Meditation has been quite a lifesaver for me. From just sleeping well at night to dealing with batshit crazy BPD chicks, there's not much that a good session can't help you with. For you guys who lift, have a good career, but still find yourself anxious when talking to girls meditation might also help you ground yourself more and it may be the missing piece that you need.
But for most people who have never done it before, it can be a bit confusing and frustrating at first. There are so many types of meditation to choose from so where should you start? I recommend the Do Nothing meditation for beginners:
Do Nothing Meditation:
1- Get into a comfortable position. No you don't need to assume the Lotus Pose. Just make sure you're comfortable. Sit with your back against the wall, or lie down on your back facing upwards, or lie on your sides, whatever. Make sure you feel as comfortable as possible. This is important.
2- Set your timer for at least 30 minutes
3- Close your eyes and Do Nothing. And I mean do nothing. Don't try to clear your thoughts. Don't try to relax. Don't do anything. If you're tense just be tense for a while. If your mind is racing with thoughts let it do its thing. If you feel anger/loss/shame about losing your oneitis then feel that. Do not do anything to stop it.
4- DO NOT MOVE. This is the most important part. Let your mind and emotions run havoc as much as it wants but your physical body must stay STILL. This is why it's so important to find a comfortable position. NO MOVING is allowed in this meditation. Don't twitch your fingers, don't fidget your arms/legs/whatever. Be completely, physically, still.
5- Hang in there until your timer goes off.
6- If you move, you fucked up. Reset the timer and start again.
That's it. That's the Do Nothing meditation.
Why this works:
Anxiety is caused by a feedback loop between the body and the mind. A thought occurs, you feel it in the body, you react to it by fidgeting, the mind picks it back up and adds to it, and so on and so forth.
By forcing your body to remain perfectly still, you essentially cut the loop. It's no longer a closed loop and the signal can't build up anymore. You're also simplifying things by not trying to do too many things at once. Beginner meditators often have expectations of clearing the mind and getting rid of negative thoughts. Ironically, the pressure they put on themselves is also making those same negative thoughts and mind clutter stronger. So let the mind do whatever it wants, while you just focus your attention on not moving the body at all.
Doing this will also help you to be more mindful of your body in general, and the side effect of that is reduced anxiety and stress.
All the best, guys. Hope you liked this short tutorial.