girl says this, it means she wants to hang out with you later.)

After a few more minutes of chatting, I said, “Hey, it’s too loud here, I want to be able to have a real conversation with you. Let’s go back to my hotel and have a drink.” (Credit goes to Russel Brand for this line.)

She replied, “Sure, that sounds like fun. But, I want you to know, we’re not having sex.”

I didn’t acknowledge her comment (because to do so would make it seem like it affected me). I simply said, “Ok, let’s go.”

As we waited for an Uber outside of the club, she said, again, “We’re not having sex tonight.”

I said, “Okay.” and then return the conversation to the previous topic.

We got out of the Uber by my hotel. As we walked towards my room, she said, “We’re not having sex tonight.” I reassured her by saying, “I know,” and we walked into my room.

As I filled my shot glass with Jameson, I said, “You know, I generally don’t like meeting women at clubs because although there’s plenty of beautiful girls there, almost none of them are smart enough to really intrigue me.” “She said I totally agree, I’m actually a sapiophile” (Every girl who knows what the word sapiophile means thinks she is one.)

I continued, “Yeah, so I’m really glad I met you, you’re an exception to the rule.”

I paused to give her a chance to make googly eyes at me. Then, I said, “Yeah, you’re the total opposite of most club girls. Very smart. Not the most attractive, but you know, it’s inner-beauty that matters.”

For a moment she looked dejected, then she said, “Screw you, do you want to get slapped?”

I gave her a sarcastic grin before saying, “I’m just kidding, obviously. You’re not just smart, you’re beautiful too. Stunning. You know that, don’t you?”

Then, I leaned in to kiss her. The kiss quickly escalated into making out, and within a few minutes, she exclaimed, “Are you going to fuck me already, or what?”

After saying, “We’re not going to have sex.” three times, she asks whether I’m going fuck her already. Part of me wanted to give her a lecture about boundaries and honest communication, but a bigger part of me (wink, wink), wanted to fuck her brains out. So, I picked her up from the couch, walked her into my bedroom, and threw her on the bed. What happened next, you can probably imagine.

Key Takeaways:


We’re Not Going to Have Sex


Oftentimes, when a woman says, “We’re not going to have sex,” she’s only saying it because she’s been considering having sex with you. The emotional part of her brain wants a good plowing, but the logical part of her brain is telling her that she shouldn’t have sex with a guy she just met. She verbalizes that she’s not going to sleep with you to relieve herself of cognitive dissonance.

But she wants to fuck you. If she becomes sufficiently aroused (I used all the strategies in this article to arouse her: , her silly logical reason to not have sex with you will fly out the window as quickly as her panties drop to the floor.

On the surface, having a girl tell you, “We’re not going to have sex,” is one of the worst things that she could say (unless you’re a celibate monk, in which case you should probably stop reading this), but in actuality, it’s one of the best things she could say.

Create Sexual Tension with Push-Pull

A pull is anything that makes a girl feel validated (I.E. complimenting her, giving her your attention, or buying her a drink).

A push is anything that makes a girl feel invalidated (I.E. making fun of her, taking away your attention, or refusing a request she makes).

Pulls are important because they show a girl that you like her and want to spend more time with her. But too much pull without any push makes a girl feel like you’re putting her on a pedestal to get something from her. If you regularly compliment a girl and agree with everything she says, she’s going to think you’re spineless. And depending on her personality type, she may even take advantage of you (I.E. letting you buy her things even though she has no interest in sleeping with you).

At the same time, if you constantly make fun of a girl, interrupt her, and are generally dismissive of her, she won’t feel that you see her as anything more than a sex object, and that will make her distrust you.

Your interactions with women should have a good mixture of push and pull. You compliment her, but you also tease her. You show interest in what she says, but you’re willing to disagree with her.

The combination of push and pull creates a dynamic where she enjoys being around you, but she’s not completely sure whether you’re interested in her. This doubt creates sexual tension.

With Carly, I created a strong pull when I told her she was much more intelligent than most women who go to clubs. I turned the pull into a push by telling her, “You’re very smart. Not the most attractive, but you know, it’s inner-beauty that matters.” This riled her up because it took away the validation of the previous compliment.

Then, I flipped it again by telling her she really was beautiful. That’s the basic formula for creating sexual tension. A pull makes a girl feel good, but it also gives away your power in the sense that it lets her know she could “get” you. A push replaces that good feeling with doubt and makes her want to get the good feeling you gave her earlier, back.

I know this sounds manipulative when it’s explained so bluntly, but this is the basic dynamic underlying all good flirting: whether or not you’re aware of it. Push pull is what “naturals” (guys who are good with women without needing to learn about it online) do instinctually.

Most guys who aren’t good with women either pull too much (this is the stereotypical nice guy who bends over backwards for a girl he barely knows),or push too much. But a good interaction needs both push and pull, that’s what makes a woman want to start actively pursuing you, instead of just putting up with your advances. An easy way to make sure not to do too much pull is to adhere by commandment v (, only give her 2/3 of what she gives you - let her do most of the investing in the interaction.

Capitalize on Good Logistics

When a girl goes out to a Vegas nightclub with a group of two other female friends, there’s a very good chance she’s out to flirt with guys. If you ask a girl to dance and she doesn’t object by saying something like, “Okay, but I have to tell my friends,” that’s another good sign.

