Most people are chasing ‘success’ or a definition of it that they don’t even believe in themselves.

Getting rich.

I’m looking at you - guy who watches masturbatory motivation porn on YouTube about being a ‘warrior’, wearing a $10,000 suit and a Rolex in the city looking like every other corporate drone working 100 hour weeks for a lifeless soul sucking company trying to ‘make it’ as a ‘successful man’.

Or the guy who is obsessed with stocks and shares because he think it will make him ‘rich’ when the reality is it’s just socially accepted gambling with way worse odds.

Or the guy who wants to start a business and be an entrepreneur, not because he has a great idea and wants to pursue it, but because he likes the idea of being seen as a successful entrepreneur by other people, it seems ‘cool’. Right?

Take a step back and think, do you really care?

Or are you just doing it to pander to the ‘invisible audience’ of your past that you are trying to impress?

So you can drive back to your high school reunion in a lambo and flex on all your past classmates?

So you can be an example of objective ‘success’ to everyone you know?

These people do not care about you. They don’t give a fuck. They might think ‘wow he made a a lot of money’ for one second and they will then proceed to forget about you, forever.

Read it again.

The invisible audience you’re pandering to does. not. give. a. fuck. about. you.

Even if they did, why do you care anyway? Why are you putting in countless hours of your time every single day to try and impress people who won’t even take 2 seconds out of their day to think about you. You are irrelevant to them.

Money is seen as the default parameter for ‘success’ these days, I would know. I’m an economics major, and 99% of my class took the course because they wanted to earn a lot of money, including myself at the time, lol.

Being successful is living your life how YOU want to live it. Not wasting your life trying to impress people who don’t even care about you. You can’t take money to the grave. Live your life whilst you’re young and stop wasting time desperately trying to pander to others’ definition of ‘success’ to impress people you don’t even know and most the time don’t even like or respect.

What most people consider ‘successful’ in this life simply doesn’t motivate me, and many others. I don’t care about fancy cars, big houses, or money, at all. I couldn’t care less. As long as I have freedom and security.

Money should be seen as a gateway to freedom, if you’re motivated by money because you want to retire early and go travel the world, or you want sufficient financial security so that you can leave a shitty job whenever you feel like it rather than being trapped in a corporate rat race. This post doesn’t apply.

If having lots of money and being rich truly is your motivation. That’s totally fine. Everyone needs something that gets them going. But question yourself, do you want money for YOU? Or are you doing it to impress other people and be seen as ‘successful’? If you’ve read this post and it truly doesn’t apply to you, then kudos.

What motivates me personally is getting with tonnes of different women, looking my absolute best, being my absolute strongest in the gym, thriving in social interaction, etc. This is my definition of success as a man. But that’s just me.

If I judged YOU off MY definition of success, as a man, a lot of you probably wouldn’t like it. Because it’s perhaps not what motivates you, or it’s something you’re not good at, or perhaps you’ve invested so much time into another definition of ‘success’ you’ll be offended by the idea that ^you’re not actually a successful man in another person’s brain*. Again, this would show you’re motivated by other people’s definitions of success rather than your own. You’re living in other people’s frame. People you don’t even know. Think about that for a second.

I personally don’t look at rich men as an example of success, more like a man who has wasted their youth.