The story of a Blue Piller. Learn from my pain

Sir_Distic · 2017-08-21T23:29:13+00:00

(I was tempted to say cause I DONT HAVE TO PAY FOR YOUR BULLSHIT) but I let it go.

but I let it go.

That right there is one of the hardest things we men have to learn when we work on improving ourselves. Letting go of the bad emotions, the hate, the anger, the resentment. All of it.

You sound like you've done well. You'll know you've completely recovered from everything when you feel nothing for her. No anger, no love, neither good nor bad feelings or thoughts. Simply...she exists.

Continue to work on yourself, improve and become the best version of yourself you can be.

brinkleybuzz · 2017-08-22T11:54:46+00:00

You were your wife's slave, not her husband. No wonder she wants back in. She had a sweet deal: a man who would provide for her every need and she didn't have to do shit in return.

Before you get back on the saddle and start dating other women, you have some work to do on yourself. Realize that you are a "nice guy", a man who does good things for women and expects good treatment in return. Doesn't work like that. Women will fuck men they respect and they don't respect men who serve them. It's the other way around. Women respect men who expect women to serve their needs. So you have to learn how to get women to serve you and exclude women from your life who don't add value for you.

You should read No More Mr. Nice Guy immediately.

BluepillProfessor · 2017-08-22T01:59:31+00:00

Sex once a year

Once I read on the RP Women forum a story of a woman whose husband refused to work. He says the baby takes up to much time and work is hard. How do I get him to go back to work?

Then she found out he was actually working in secret and sending the money to another woman instead of his wife and children.

Gee, I wonder what they all told her she should do?

The same thing we should tell you to do:

NO FUCKING WAY.

now she's texting everyday all of a sudden apologising and saying she wants to talk

OF COURSE! She wants to make amends now AFTER she got caught. Really all she needed to do was shut her fucking mouth and suck some dick once a month. I mean bro, you set the bar pretty damn low.

This is rooting through the garbage. This woman is a used up cheating whore who you dragged out to the road. Now it is old and foul smelling with trash dumped in her from who knows who! DON'T DO IT- ITS A TRAP. She hasn't changed. You have improved and Chad probably got tired of her bullshit so now YOU are her best option.

Are you a cuck or a man? Don't fall for it!!!!!!

tuyguy · 2017-08-22T07:21:34+00:00

I once cried on my ex girlfriend's chest begging her to take me back.

Hope you feel better :)

GeeDeeF · 2017-08-22T04:34:28+00:00

Long story short, started No Fap, worked hard, learned meditation, exercised, focused on me, bought a new car, got promoted and now she wants in again. My my, how the turn tables..

You should bury that ego, the things that you've done should've been for yourself - feeling vindictive detracts from that. Detach yourself a bit, realise that you've been used and thus she's been reliant on you supporting her and allowing her to be shit. Wanting back in is not based on you, it's pure self interest and wanting to maintain the status quo.

Leave the pettiness behind and keep your focus on what you have been building so that you can move forward without anything holding you back.

shakespeareSMG · 2017-08-22T13:23:19+00:00

That sucks. But it once again reaffirms everything Rollo states in the Rational Male.

For the longest time I had a romantic view of women and the idea there was a soulmate. I still cringe at the thought of it but hey, I believed in Santa Claus for a while there too.

Now the idea of a woman seems wrong on so many levels.

Red Pill philosophy causes a huge shift in your paradigm which is advantageous.

It's like understanding the lion: mating, hunting, dominance, habits. Knowing these things helps you interacting with them and your environment.

People say you can't understand women which is Beta Bulllshit. Men don't want to understand women anymore than thy want to look deeply into themselves.

harsha_hs · 2017-08-22T06:16:17+00:00

Textbook story. Glad you moved on and you're much positive person even after all this. Good luck.

orezavi · 2017-08-22T04:02:09+00:00

No need to be heartbroken now that you're on a path to freedom and improvement. A world much better. The future is what you should have in mind and it is painless and fun and abundant. Please don't think to* contact your ex-wife ever again.

jonpe87 · 2017-08-22T12:36:44+00:00

Wait is no fap that powerful? I will try this shit.

ex_addict_bro · 2017-08-22T10:57:59+00:00

Actually you did fail to be a man. You failed yourself, your body and your life mission first. You failed to say "no". You failed to go away from her.

The truth is you wanted it.

You wanted to support a nagging woman. You believed you will finally earn her respect.

Guess what, your father was absent, either literally or mentally, since your early age. If he was abusive this also counts as absent.

What you did is you replicated your situation with your mother or another caretaker.

You wanted it and you was in it for so long because that was something you knew.

The deal is things don't work this way

Head over to MRP and check their suggested literature. This is your only hope.

sherrif_taylor · 2017-08-23T00:09:11+00:00

Keep up the good work brother! Now if no one minds, I will now go thank the Lord I did not make your mistake.

ratthing · 2017-08-22T15:20:49+00:00

Great story. I hope you do not succumb to her and bring her back into your life. She's going to try every trick in the women's book to get you back. Been there.