The less attached a girl is to her group of friends, the more likely it is she’s open to going home with a guy that night. When a group of girls are clingy, it often means they plan on going home with each other, not with guys. A great way to find out if a girl is open to the possibility to going home with you is to ask, “What are you doing later tonight?” If she says she isn’t doing anything or asks what you’re doing, it probably means she’s down to go home with you.

When a girl’s logistics are good, capitalize on them – it definitely makes things easier. However, if a girl has bad logistics, you can still make something happen if she really likes you. Logistics are good to be aware of, but bad logistics can usually be overcome.


Sometimes when a girl says, “We’re not going to have sex,” what she really means is, “I want to have sex with you, but I don’t want to feel like I’m easy to get into bed.” When it comes to dating, what a woman says, and what she means, are often two very different things.

It can be frustrating when a woman sends mixed signals, but that’s the whole point! If a girl tells you, “We’re not having sex,” and you get visibly upset and reactive, that tells the girl that you’re not very sure of yourself and that you’re not in control of your emotions – which means you’re probably not a guy she should be having sex with. If you understand why women test men, those tests will actually be reassuring to you. When a girl says, “We’re not going to have sex tonight,” you’ll know that in an hour she’ll be saying, “Are you going to fuck me already, or what?”

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Title She Said, "We're Not Going To Have Sex," Three Times. You Won't Believe What Happened Next.
Author Socialinception
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Date June 25, 2018 10:14 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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[–]opper-hombre1137 points138 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

"were not fucking tonight"

*laughing smile, "haha, OK"

[–]infamous323880 points81 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Classic ASD. This happens more times than you can imagine.

I had a similar experience at that exact nightclub the one time I went. Friends birthday, had one of the outside tables on the roof-deck, pulled a girl who kept saying she had a bf so “wouldn’t do anything” over and over, while her friends were there. Once we were back in the hotel room the script flipped and she couldn’t take her clothes off fast enough. Vegas.

[–]1TRPKiddo403 points404 points  (30 children) | Copy Link

I’m scared the wrong person will read this and they’ll take away the wrong message and they’ll end up with a rape charge.

This shit is the truth, though. One of my plates started off telling me that she’s a faithful girlfriend and that we’re not fucking.

[–]1Socialinception[S] 359 points360 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

Saying, "we're not going to have sex," during a conversation is very different from saying, "No," while you're making a physical advance. If someone can't tell the difference, something is wrong with them.

[–]1TRPKiddo164 points165 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

You’d be surprised, man. It’s a wild world.

[–]white_girl_lover41 points42 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Lmao how many charges have u gotten?

[–]WolfofAnarchy 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy Link

22 more years and I'm free

[–][deleted] 16 points17 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Hey at least u have web access in prison. That's pretty dope.

[–]menial_optimist0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

What would be your response if instead of her saying "We're not having sex tonight" it was "But I'm married."

[–]1Socialinception[S] 9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This happened to me recently (she was engaged). I knew she was into me because she came back to my place to drink without any of her friends - but she started talking about the relationship and second-guessing herself. I basically said that obviously a part of her isn't sure about her relationship and wants to meet other guys, and if she doesn't hook up with me, that desire of hers won't just go away. But if she does hook up with me, she'll have scratched the itch and she'll know whether she really wants to be monogomous.

I also got her to give me verbal consent just to be safe.

[–]ttt9114 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Imo it's not worth it. Even if the sex is godlike, there are other single girls that you can have it with. Might me ok if she has a boyfriend but not a husband.

[–]dontforgetthispw56 points57 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Met a girl at a meeting and went out to the parking lot. She says "nice ferrari" (I own a porsche) I asked her to follow me home, and she did. She then proceeds to get super sexual, all the while saying she has a steady boyfriend and is not going to have sex with me. She gave me one of the best blowjobs I've ever had, and said "see, we didn't have sex." I then knew that there were all kinds of options with this girl and it lasted about 2 weeks. I was ok with that. Some girls even classify sex differently, so put that in your pipe and smoke it.

[–]geo_gan2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

one of the best blowjobs I've ever had, and said "see, we didn't have sex."

Is this an example of the female hamster?

[–]Endorsed ContributorAuvergnat105 points106 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

Women have always given "fake no's". As in she says "no", but she doesn't really mean "no". She actually means a combination of "I'm not sure yet, keep trying to convince me" or "not quite in the mood yet" or "I don't want you to think that this is what I am thinking about". This is standard courtship practice as it allows her to:

  1. filter the attractive confident men that she wants to fuck from the masses of unconfident men, AND

  2. it soothes her anxiety of the terrible thought that the elected guy, her friends, and herself might see her as "too easy" (that's the mark of very low value women, that result in being dumped by men, and shamed by women).

The attitude of most women of not approaching men, but letting them do the work serves the exact same purpose. Shit tests too. The "I don't usually do this" and other "I'm not that kind of girl" expressions too.

Women know this. It's always been like that. And it's always been fine because men are usually able to see the difference between a "fake no" and a real no.

