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The 'Comfort Zone' never goes away

January 18, 2017

You may have read this title and immediately felt feelings of resistance, indignance, and even 'what the fuck is this pussy talking about'

I'm talking about something that I've seen happen to many who either begin following the RP lifestyle or get into that lifestyle for other reasons.

You can easily fall into using 'self-improvement' as a crutch, or replacement for your previous lazy habits.

When I began my RP journey, I felt absolutely exhilarated at the feeling of doing new things, lifting every day, and putting healthy habits into play. Many of my friends, and acquaintances on this sub, have felt this.

This is fine and all, until you make these new habits, into your only ones again. When you give into what is comfortable, and settle for where you are.

Ironically, some of my favorite RP style books bring this notion up, but it's easy to gloss over it as you feel that it doesn't apply to you, because you're already the best! Guys end up using this feeling of elitism to jerk themselves off and stop improving because they have found a new comfort zone. What they forget, is that RP is about never being content and always improving

You could have an eight-inch dick, washboard abs, and a cool hobby or two, but if that is all you do and aren't making steps to better your life anymore, all you really did is you gave yourself new excuses.

Everyone probably knows a guy who "fucked that BANGING 10/10 girl yo" a few months ago, and now just goes through the motions at the gym, feeding his ego to reassure himself he's definitely a true alpha. At this point, you're back to square 1 of being a bluepill kiddo who tells himself he's perfect just the way he is, and that girls are obligated to fuck him because he's putting in more work than everyone.

ALWAYS be pushing your comfort zone, gaining new experiences, and creating your own experiences to teach newbies on here. If you were to read men's Tinder bios, you would be surprised to see how many of them are 'always in the gym' or have some cool hobby they claim. This has become normal, and these guys are just in a comfort zone that they think is perfectly fine, just because they put a year or two of work in.

I can't guarantee you won't get hit by a car tomorrow or suffer a brain aneurysm, but it's a safe bet that everyone reading this will still be alive for decades and decades to come, are you going to be content with where you are forever? Isn't that why you came here in the first place?

If you lift regularly, aim for competing one day

If you play a sport, try to win a local league instead of pickup games.

If you have some unique hobby, become the president of your local club, or start one for it.

If you have a plate or two, push for hotter or even more plates in the rotation.

If you run a business, try to get it to be the BEST around, and when it is, the BEST in the country.

You are still human, no matter how much RP truth you read or how much you rationalize your behaviours.

Always improve, always take things to the next level, and get out of your comfort zone

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Title The 'Comfort Zone' never goes away
Author PlantNutrient
Upvotes 374
Comments 42
Date January 18, 2017 5:26 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit /r/TheRedPill
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[–]Katavasis93 points94 points  (17 children) | Copy Link

Always escalate.

If you stop trying to improve and push further,not only you will stagnate,but you are in danger of taking backsteps too.

[–]PlantNutrient[S] 53 points54 points  (16 children) | Copy Link

Life is like moving a boulder uphill. You have to keep putting in work to move up. You can stop and take a break, but if you stop too long, it'll start rolling back down.

Everyone is pushing their own boulder, some may have it easier than others, but you're not the only one, and no one will feel sorry for you if you decide to stop pushing 'just because'.

[–]Katavasis14 points15 points  (15 children) | Copy Link

And if and when you reach the top of the hill,you have to hold it there,for it may go downhill.

Haha i really like these analogies.

[–]1takethedive19 points20 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

If you reach the top of the hill, you need a new hill.

[–]Katavasis7 points8 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

And a new boulder for sure :P

[–]sonicreptile0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Rather let it go and go find a bigger boulder.

[–]herewegoagaindammi0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link


[–]logicalthinker17 points8 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

And when you're at the top, you can roll it down and crush your enemies in a sweet revenge.

Did I do it right?

[–]ConfusedPsychiatrist12 points13 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Don't forget about the lamentations of their women.

[–]GC0W305 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

And, there's the part where you give their sons jobs. Or slavery.

[–]mummersfarce_is_done0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Chain their children to a grinding wheel in the middle of nowhere.

[–]GC0W304 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Look at mummersfarce_is_done, fighting unemployment, poverty AND famine all in one entrepreneurial venture!

[–]mummersfarce_is_done1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I am not evil. Just misunderstood

[–]Sigma3531 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That is truly what is best in life.

[–]Katavasis0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Only if you are Indiana Jones.

[–]herewegoagaindammi0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

only if you are fat and rollable

[–]LymanRP89 points90 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

There is no coasting in life--you're either improving or declining.

The moment you stop pushing your comfort zone and stop improving is when the slow decline begins. That slow, stagnating decline is especially insidious because you don't feel it on a day-to-day basis... then one day it will hit you in the face.

It's why men are shocked when they find their wives/LTRs cheating or leaving them. They perceive things being comfortable, when in reality the end result was months/years in the making.

[–]theONE843663[🍰] 11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Couldn't agree more bro. But the reverse is also true for improvement/ self-improvement.