M1ster_X · 2017-08-22T17:41:50+00:00

Continue improving and let her hamster keep on spinning. If anything, plate for anal only. LOL

WestyWorld · 2017-08-22T21:09:08+00:00

The old adage "give a woman an inch and she will take a mile" is so true. Never be a pushover. Always stand up for yourself. Be firm, but not hateful or spiteful.

Sex once per year? That's not acceptable. But don't tell her that. You should initiate when you feel like it. If she's consistently refusing without a valid reason, or not addressing that reason, just go sleep with someone else and let her find out. Guaranteed she will finally take the hint and start taking care of you.

A request for you to work more than 40 hours per week is not reasonable. Financial woes should be a discussion held between the two of you with both people offering to contribute. Don't put the pussy on a pedestal. We live in a time where both sexes can work, so she should contribute. If she isn't offering you any value - be it monetary, sexual, massages, emotional etc. - then she doesn't deserve your money or attention.

It's so easy to let this and that slip and then before you know it 20 years have passed and you're in a sexless marriage or divorced and half your paycheck is funding her boob job so she can bamboozle some other sucker.

AvengerSentinel · 2017-08-22T11:57:49+00:00

Much respect to you for making progressions in your life. What you've written is an excruciatingly blue-pill story but I'm sure some of the members here have worse ones. Don't go back to that woman under any circumstances.

mdcrubengonza · 2017-08-22T13:57:06+00:00

My my, how the tables have turned..

They have turned, but only until you've allowed them to set your new dining ware for enough time that you will enjoy it.

Sounds like you are doing well for yourself. I hope you don't digress and bring her back into your life. Some men, however, don't get the lesson, and are bound to repeat it 3 or 4 times until they realize they needed to have ghosted a bitch altogether.

AllahHatesFags · 2017-08-22T19:26:27+00:00

You didn't get fucked over in the family courts, did you?

Good for you though, you honestly should even talk to her unless you are somehow legally required to. Tell her to direct all questions to your lawyer and ghost her ass!

evolveto · 2017-08-22T20:14:20+00:00

Action is only what will change our lives!

Do you mind telling your age?

washington_breadstix · 2017-08-22T23:04:56+00:00

How does a guy even end up in such a horrible relationship to begin with? And to remain in it for 30 years? Goddamn. I don't understand what was making you stay. I'm glad you've found your path to real happiness though.

amcynic · 2017-08-22T18:40:40+00:00

My God you were pussy whipped.

evolveto · 2017-08-22T20:14:22+00:00

Action is only what will change our lives!

Do you mind telling your age?

nofilmynofucky · 2017-08-22T21:23:37+00:00

How'd the divorce go? You don't mention anything re asset division

rahl_r · 2017-08-22T21:34:37+00:00

I made time by opening my own Chicken shop business and having it do well over the first 2 years. I used that money to pay off credit card debts on all her cards but a year on she had even more and I had to use money which I didn't have. Business failed.

Fuck! Downright awful (and sorry, so sorry to hear that!)

If I were in your shoes, this would have been the last straw, the turning point. If I were in your shoes, I may have resorted to something masterfully autistic here, e.g. packing my stuff and leaving for a country that has no extraction agreements with your country -- to leave her, to let her enjoy all of her stupid debts, on her own.

dragongaroo · 2017-08-23T03:15:07+00:00

Just don't do it. Don't go there. Find someone better.

sc1690 · 2017-08-23T04:05:10+00:00

Tell her to go F**k herself. Man, she is nothing but poison.

alleyteris · 2017-08-24T19:35:03+00:00

if it makes you feel better i once cried and begged for my gf not to leave me and i was determined to quit my good paying job , learn a new language and move to another country just for her pussy , that is when i descovered Corey wayne and after that the magnificent but Bitch slaping , bitter taste of the red pill

keep working on yourself brother , plate her just for anal if you like as a fellow redpiller wrote down the comments , BUT DONT YOU FUCKING DARE TAKE HER BACK !

DatingCoach111 · 2017-08-25T07:38:25+00:00

Paying my respects. Sweet moments of revenge by saying ego-satisfying statements to your ex can be very very satiating, but you did the right thing by not walking into her frame. They don't always come running back, but whether they do or don't doesn't matter. You do you.

0signal0 · 2017-08-22T01:34:40+00:00

We were having sex once a year.

Stopped reading there. You have no one to blame but you. Are you going to tell us that you didn't notice early when dating that she wanted a lavish lifestyle? Perhaps she had cheated on previous boyfriends but you decided to ignore that. Result: you wasted 30 years of your life when you could have spent 30 years with a good woman.

Streik23 · 2017-08-22T01:02:05+00:00

Before even reading it, remember the words of someone after just reading the title: You will never learn from another man failure.

Title	The story of a Blue Piller. Learn from my pain
Author	migss541
Upvotes	259
Comments	61
Date	August 21, 2017 11:07 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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