  • If he can't tell, if she gives a fake no and the guy interprets it as a real one, then she successfully filtered out the loser.
  • If she gives a real no, and the guy interprets it as a fake no, then a harder overt no will make it clearer. And if he persists, she simply escalate it: Stop talking to him, saying it loud enough for people around to hear, giving him a resolved and angry look on her face, throwing her drink at him, calling on other men for help getting rid of him. Unless the guy is socially retarded, or intent to have sex with her against her will (the standard definition of "rape"), he will eventually bend.

Easy process.

Now enters the new, modern definition of rape as "sex I wanted and had but was either (1) not 100% enthusiastically into it, or (2) fully into it but not sober at the time, or (3) fully into it then but kinda regret it now, or (4) fully into it then and still now but the information could seriously damage my reputation or current relationship". That new definition is essentially simply a means for women to sooth their potential regrets, gain social brownie points, and damage-control their reputations. That's all it is. Just another useful social convention for women. Before that, women who regret sex would just accept their responsibility, feel shameful, promise to themselves they won't do it again, keep the info under wraps, and move on. There are still plenty of women out there who to exactly that.

This useful social convention is completely unrelated to the courtship process of course, except that "fake no's" now provide the perfect "proof" to enforce it.

This poses a problem: as an attractive and confident man who is not socially retarded or a rapist, you can tell a fake no when you see it, but how sure are you that this woman will not weaponize this later on? She may look genuinely nice and not "the kind of person who would do that" and you may make it very enjoyable to her and leave her happier than you met her, but maybe her BFF is a die-hard feminist? or maybe she actually has a boyfriend who she wants to stay with?

So overall as a man in 2018, you're probably better off quitting at the first "soft no" you hear. Sure she'll be disappointed, and she'll put you in the category of losers who can't tell a fake no from a real no, and you'll lose an opportunity for sex, but it's likely the price for safety for men in 2018 in the U.S. Perhaps when you hear that first "soft no" and immediately realizing the courtship is off, and before leaving her tell her exactly this in a serious face:

"I know you don't really mean this, but I cannot risk to see this sentence being held as proof in any potential false rape accusation later, so I'll leave you here. Too bad, as we were having fun and you seem like a good girl. Good night"

We probably won't get rid of the new definition for rape, but maybe just maybe girls will stop using this super-classic line over time, preferring other conventional ASD expressions instead such as "I have a boyfriend".

[–]womans_algorithm21 points22 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Even if she never said no, after sex, she can still lie and people/police will believe her.

[–]Luckyluke2333 points34 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

so as someone who is here trying to learn and go from 0 sex to 1 sex. i should now stick at the 0 sex?

what a confusing time we are in man

[–]BurnoutRS9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

an escort service can take the fear of a rape charge off your mind and give you a softer environment to develop sexual confidence.

If youre afraid of appearing too beta and accruing a rape accusation, consider how that fear can manifest a self fulfilling prophecy "oh god am I doing ok? Im not being rapey am I?" he thinks, so in his own head he's unaware that the anxiety is twisting him into an increasingly creepy and awkward person

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Do it like me, hire a hooker.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Never stick with 0 sex. You can do it. Just visualize it and work yourself into a burning hot desire for it and it will happen.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

OR, do it anyway, and cover your ass (don't talk to the cops, record if possible, etc.)

You want that super hard enthusiastic yes, otherwise you're still showing beta behavior even if you end up banging.

[–]1Zanford9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Outstanding writeup of these issues.

In OP's case, the things the girl says while they're out in public are not really an issue. At his place, she said " “Are you going to fuck me already, or what?”" and things proceeded from there.

She'd have to flat out lie to accuse him of anything, and if she's going to flat out lie, she'd just make up things she said earlier anyway.

[–]Pepethe1stofHisName2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

a laughably complicated way to counter one's own autism

A false accusation can come even without ASD

[–]geo_gan0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This stuff should be printed out and dropped war-leaflet-style by aircraft into every school yard in the world...

[–]greenlittleman0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Rather than that you could have a audio-recording of the process where she eventually ask (or beg) you to fuck her hard - then your chances of fake rape case would be minimal - she wouldn't go to police as long as she knows you have solid proofs. There are other ways what would make chance for this shit minimal - and it was discussed more than once here on TRP. Some guys here fucked hundreds of women without any sort of legal problems.

[–]wisty2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

"Don't say that, he might get a girl in trouble" has resulted in a society where getting blind drunk and sleeping with another blind drunk person is how a lot of college-aged kids seem to hook up these days. This lack of competence (in men) isn't making women safer, on the contrary it's a part of what feminists claim is a "rape culture" on campus.

[–]1Zanford1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Did you notice the part of the FR where she said " “Are you going to fuck me already, or what?" "

[–]hiddenpleasures1230 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

She could say nothing and be DTF. Always to go make up a different story to the police later.

You can't prevent rape allegations, but you can protect yourself from the consequences from them.

[–][deleted] 179 points180 points  (12 children) | Copy Link

If you can read women and aren't autistic, "We're not going to have sex" with a woman who you have interactions which can be interpretted as sexual mean "I am considering having sex with you, balls in your court, I'm not a slut I tried to say no"

[–]washington_breadstix216 points217 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

If you can read women and aren't autistic

Ruling out a large portion of this sub and reddit in general.

[–][deleted] 16 points17 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

i really wanna say any female who talks to you and isn't related wants to fuck you or is using you, but if she associates with you she's probably down to fuck..

but it'd be misinterpreted by autists, but we're reaching some non autists and that's the important part.

