Summary:

This essay talks about women's Epiphany Phase as well as clearing up a common misconception about Alpha Fucks/Beta Bucks when a woman is ready to settle down.

 

Introduction

Case study: A woman in her Epiphany Phase

Key timestamps: (0:00 to 1:30) and (2:37 to 4:40)

The Epiphany Phase is that period when a woman hitting the Wall has to reassess the last decade of her life and determine why she's still single even though she's "smart", "attractive", "successful". She's much more conscious and serious about long-term commitment for 3 reasons:

  • She can't compete with younger women entering the dating market.

  • The social pressure of her friends getting married and starting families while she's still single.

  • She needs validation that she's worth more than sex to men on the carousel.

The main indicator that a woman is in her Epiphany Phase is when she's in her late 20s/early 30s and complains about wanting to "settle down and start a family". This is usually accompanied with complaining about how she's almost 30, how she "can't find a decent guy", and how all her girlfriends are getting married while she's still single. Women often bring up "school" and "career" as being reasons for delaying marriage, but usually they were hooking up during that time.

 

The biggest misconception of Alpha Fucks/Beta Bucks

Another important element is that women in the Epiphany Phase are simultaneously Chasing Chad's commitment. Contrary to popular belief, women don't immediately look for a beta male when they're hitting the Wall. The biggest misconception of Alpha Fucks/Beta Bucks is the missing element of Alpha Bucks in between. She emphasizes wanting to "settle down and start a family", but still prioritizes good looks and butterflies over emotional/financial stability. She's tired of the shallowness of promiscuity and now wants something "serious" and "meaningful" with the same men she chose on the carousel.

Both Alpha Fucks and Beta Bucks can be found in abundance. Epiphany Phase women are looking for that sweet spot of Alpha Bucks: Tall, handsome, successful men who can give her both tingles, and marriage/family/financial stability. The search for this rare creature with the threat of Spinsterhood looming is what sparks women to complain that they "can't find a decent guy" even though she's been on numerous dates. Anytime a woman hitting the Wall asks "Where are all the good men?", she's really asking "Where are all the Alpha Bucks?".

 

How to identify a woman in her Epiphany Phase

To qualify for Epiphany Phase, a woman should be:

  • In her late 20s/early 30s with no kids

  • Chasing Chad (or top 20%) for the purposes of "settling down and starting a family"

  • Admitting to a promiscuous, serial-dating past, and now has a sense of urgency or seriousness to settle down. This is key.

She will usually say things like "I'm ready to settle down and start a family, but I can't find a decent guy", "All my girlfriends are getting married but I'm still single", "I've had lots of relationships that were short-term and superficial. I want something real now", "Life is short, I'm not getting any younger", "Tired of casual dating and hookups. I'm looking for the one, my soul mate", "Where are all the good men? I'm done dating jerks and want something serious now", "I'm turning 30 and losing hope on ever getting married and having a family".

Single moms generally don't qualify for Epiphany Phase even if she wants to settle down with someone tall, because she's far more interested in finding someone to help raise her kids and provide financial stability, and is therefore more open to "settling down" with Beta Bucks as soon as possible. Epiphany Phase women in contrast are exclusively chasing Chad for tingles and to start a family with.

 

Conclusion

Oh yeah, one last thing: You might feel your heartstrings tugging for the woman in the video, but you should never feel sorry for women hitting the Wall and complaining about still being single. Why? Not only because it makes you susceptible to wifing up a woman with a promiscuous past, but because she had a decade to choose the guy who wasn't over 6ft tall; a decade to choose the guy who wasn't a thug; a decade to say something other than "Let's just be friends". And now she's whining about being single to thousands of loyal, supportive male followers who she still won't choose. And this resolve to hold out for Mr. Perfect at the last minute is what causes many Epiphany Phase women to end up as well-deserved Leftovers.

 

For anyone interested, I created a sub called r-WhereAreAllTheGoodMen to show what happens when women reject decent men for jerks and promiscuity until they're past their prime, in an effort to help men guard their commitment and resources.