This is a guide to natural game 101. To those of you that have frequented this subreddit for years, yes, I left some shit out. Herp Derp, I can't cover literally every aspect of human interaction in one post. Some key aspects I left off are: abundance, logistics, shit tests, vocal tonality etc. Look into the side-bar if you do not know what those terms mean.

This is what I based a lot of my game on. I learned from tons of naturals that could not explain what made them attractive, so this is my attempt to explain what about them was actually attractive and worked with women.

If you do not actually go out, or if you do not have regular success with women, I do not care about your opinion. Keep sitting in theory land. I do not hate women, I got over my anger phase a long time ago. If you do not see women as human then you are a retard larper. If you have not read the side bar then what the fuck are you doing here. I'm writing this because this is what worked for me. I was a KHHV, did this shit, then became the president of a party fraternity and fucked a lot of attractive women and turned my shit around. I know how to be social. I do not know how to larp on the internet in fairy-tale land. Fuck off.

With that being said:

"What is natural game?"

There are two types of good players, naturals and what I will call learned naturals. Naturals are guys that typically had a decent life growing up with supportive parents. They may have joined a sports team as a kid and learned early on that failure was a part of growing. Because of friends they had growing up that also has similar experiences, they got attention from girls early on. They may have had their first sexual experience at a young age, maybe got a girlfriend in middle school, then continued until they became naturals. Learned naturals attempt to emulate this behavior using a variety of techniques.

"What is the difference between a real natural and a learned natural?"

I have been learning game for years now, and I have had a ton of success with women. I've slept with many attractive women and my past two girlfriends have been attractive sorority types. I would consider myself smoother than 95 percent of the male population. I escalate at the proper times, I can banter with basically anyone, and I never shy away from approaching.

Naturals make me look like a joke. Compared to an actual natural, I look like a stiff automaton attempting to "human." They escalate like water. It's like they were made to do it. I have a few natural friends (College football and basketball players, fraternity guys, etc) and it still blows me away every time we go out.

How do naturals function? What is their Modus operandi?

Naturals have a series of mental algorithms that pump up their state constantly. While an inexperienced virgin might have internal beliefs like "I am not worth it" "No one loves me" "I am unfunny" etc. A natural, through his life, has cultivated beliefs like the following: "I am the shit" "Women love me" "I am the most attractive human on Earth" or in Kanye west's case, "I am an actual God."

Learned naturals cultivate these beliefs through mediation and reference experience. For example, I have had sex with some very beautiful women. Much more than people as young as me. So while a beginner might take rejection poorly, to me it doesn't exist. If I approach a girl and she tells me to fuck off or something, the rejection does not pass through my extremely positive delusional internal monologue. I explain it like, I have a fishbowl or some film over my brain that does not allow negative words from women to penetrate. It does not penetrate my psyche. This is how some naturals work, their delusional ego is what keeps them in state, wheras someone like me has to, in addition to this, incorporate a process of approaching that gets me into the zone over the course of a night, day, week, month etc. then I'm on fire. That's when the majority of your lays will happen.

Take my friend Vraj. Vraj is a natural. He is a short Indian man that does not speak English well. I asked him years ago, "Vraj, how do you flirt and talk to women?" His answer is indicative of a natural, "You just talk to them bro..." he says in broken English.

This roughly translates into: "Azitah, you need to get into state. You see, I have a number of delusional mental algorithms that keep me positive and in state. Even as a short Indian guy that barely speaks English, I am so deluded that ever since a young age, I approached women. Because I have no approach anxiety, these really hot girls see me talk to them and they must think that "something is up with this guy" so even in this instance what seems like retarded broken English comes across as just another hilarious joke, because I know how to have fun and not take things so seriously. One second I am some funny Indian guy talking to them about their major, the next I am tounging them down. You just have to talk to them, brother."

This is the type of attitude that guys who are good with women have, and this type of thinking, at least in my limited experience with natural, seems to be universal among them.

"Why attempt to learn game naturally? Mainstream media told me that pick up lines and routines was all that game was?"

Then what are you even doing here? Have you learned nothing? Game is, among other things, essentially becoming a "cool" person. Overcoming your baggage and relating to a woman on a man-to-woman level is key to building attraction. Routines and canned lines are like training wheels. You use them until you get the timing, then you discard them in favor of becoming natural.

"What are the cornerstones of natural game?"

My boy Owen put it best:

  • Frame control

  • Humor and raising emotions

  • Getting them to chase your validation

  • Being higher status than the girl

  • Always adding energy

  • Hyper focused engagement

  • High-value mannerisms, vocal tonality, and body language

  • Not triggering ASD by saying something retarded

Frame Control

A frame is in short a lense that the interaction takes place under. The way you talk to your boss is different than how you talk to your friends. The way you talk to a girl is different than the way you talk to your mom etc. When your boss asks you to come into their office and asks you how your day was going, they are not asking you how your day was going. You need to be aware of these things. If you are trying to game the hottest women, you are engaged in a battle of realities. Whoever has the strongest reality wins. Is it her reality: where she is the queen and men usually always supplicate to her? Or is it your reality? Women usually cling to the strongest reality they can find, in our world what I will call alpha or naturals typically have the strongest realities.