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I like your flair

[–]modTheRedPike2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

We used to have "MommysFavoriteMistake" over on asktrp, but we had to permaban him. They both wore it shamelessly.

[–]TomasoJew5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Yhea true, they need the smallest reason to not feel like a slut. Even a “We’re not going to have sex tonight” will justify her actions in her head. Because yhea, at the very least she “tried” to stop you, while deep down she’s craving it.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Its retarded, but yeah its how their brains work.

[–]1ozaku70 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This reminds me of the times when I really wanted to ride my motorcycle to school because it took 30 minutes instead of 1,5 hours by public transport. I just stared at the clock thinking like "I should actually go in 10 minutes to catch the bus". Then "I should leave now" to finally "The bus just left and I'm still here, guess now I have to take the motorcycle to be on time for class".

More like "I'm conflicted, give me reasons to choose for the latter!"

[–]TheDevilsAdvokaat2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Yep. The reason she mentioned it is because she WANTS you to start thinking about it; but she doesn't want to seem like a slut.

It's almost like a child telling you they bought you an xmas present "but it's not shirt!". Usually, it's whatever they say it isn't.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Women are children confirmed?

[–]redd_reality24 points25 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

"but I'm not having sex with you"

That's the perfect chance to unleash "I said a drink, dont count your Chick's before they hatch, young lady."

Like shooting barrel fish. This is because attraction is largely decided the moment your eyes meet hers. Walk around with that confidence and "game" isn't a game, it's just having the balls to be honest to attractive women.

[–]TangoZulu5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

My go to reply is “Don’t make promises you have no intention of keeping, lady.” with a sly smile. It’s a playful way to call them out on the silliness of making such a declaration before the interaction has reached the point of being physical and shows that you’re socially aware of the shit test at play. Works 60% of the time every time.

[–]friggindoc12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

"Dont worry. I only sleep with 18 year old models." has done wonders for me if the woman in question is older then 25

[–]1ozaku71 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I have a friend who has said the same sentences to a few guys, for the main purpose of making sure that sex is an option and not a must. If the guy doesn't make a fuss about it and just allows it to happen naturally she was fine with it and ofcourse it happened because the guys played the interaction well. Everytime I had sex with some girl it was never implied that we were going to have sex. I was just going to sleep over and that's that, and all times it ended up in sex because it naturally progressed.

The last thing she wanted is to go with some beta who thinks that they will have 100% sex after she enters his premises, and they are easily weeded out by this shit test because they will throw a fit or get so disappointed, that it's clear that the guy had not a single interest of "having a nice evening" (where sex is a part of if you play it well) and only was interested in getting in, dropping your pants and banging away for a minute. Women just want to have fun.

[–][deleted] 21 points22 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

This reads like the masturbatory fantasy of a 16 year old boy lmao

[–]sef2398 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

this is a complete fairy tale

[–]1Socialinception[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Because a guy brought a girl home - is that hard for you to believe? If it is, that says more about you then it does about me.

[–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

No because it sounds like shitty erotica lol, I’m not saying you didn’t fuck. I was waiting for the scene where you play high stakes poker while attempting to infiltrate a world class crime syndicate.

[–]1Socialinception[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That happened the next weekend. Stay tuned ;)

[–][deleted] 43 points44 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Oftentimes, when a woman says, “We’re not going to have sex,” she’s only saying it because she’s been considering having sex with you.

This is true, but you're missing the single most important point here - she said this unprompted to you. That's an obvious indicator she was thinking about it. When you're sitting around with a girl talking about sex related things already at your hotel room and she says it, that's one thing. Entirely prompted means you're 100% golden absent a fuck-up.

[–]MadSparty1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Entirely unprompted, you mean?

[–]SmallerButton61 points62 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

The title sounded sounded incredibly clickbaity

[–]thoughtlow 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

I think that it's a joke because we all know what happend next

[–]1scissor_me_timbers0010 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

yeah that’s the joke dude

[–]Narcissist45693 points94 points  (23 children) | Copy Link

So many compliments? Why? You almost came off cringy in my opinion.

“You’re not like other girls.” “You’re so smart.”

Jesus Christ man if you weren’t at the most exclusive/expensive nightclub in Las Vegas (demonstrating social status/earning power) I doubt your cringy compliments would’ve worked.

[–]1TrenGod3757 points58 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

As I agree and this wouldn’t be my approach. Neither would just saying “okay” when she said about not having sex.

There’s more than one way to skin a cat. OPs goal was to have Sex and he had sex. So it doesn’t matter how he got there.

Smart girls like to be told they’re sexy. And sexy girls like to be told there smart. I don’t think OPs showered her in compliments to a point of cringe. It may have been close but if your game is good and frame is good and you’re attractive. You can get away with a lot more than most guys. You don’t have to always be an asshole you’re allowed to give a compliment here and there.

