TLDR- If you want to succeed with women you will need to overcome your fear of them.
TRP is overflowing with men who are terrified of women. Here are the top reasons I see cited on TRP for this irrational fear:
- She might falsely accuse me of rape!
- She might become pregnant and then I'm on the hook for child support and a life of misery!
- She might divorce rape me and take all my money and drag my life into hell!
First of all, I am not dismissing these problems. They are all legitimate issues discussed here frequently and for good reason. We have all read the horror stories. But here's what is so disappointing to me about you boys is you can see the irrationality in women but not in yourselves. We are being just as solipsistic. Here is an analogy:
Woman: I might get raped! I'd better stay away from men!
TRPer: I might get divorce raped or falsely accused of rape! I'd better stay away from women!
When we see a woman using stories of rape as an excuse to fear men, we call her irrational. We tell her that if she uses simple precautions and keeps her wits about her she can avoid most of the risk. We tell her that most men are not rapists and with good judgment she can enjoy the company of men immensely.
Same thing for you guys. Your fear of chicks is irrational. If you use simple precautions and keep your wits about you you can avoid most of the risk. Most chicks won't falsely accuse a man of rape (unless her hamster is cornered so don't fucking corner her hamster). With good judgment you can enjoy the company of females immensely.
Besides the obvious precautions (condoms and good condom disposal, do not get married, don't stick your dick in crazy, etc.) here are some ways you can mitigate your risk so you can stop hiding from chicks:
- Stop acting so thirsty. There is no reason to pressure a chick or rush things. As a rule I do not have sex on the first date, and this really helps take the pressure off and let me connect more with a woman. Guys if you just relax and let her talk she will reveal herself to you. You will know if she's the type to accuse rape, especially if she brings up a past rape on the first date (NEXT). Just enjoy the date and let her feel your masculine frame no need to rush. You'll get it on the second or third date, you won't come across as needy or thirsty, and in fact you are taking the mindset of let me vet you more before sex I haven't decided if you pass yet ... this will eliminate most of the risk.
- No drunk or tipsy girls. What is your mindset? You a thirsty boy who needs to find a chick drunk enough to hook up with the likes of you? Or are you a relaxed, seasoned man who has a list of numbers and no reason to settle for sloppy drunk sluts? The first time you have sex with a chick, she should be sober and alert. One drink max. You get her drunk on your masculine energy and your shared horniness and eventually your dick. You don't need alcohol or drugs for that you thirsty bitches.
- Leave her hamster an escape route. Never corner a chick's hamster. Never make her feel slutty, especially among her friends. Never make sex with you a loss for her. Be discreet. After you've dicked her down and had her making animal noises into her pillow, give her a bit of tender aftercare. Post-coitus is a woman's most vulnerable state. Her body is reeling and her brain is swimming in hormones. Give her a little cuddle you autistic bastards. It feels great I promise. Then go put your pants on and tell her what a great time you had and how you've got to wake up early tomorrow but you're looking forward to seeing her again.
- Pace yourself one step ahead of her. This is something that is intuitive but autistic TRPers (the majority of you, from what I've seen) might need some work on this. Basically as the man it is your responsibility to lead the interaction towards sex. You need to make the move and sexualize the interaction. Chicks are just as nervous as we are about this, but with the added baggage of massive social pressure not to be sluts. However. You need to pace yourself. It is your responsibility to pay attention to the chick and recalibrate yourself accordingly. You touch her arm. Does she lean away or lean forward? Does she touch you back? These are the types of signals you need to pay attention to and always stay paced with the girl. If she did not respond positively to a touch on the shoulder, don't grab her tits. But if she fondles your dick then you'd better grab her ass and give it a hard squeeze. One step ahead.
- Respect her boundaries. If a chick ever says the word "no" or "stop" with me then that is it for the night. She gets another try next time, but after that it is NEXT. I know a lot of TRPers are good at beating LMR and getting the f-close. If you are good at that, then go for it. For me it is not worth it. I can have a chick over next week who doesn't have "no" in her vocabulary. Why would I waste my time trying to wiggle my way in between some chick's skinny legs for some enenthusiastic starfish sex? Not for me. If a girl says no or stop, respect her boundaries. Withdraw your attention and she will either come around or she isn't into you and you're better off having a threesome with two Brazilian escorts. Since they don't really wanna fuck you either. Or better yet go find a chick who says "yes!" the sex will be better I promise.
Also I would like to point out that the horror stories get kind of magnified by nature of who we are as a community. TRP is like a lightning rod for men who have been abused by women, so if you spend a lot of time here you will start to see things skewed (much like how feminists attract the worst stories of men constantly so their entire view of men is skewed)
That's all I got. And please no "I'm not scared of chicks I'm scared of the men with guns they can summon!" ... here is my response to that:
Your ancestors survived ice age and war and disease and starvation. Every one of them managed to figure shit out, fuck some bitches, and pass his seed on. And not one of them let another man prevent them from fucking women. Through 10,000 years of hell the torch of manhood has been passed from man to man, from father to son. And now the torch is in your hands and it is up to you. Do you sit out on the sidelines alone and miserable, jerking off to porn because you're scared of chicks? If you are the type of guy who won't chase women because you're afraid of what other men (gasp! even men with GUNS!!!) might do: good. Stay away from women altogether. Women are right not to fuck you; our species needs more men right now not girlyboys.
Sorry if the medicine was bitter, but some of y'all need to find your balls. Never be afraid of a bitch. Fundamentally, no woman will respect a man who fears her. She is a lioness and she is dangerous and must be treated with caution. But never forget: you are the fucking lion. Act accordingly.
Good luck fellas.