To control your frame: Do not supplicate or qualify yourself. Qualifying yourself feels bad right? When you try to show her your watch or your biceps you will get a pit in your stomach. A feeling like you did something wrong. That is because you know deep down that attempting to impress her means that you aren't a natural or an alpha male. You are a beta male in disguise. You attract women by being high value, not by mimicking it.

Do not feed into her reality. If you have her laughing and you can sense that she really wants to say something, turn your head away for a second, then say "what?" She will see that you aren't hanging on her every word. I only do this at really high points though, like once or twice a set at most. Don't snap your head to attention when she speaks, slowly turn your head towards her.

Is your frame that you are the prize and she is lucky to be talking to you? Or is your frame that you really really really really really want her? Women can tell. Don't put her on a pedestal. Playful misinterpretations, negs, push/pull, etc. These things bring her into your reality. You don't need to machine-gun them at her. Maybe once or twice a set. More depending on the woman. Advanced guys can do this with a look.

Humor and raising emotions

Humor is a sign of intelligence. Humor is also a fantastic way of building attraction. Being funny means that you can vibe socially and banter with people more effectively. The key to being funny is threefold. One, you need to understand humor. Watch comedies and comedy specials and get the universal timing of comedy. Secondly, you need to remove self-judgment. By judging everything you say you can't make her laugh. Women don't need to hear a perfectly timed real joke to laugh. Something as simple as "I saw you... and wanted to tell you... that I'm shy" can make her laugh if said with the right energy. Thirdly you need to be able to free associate. Free association is essentially letting the energy and humor flow out of you. Being able to riff forever about anything is traditionally called the "golden mouthpiece" or the "million-dollar mouth." All of the best players have it.

Consider this frame: Everything I say is of value, simply because I say it. She will laugh, simply because I want her to.

Getting them to chase your validation

I've slept with women "out of my league," how? (leagues don't exist btw) What people want fundamentally is validation. Even sex is not entirely physical. I estimate that anywhere from 50 to 95 percent of the reason humans want sex is validation. They want to be validated as a person. Sex can also be understood as "I am good enough." This is a powerful motivator for human beings. People have dedicated their entire lives to chasing this feeling of fulfillment.

Good looking women will have sex with guys who are less good looking than them because they want their validation. Going back to the earlier example, why would you not snap your head to attention when she says something? Because you are validating her. Why would she have sex with you when you have already given her validation? You need to get her to contribute to the conversation. She needs to feel like she will miss out on something by not engaging with you. Traditional game would say to use negs or disqualifiers for this purpose, and they can work. Consider this example, however:

You: Yo, You look like you know how to party! High five (Assume Familiarity/It's always open)

HB: Laughs And who are you?

You: (Your name) You sound like a valley girl. Like a little valley girl. I bet you grew up in an actual valley. It's okay, I like red necks.

HB: Nooooo! Laughs I'm not some dumb valley girl, I have a degree in psychology (Qualification)

You: I didn't understand you, your accent is thick but it's hot (Push/pull)

HB: I said I have a degree in psychology! (Investment/Chasing your opinion on her degree)

This is a pretty standard open. Notice how the hypothetical guy doesn't immediately congratulate her on her degree. You continue to amp the emotions. Then she starts chasing validation. All this dude needs is some more time and escalation and he's good to go in my book.

Being higher status than the girl

Relationships are by and large of a transactional nature. She needs to think that she gets something out of hooking up with you. If you are a social butterfly then maybe she gets connections etc. In most cases, this is similar to the previous section about validation. Fundamentally if you employ the things I'm talking about here, you will come across as high status. What does she gain from sleeping with you? Your validation.

Have you ever had an unattractive girl hit on you? Was it flattering for more than 2.5 seconds? Did it really mean anything? Girls are the same way. They feel like they gain nothing from a guy who gives his validation constantly. He is lower status than her. They want the prize. The outgoing guy that everyone likes. The hilarious one. The attractive one. The high status one.

Be that guy. Don't be a loser.

Always adding energy

How do women make decisions? If you ask her to come to the bar with you, she goes into her body and asks "How do I feel right now?" If she feels good, she goes. If she feels bad, she doesn't go. In order to get compliance, you should always be adding energy to the set. Use humor, push/pull the other things talked about here. Hell, even canned lines or stories are good enough but improvised stuff will always be more congruent. On high points, while she is laughing or has doe eyes, pull her to the bar, move her 10 feet. Always ask for compliance when you know you will get it. This is basic pick up advice but it is important. Don't view it as "I need to add energy so I can make the move."