Do whatever works for YOU OP

[–]Store_Front_Door3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I remember reading a discussion under some post, which ended with a conclusion that when your value is high, you can get away with very beta-ish behavior, if it's taken out of context, like enrolling in long ass text convos with a girl, or showering her with compliments, as long as you do it in confidence from the place of outcome independence. (You don't text her, because you believe she wants to, you text her because you feel like it and if she's not receptive/goes cold after that, you move on like it's nothing, because you've got plenty of options; which goes back to being of high value)

[–]1TrenGod371 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I wrote something of the sort and it’s true. Not so much showering of compliments. It will eventually back fire. But you can get away with a lot

[–]1Socialinception[S] 37 points38 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

Lol - two compliments is cringey in your opinion? You seem to think that a man almost never fucks a girl after saying a couple nice things to her, which is ridiculous. Also, there's a big difference in complimenting a girl you just met and complimenting a girl who's alone in a room with you and you're about to fuck. In the second scenario, a compliments can help pass comfort tests like "We're not going to have sex" because part of her is worried that you just want to have meaningless sex - women want to feel like sex is meaningful. You don't need to use compliments, but there's no reason to have such an averse reaction to then.

[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen32 points33 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

comfort tests like

What is it with the inflationary use of that bullshit lately?

If you believe in comfort tests at fucking all, it is still not necessary to distinguish them from normal shit tests until you are far into a serious LTR. The very definition of a comfort test forbids using it in conjunction with a club hoe you had an ONS with.

women want to feel like sex is meaningful.

Blue pill horseshit. They want to feel like they are used in all possible manors by you to your satisfaction. All they need is a little bit of plausible deniability in order to justify gulping down your cum as if it was Creme Brulee of Tonka Bean in order to be able to tell themselves and their friends that it was a special moment and "it just happened".

Most don't even need that. The femitard re-programming of telling them that they are entitled to jump on any juicy dick they want to has already worked wonders in our favour.

[–]Narcissist45613 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you Vandaalen, a voice of reason.

[–]SpencerSauce30 points31 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yah that sounded cringe to me too. Did everyone clap at the end?

[–]Endorsed Contributoritiswr1tten1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Hey man, if you started genuinely overcoming your inadquacies on hair loss etc you wouldn't feel the need to make these comments.

It's a journey for everyone and we all have to start somewhere!

[–]Narcissist4569 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

What the fuck you talking about? How does me asking questions about a hair loss shampoo have anything to do with this dudes cringe ass compliments?

[–]moltenw3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It doesn't. The 2 point contributor just wanted to be a smartass.

[–]Lambdal70 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

It's called push and pull. Full on redpillers only do push and wonder why they don't fet 9s and 10s.

[–]Senior Endorsed Contributormax_peenor1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

What is a "full on redpiller"?

[–]Narcissist4560 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

This dudes autistic lol “full on redpiller.”

[–]Senior Endorsed Contributormax_peenor1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Never go full Scotsman.

YEs, I understand I'm reversing it, spergs. Are you not entertained?

[–]halfback9109 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Find out how this local man has sex THOUSANDS of times every day! Planned Parenthood HATES HIM!!!!

[–]spencerc256 points7 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Do you live in Vegas? Or just visiting?

[–]1Socialinception[S] 11 points12 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Visiting. I'm probably going to move there soon for a year or so - it is a great city for game. It's cheap and there's a virtually limitless supply of women.

[–]xeroshogun9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Vegas is cheap? Maybe if you are nowhere near the strip

[–]1Socialinception[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

The Meridian is a high-quality gated community 4 minutes from the Strip and it's 700 each for two people - if you go 10 minutes from the strip it's much cheaper for a decent place.

[–]Endorsed Contributormallardcove6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Haha at needing a roommate in Las Vegas. Are you making minimum wage or something? I lived there 6 years ago and didn't have a room mate. Cost of living is cheap there. If you are moving somewhere for girls before you have your shit together financially/job wise that's a mistake.

You have enough money for Omnia, but not enough to live in Las Vegas without a roommate?

[–]strikethrough1235 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

When they say this, they're only thinking of three things: sex, with you, tonight.

[–]monadyne6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

"Oftentimes, when a woman says, “We’re not going to have sex,” she’s only saying it because she’s been considering having sex with you. The emotional part of her brain wants a good plowing, but the logical part of her brain is telling her that she shouldn’t have sex with a guy she just met. "

I think an additional reason for saying it is because she wants to find out if someone will value spending time with her as a person, not just a fuckable body. By not just nexting her upon hearing that she's supposedly not going to fuck, she's reassured that the guy is actually interested in *her.* That comforts her enough to allow him to fuck her fuckable body.

[–]1Socialinception[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yeah man, I agree. The solution, either way, is to not make a big deal of it or get reactive.

[–]monadyne0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I thought your reaction of "Okay." was perfect. Just enough to acknowledge that you heard her statement. Also casual, so that it sounds like you don't give a fuck that she's not going to be putting out.

[–]clavabot13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I had no Idea buzzfeed writers were on TRP

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

When a girl says “we arent having sex” i go ahead and pop a viagara

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Fuck i failed the shit test then. This girl I was already sleeping with said that to me on the drive home one time and i ended the date. Would’ve got some action that night if i had just ignored it

[–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Don’t beat yourself up. Common beginner mistake. Just remember women’s words don’t mean shit, their actions do.

But that being said hey sometimes no actually means no. It’s just all about reading the situation.

[–]friggindoc0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

If a woman says to me "Im not having sex with you" i will usually fuck her later that night. I can think if 4-5 times this has happened just if the top of my head so usually when i hear it im thinking "Yes! im in!"