You're hitting the gym, increasing your strength and athletics... That slow stagnating progress is especially insidious because you don't feel it on a day-to-day basis... Then one day it will hit you in the face like a wrecking ball... You look in the mirror and you can't help but say to yourself: "Damn I'm fucking JACKED brah!"

It is why men are shocked when they find that other beta's wives/ LTRs are cheating with/leaving their human credit cards for them. They perceive things being no different... when in reality the end result was months/years in the making. 😃

[–]askmrcia2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Disagree with your last statement. Wives and ltrs would cheat and leave a guy for constantly improving because "he doesn't make time for me."

Cmon man, if a girl wants to cheat and leave, she will do so, no matter how much you are improving yourself.

[–]LymanRP3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes, wives and LTRs can and are capable of cheating/leaving (AWALT), but not all do. My understanding of RP theory is that continued self improvement and increasing SMV are effective against these hypergamic tendencies at bay but can never eliminate them entirely.

The point of the last statement was to show that allowing yourself to coast/decline is a recipe for being cheated on/dumped... not that self-improvement is a cure-all against it.

[–]Velebit29 points30 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

if adrenaline, sex and ego were the pinnacle of life than the geniuses of the world wouldn't be scientists, artists and philosophers

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The comfort zone is actually the danger zone, because it's stopping you from your true potential.

[–]Ovadox9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

There is a finite amount of time in the day. Choosing to do one thing means choosing not to do another. To make the best use of your time you need to be deeply aware of the things that mean the most to you and invest your precious time towards those ends. That may mean making trade-offs.

There are two work-arounds for this that I've found. 1.) Plan activities so that you accomplish multiple objectives simultaneously. 2.) Find people who lack a clearly defined sense of their goals and purpose, people with an external mental point of origin, and find a way to get them to do the more mundane things you don't care about to free up time to put towards what you do care about.

[–]WeightsNCheatDates5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I love this.

I basically found TRP at a point above many that are new here: I workout daily, I have a steady job with decent pay, I have a hot girlfriend, and a few hobbies.

However! I was getting fuking complacent. I wasn't making improvements in the gym, I was stagnating at my job, I wasn't treating my girlfriend like an alpha male does, and I was half assing my hobbies and instead wasting time on porn.

TRP has opened my mind to waking the fuck up and how you can always better your life, no matter where you are at. I'm back on the track of improvement now, fuck complacency.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Ever think maybe TRP is the comfort zone you're talking about? It seems many users come here to not so humbly brag about how alpha they've become. Seems less about enlightening others and more to raking in that sweet validation.

Just my observations as a lurker.

[–]PlantNutrient[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ever since the influx of people in the last two years I agree with you.

[–]suckmyfish2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great post thanks for sharing. A lot of what you said hit home. I don't just "practice basketball". I do it to dominate (and win) my city league and dunk better and better every day (I'm 30) I'm always looking for better ways to improve my sales techniques at my job. Same thing with tinder sluts, I try to tweak the profile and first date conversations, ultimately leading to better quality plates.

[–]KennyF912 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Arnold was probably the peak of masculinity and eventually fell off. But even his step back he is living better than most guys. Depending on the work put in, our declines will vary. Arnold is still rich, had a bastard, got sued for custody and unlike Robin Williams who got crushed and gave up, Arnold pushes ahead with movies despite his political and body building career being over.

Keep fighting and pushing, men hit a physical wall, but we're creative and innovative, worse case we'll shift to another method if we are failing.

[–]PlantNutrient[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Arnold took over for Trump on the Apprentice, the man is a legend.

He never stops being peak performance.

[–]BeijingTurkey1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Interesting perspective. I like it. What books are you referencing in the beginning?

[–]adonis_forte1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Because of this post, I became a member of the USAPL and I will be competing this March. I'm naturally strong and have been in my comfort zone for too long.

[–]PlantNutrient[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Congrats. I too recently took that step and decided to join OCB, competing in August. Whether you place or not, you competed in a powerlifting tournament, and you have more dedication and raw strength than 99.9% of the world's population.

[–]SanJustSan0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

The best way to counter this that I'm aware of is to have a diary which you write a few lines/bullet points in daily.

The bullet points detail your biggest ambitions in life. Not the things you can do today or this week but flat out your biggest ambitions. As you get closer to those targets/hit them, those ambitions will grow, and it reminds you not to stagnate naturally.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I needed to hear just this message bro. Thank you.

[–]RedPillHanSolo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Quality post, OP. Gives a completely different perspective. True red pill.

[–]TRP_Lee_zard0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Gotta to take into account the diminishing returns. If you lift but want to compete 95% will not be enough, you gotta go 100%

But this still isn't to me going outside of comfort zone - you are doing the same thing...just more seriously. Same goes for your other examples.

For instance with business - want to get out of comfort zone, don't go for the best - sell everything and start over in a different field

Other than that - completely agree, just changing the habits for different ones isn't enough.

[–]Tense_Supervillain0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

pablo escobars mom always told him that if he was going to be something, be the best at it or else dont even try.

[–]STFUIDGAFUCK0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Be obsessed with improvement.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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