Think of it like "adding energy only allows me to add even more energy and value to her. By being that fun cool guy I am adding value to her night, who else would talk to her like this? Who would approach her like this? I don't want anything from her, all I want to do it give her good vibes and energy, and if she gives me her number or if we have sex, that is only more energy and value being added. Energy could also be seen as 'fun.' The more fun you are having then the better off you will be. I see guys here say "I did hundreds/thousands of approaches, no luck. In my mind I imagine that what that really means is you went up and said "hi?" in a rapport seeking tone, then did the hands and shrugging thing and they stared at you and you said "no? Okay..." That is not an approach. That is being a retard.

You have to already be having fun, your mind has to be primed with energy and fun. You will have no success if every time you go out you have a terrible mood and think "time to slog through another night being a beta male." From the moment you get up you need to be positive. Either go to the gym that day if that helps, or read some book or meditate. Do something, anything, to keep your mind off of your typical depressing thought patterns, and approach going out as a fun activity that you like to do on its own, and frame it as pulling women into your world rather than seeking their validation from the moment you look at them. They can tell if you are being validation seeking and not fun/adding energy from the moment they look at you. This is usually the first big sticking point in people's game.

Hyper focused engagement

Women have a problem. On one hand, they want high-value alpha men. On the other hand, these are the exact type of men that won't engage with her. They will bust on her back then kick her out, sure, but this doesn't do much for women. They prefer engagement. Incels say that "women want the highest value man they can have sex with." In reality, women want the highest value man that will engage with them. That will actually give a fuck about them more than a ONS.

You need to have strong eye contact and decisive movement. You need to find ways to relate to what she is saying, then get her to chase you. You have to engage her mind and body. On one hand, she has to feel like you don't need her and that you are a self-sufficient adult male. On the other hand, she still wants your engagement. This is the paradox of game. We are doing the approaching, but we need to be free from the outcome. Strike this balance and you will have a ton of success.

High-value mannerisms, vocal tonality, and body language

  • Taking up space

  • Pointing, hugging, kissing, generally being physical

  • Standing with legs at least meter apart

  • Proper posture

  • Not leaning in, respecting your space appearing relaxed

  • Speaking too quickly, too eager to speak

  • using a seeking rapport tonality, asking everything in the form of a question

  • Speaking with a weird or unnaturally high voice

  • Being too verbose, not being brief

  • Not projecting, not thinking what you say is valuable enough to be heard

  • Not approaching with two feet planted in front of her

  • Going for the hands using high fives, finger clasped holds, pretend dancing, etc.

These are a few things I came up with on the spot, but you get the gist. Don't look like a chode.

Not triggering ASD by saying something retarded

ASD stands for anti-slut-defense. When I said this earlier: "women want the highest value man that will engage with them." I actually meant: "women want the highest value man that will engage with them without looking like a slut." Women are constantly judged by society, their friends, and their family for their sexual desires. A lot of what game boils down to is building the initial attraction, then not fucking the rest of the interaction up. You build the attraction, then on high points, you move her around and get a little compliance, then go for the pull or the number if you must. I left out a lot but that is the gist.

All you need to do is simply not fuck it up. If you fuck it up by saying some incongruent retarded shit, she will sense that your energy is off and second guess the entire interaction. If naturals do anything right, it's that they don't make her feel like a slut. You should give off a non-judgmental vibe. When you get the number, turn your back to her friends and let her give it to you in secret. Tell her friends "2 seconds, 2 seconds" then try to isolate at a high point then go for escalation. Be respectful and don't tounge her down in front of her friends. Respect her right to be private when she is intimate.

"What Now?"

Now that you have a slight understanding of the fundamentals of game, you need to use them. The Kybalion is a text that contains hermetic teachings over the centuries. One thing that it says is that once you have been given knowledge, you must use it. Hoarding knowledge for yourself without putting it to use will destroy you. You must game. You have to.

Each week, go out a few hours and focus on just one of the things I mentioned. Make it your mission that "the next 10 times I go out, I will approach as many people as I can with the intention of moving them 10 feet."

Next week say "Now I will, when she is laughing or is smiling wide/has big eyes, I will pick her up and say something funny."

After that, say "Every group of girls that I see I will approach and make friends with them, then try to isolate them by saying something like "you... you're dangerous. extends hand you're the dangerous one of the group... you scare me." Then try to take her hand and say that it's time for you to break up or some funny shit and pull her to the side. Just try to get the entire group laughing then when an attractive one laughs, try to pull her out.

Etc.

Game is iterative. You should take this seriously and practice different aspects as hard as you can, then incorporate them all together. Then you won't be pretending to be high value, you will be high value.

Lastly

You do not learn game by reading threads. You learn it by going out several hours a week and actually talking to people. Stuff like this is just a jump start if you have forgotten something or if you literally do not know what any of this means. Go out and approach and stop whining like a bitch. Thanks for reading.