[–]doveenigma136 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Stuff we already know out of ten.

Good work though.

[–]1Zanford6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

A+ field report, and almost too well written. (It's written in the style like fiction, but I completely believe it, and it's all in all a pretty typical very-well-executed Vegas lay).

The "Ok" response is gold b/c it's very terse, noncommittal, and ambiguous. As is the Han Solo esque "I know" to the third one.

The "what are you doing" and the Russell Brand line are both very well deployed.

Part of what makes this such a great education field report is it's so damn simple. All the above-mentioned lines and replies are pretty easy to remember and pull off, and will come naturally. The 'you're not that pretty / just kidding you are' has to be executed very smoothly (without the 'jk' part sounding like you did it in intimidated beta surrender), one might consider adding the 'just kidding' bit before she has a chance to reply with anything more than a look of shock.

[–]1Socialinception[S] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Thanks man. Sometimes pulls are pretty complicated, but a lot of my best pulls have been just about the fundamentals - strong frame, strong eye contact, lead, and close. I think the majority of guys would be better off mastering the fundamentals instead of looking for some new concept that's going to take their game to the next level.

[–]Luckyluke232 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

this is why i come to TRP. Great post man. Not only did you make a good field report, but you broke it down at the end of the post. you didn't just end it with " hey look at me i fucked"

I hope you get more points for this. I learnt a lot from it thanks.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Who the fuck opens with "I was valedictorian" - at a nightclub?

[–]1Socialinception[S] 4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

She didn't open with that, I just didn't write out the entire dialogue, just the parts I thought were important - like her qualifying.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Like... even in general conversation. That's so weird to me.

I'd never try to boast about my GPA.

[–]RaughKee6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

She's trying to qualify herself as an intelligent and different from the rest of the hotties there, I'd take something like that as a conversational IOI.

[–]1TRUEKING2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

i mean this is the same as when a girl says no hookups in their tinder bio. We all know deep down they actually want it.

[–]prototypesai2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

So when to know when a woman genuinely not interested in having sex and tells me that ?

[–]BillyBones82 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

So after talking for 5min she agrees to go to a strangers hotel room? Then after 1 kiss she wants to fuck?

A typical fake FR or you fucked an Escort and left out the part where you paid her.

[–]1Socialinception[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It was more like an hour and a half before pulling - I didn't write out all the conversation because a. I don't remember most of it and b. most of it didn't matter much.

Being skeptical is healthy and necessary - but being cynical is toxic because it makes the world a very negative place - it's important to know the difference.

[–]greenolivesandgarlic2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, this really happened. 😂

[–]NutOnMyNoggin7 points8 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

What's with the clickbait title though?

[–]TriggeringEveryone5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That's not real clickbait. Every reader with a three digit IQ knew what would happen next.

[–]1Socialinception[S] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Idk, it genuinely was shocking to me that she said, "are you going to fuck me now, or what?" after having said we weren't going to have sex 3 times. What would you call it that would be less clickbaity?

[–]modTheRedPike[M] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

FYI, please don't do that again. If I caught it early I would have nuked the post and asked you to repost with a different title. Buzzfeed vibes cast a shadow on something that in this case doesn't deserve it, particularly after you put some effort into this.

How about "Ended as expected." Hell, anything other than this cliche.

[–]NutOnMyNoggin4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Idk kind of reminds me of the formula like "they said she was ugly. You won't believe what happened next!" Type of thing. Feel me?

[–]seducer4real2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

He used to work for buzzfeed

[–]ljozmo3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

What a twist ending. I was not at all expecting that from OP. Ffs

[–]bonusfruit1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Record everything and text afterward that you had a good time or whatever. Since we are now indulging unhinged, accusation-crazy psychos

[–]mindset_warrior1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Part of me wanted to give her a lecture about boundaries and honest communication, but a bigger part of me (wink, wink), wanted to fuck her brains out.

Hahahaha, that had me laughing out loud.

Great field report. Edutainment at its finest - fundamental rules of game explained through a proper funny anecdote. Bravo to you, sir.

[–]1Socialinception[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks man. I wasn't sure about using this style of storytelling, I'll probably do more of it in the future.

[–]Koryphae_1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Great post, thanks. A question though, is there a way you could covertly ask if someone is DTF even though logistics suck or is it rather a collection of cues? Thanks!

[–]1Socialinception[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If the logistics suck I'd say it's a collection of cues, it's something you get a feel for. It's like how if you've never kissed a girl, you might miss the signal when a girl wants to be kissed, but if you've kissed hundreds of girls, you can tell with almost perfect accuracy when a girl wants you to make a move.

If you're not experienced enough to tell when a girl is DTF even if she has bad logistics, you're going to have to make the call if you like her enough to risk spending your time on her without it leading to anything.

[–]xiannnnnn 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

How did you pick her up from the couch and carry her to your room, if you were already in your room pouring shots of Jameson?

[–]1Socialinception[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The couch was in the living room, maybe that wasn't clear.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This was a very educational post because you explained your response choices and why.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

But why waste time learning this? What if she decides to make rape allegations? Why not just fap to hentai?

[–]kyzen1420 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Lolll that was funny turn of events.

[–]cupshadow0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Something similar happened with a particular girl a few times, some months after our non-stop casual fuck.

It's goddamn confusing. She used to tease, then say she "got to wake up early" and eventually give up and fuck me. But only after insisting, which is something I really hate. After reading this post, it kinda made sense about the dissonance of having the brain say "no" and the body say "yes".

Great job on this one. At least she gave you a clear "yes" in the end, so she has nothing against you.

[–]AntiRegios0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You know, I already knew this because many times women have told me word for word "were not going to have sex" and we still end up having sex, and I knew there was a pattern, but I never dossected it this well before.

[–]robtormar0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Solid report

[–]doitforthestory80 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Well we did know what would happen given this is the red pill subreddit. I would have been more shocked if you said you didnt have sex =P

[–]1Socialinception[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, I wanted to change it to, "I couldn't believe what happened next," but alas, you can't change a title once it's posted.

[–]taylepathy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

What kind of place is doing in a girl like you?

[–]RPNietzsche0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good repost, worth reading again and again.

[–]U-940 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I've got a push-pull tension game "You're not my type" game going with this chick friend. Have ended up in her bed 2 times in the last few weekends. I kinda space it out, run into her every other week. I know it drives her crazy. I quite enjoy it. She's not my only option but I must say it's been one of the few women where I've been actively practicing some of this RP psychology.

[–]BurnoutRS0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

One of the greatest things I ever learned was the right way to tell beautiful girls that they were ugly

[–]javixm0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yep, 100%

Not once, not one time have I heard the words "we're not having sex tonight" and the night not ended in sex.

[–]earthmother920 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ok text but retarded title.

[–]MrGreySD0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Awesome point. Have experienced this myself.

What helps is for you to genuinely not be bothered about whether you have sex or not. If you're really keen you'll end up pushing too much and react badly to her shit tests without even realising (facial expressions, body language, etc).

[–]thepesterman0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

The "we're not having sex" line is a standard shit test, you just have to pass it like any other. Agree and amplify, "you think I want to have sex with you?!".

[–]Flintblood0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great example of PUA material.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Best explanation on push/pull theory I’ve ever read.

[–]1Obediah_Stane0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Can confirm. Every single girl who has ever told me "we aren't having sex tonight" has, bear with me here, had sex with me. As long as you're aloof and grin like you just won the lottery, you're golden.

[–]Technerd88 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

Nice one man. I remember a classic line from a Ashton Kutcher movie. "If she says we are not going to have sex or fuck tonight without you mentioning it ever. That means she wants to fuck you and thinking about it".

Nice play on your part mate. Well done

[–]1Socialinception[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks man. I think the movie you're referring to is "Spread" which is actually a good movie to watch for game - in it he uses game to live with rich women in L.A., pretty interesting.

[–]Slolum0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

In my early days I fucked this up so bad with the hottest girl I’ve ever been in bed with.

Moments earlier I had lifted her up against the wall in my kitchen, where we made out and felt each other up. I carried her to my bedroom, threw her on the bed, and we continued making out.

Then she comes up for air to say “just so you know we’re not having sex” and fucking stupidly ”respected her wishes.”

[–]SavingMasculinity0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Another way to defuse this shit test bomb is to get behind the 8 ball and simply say it before she says it.

"We're not having sex tonight."

This will surprise her and in bro science terms trigger an emotional, primal response in her reptilian brain making her want to hop on your dick possibly more than she already did.

[–]1Socialinception[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Agreed. I did this when I was only 21 and interacting with a girl I considered to be a 10. I can't say for sure what would have happened if I didn't tell her, "we're not having sex tonight," but I did say it, and she brought me to her house, walked straight into her room, pulled her clothes off and got on the bed on all fours. It was hot. Actually, this makes me think I'll start using that line again haha

[–]TheMasterChiefs 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy Link

This might work if you're 6 ft 2, athletic, and extremely handsome... I've had no luck in this pursuit for years despite having gone to the club many times.

[–]1Socialinception[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I'm only 6'1, so.... JK, my friend who's a 3/10 in looks has pulled several girls in the last couple months - and this dude is so ugly that one of my friends said, "He's the worst looking guy I've ever met." He's 5'3. Balding. Fat. Has very bad acne. Huge nose. Pretty much all the physical qualities you don't want to have. The dude isn't even charming, his game is pretty bad, but he took action so much that eventually he got results. Of course, he would do much better if he actually to be more charismatic/charming.

[–]TheMasterChiefs1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sounds too generic to be true. A girl has no reason to be attracted to you unless you genuinely capture her attention via physical appearance, personality/charm/confidence, or wealth. There's no fat, short, bald guy without any of those things getting anywhere.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This happens 99% of times you get a new girl alone. She is just trying to make sure you’re not going to throw some pussy tantrum or get all bummed about it because there are a lot of chodes they meet who do that to them.

[–]Endorsed ContributorSKRedPill0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It means she's aroused enough to think of it with you, just the use of the word 'sex' means it's on her mind (in all probability she's imagined it down to the details) - but not aroused enough to stop all those fears, nervous thoughts and LMRs from kicking in.

[–]WarViper13370 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I remember several years ago there was this girl I started seeing. The first night things got serious she was throwing ioi's all over the place. I was at her apartment with some friends and after they all left things got serious fast. I picked her up and sat her on the kitchen counter and spread her legs while making out with her. The really funny part was while this was going on she was trying to start up ASD. "I never have sex on first dates", "I always wait 6 months before fucking", as well as a few others. I had known her for a long time so I knew none of that was true. In fact she said half that stuff while her hand was groping the front of my pants lol! She even had ASD going while she was stripping off her own clothes. The next day was just as funny. A flood of a text messages begging for more. AWALT!

[–]cpk80800 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Can you share a few more "Push and Pull" examples?

[–]1Socialinception[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Here's a good video that has some examples:

[–]ttt9110 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think your lines goes well with the "I don't normally do this" after you've made out and taking her cloths off now. I had a girl recently saying this to me while she was undressing on top of me, I just said "Ok" and smiled.

Women don't like to be seen sluty or easy even if they are 110% down for sex.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I often wonder if girls say this, especially infront of other girls, to give themselves options after the sex. Say they want to do a false rape charge...they stated no sex, infront of their friends (witnesses) went home with you, had consensual sex, but they tell the police you raped them. If the sex is good then they don't but if you perform terribly or they get regrets, it gives them a huge option.

[–]Alpha_Jedi0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Nice write up, sounds like a fun time. It's amazing how counter-intuitive ASD can be. But you handled it like a boss and reaped the rewards. Well done. Cheers.

[–]blackjackANDplates[🍰] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

As with most other aspects of Red Pill awareness. parsing out the nuts and bolts of how and why emotions work, how they evolved and the important survival functions they serve often has a way of dispelling the magic we apply to emotions. From a biological perspective we can prompt certain emotions (or buffer them) by creating the stimuli that evokes them. We can chemically induce an emotional response. We can alter moods with drugs and we can chemically compare the endorphins released into our bloodstream when we experience the ’emotional’ effects of love, lust and infatuation. There are many studies comparing love to addiction, and the effects of a breakup being comparable to ‘withdrawal’ symptoms.

[–]blackjackANDplates[🍰] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Human beings need predictability – it gives them a sense of control over others. When you alter yourself, or have your personality altered by an outside force, this is a threat to that predictability, so the logical counter is for others to attempt to put us back into our places. Shaming comes as a natural tactic for women, but the push is always to get you back into their frame. And that’s essentially the threat others interpret, the new you is a frame grab. Do it all at once and people will accuse your personality of being a disingenuous reaction to having been burned. Do it subtly and persistently over a time and people will be more willing to accept the change as genuine. Always insist on change, but never too quickly.

[–]Kyogata0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

When a woman says 'We're not having sex tonight, right?', she's just saying that she wants to have sex but that she wants you to lead her to it without having the discomfort of saying it out loud.

[–]awake2830 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Assuming this is all true, you played this perfectly bro! Plus she sounds like a possible keeper!

[–]1Socialinception[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Thanks man, it was a cool experience. The thing about Vegas is that most of the girls are only there for a weekend - so it's not a good place for finding an LTR. One of my friends started dating a girl he met in Vegas and he literally flew out to see her every week, not worth it IMO

[–]awake2830 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ahh -- missed the Vegas part somehow.

Also yea LDRs are never ever worth it.

[–]suxxos0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Hey, it’s too loud here

Frankly, the fact that you managed to have any conversation at all at Omnia makes me think your whole post is a fantasy. It's way, way too loud there.

If it's true though, I think you are overestimating your achievement. Chicks go to clubs because they want to get laid. She wanted to pick you up just as much as you wanted to pick her up, she just has a different strategy for that. That's all.

[–]1Socialinception[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

The conversation was in the upstairs outdoor area which is relatively quiet. But you can still have conversations in the main area, it's an excuse to be physical/get close. Did I say it was a special accomplishment anywhere, or are you just projecting your own insecurities?

[–]diamondstudz-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

OP, did you use a condom or nah

[–]1Socialinception[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It doesn't count unless you get her pregnant! Jk, yeah, I used a condom.

[–]Pgayed2-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great story haha lots of haters in the chat. Jeez. Can’t people just be happy for the dude !

[–]Ge7zsu-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

If a girl tries to tell you "okay we can go there, but we're not gonna have sex!" with a smile on her face you need to take charge of that situation and tell her something like "look girl, i do not mind "not fucking" but if you completely remove the chance that it might happen i will not go with you, goodbye" She will most likely chase after you telling you she was kidding and then there is your chance to steer the night where you might want it to go.

Going "okay" or ignoring her gives her too much power in the following situations that might arise. Never let a girl control your potential happiness. She needs you to be happy because she feeds off your emotions.

[–]Glassland3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You are putting too much pressure on the girl with the first sentence, especially if she is still unsure about you. You need to be playful-rude, not rude-rude.

[–]Ge7zsu0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Let her be unsure then and move on.. It's my game and i'm not changing my rules for a potential fuck. I believe that when i say it, that is why it works for me. I am not deliberately trying to be an asshole, the way i see it she's working an angle just like me. Letting her do that compromises my happiness, so i would not give a fuck if it did not work out.

[–]RyanLockwood-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Well done. I really like all the points you touched on. I know a fair bit about push pull as well. Just need to get out some more and keep going strong. Gonna save the post. Thanks

[–]Vanwaq-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

" What happened next, you can probably imagine." I need help imagining OP. I am not experience enough so would really appreciate some details here.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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