I'm 6 weeks into swallowing the pill (incredible to see the parallel Oneitis paths that brought so many men here). I'm consumed by reading the books/sidebar - which are fantastic. I'm a high SMV male (34, very high income, athletic, reasonably good looking, high confidence). Post divorce I spun plates for several years. I did this a bit accidentally - since my first marriage was so bad, I really thought I would never commit to a relationship again.
But - then I met the Oneitis.
Humble girl, religious, from a small town, who I was very attracted to. She was lower SMV than me, which I figured would keep her loyal as well. I threw my commitment at her - and created the "ideal" relationship I had been taught. Communicative, understanding, caring, etc. If you had shown me the 16 commandments 8 weeks ago - I would've laughed in your face. I followed 3. Clearly these are made up rules.
And then, what now seems inevitable, the cheat & ghost. This was the most disorienting thing that's ever happened to me. I thought I was getting an A in the class - and you're failing me? I studied so hard! My logical drive for success academically and professionally really zinged me in romance. The harder you "try" with a girl, the more she pulls away. This was not intuitive for me at all.
In truth - I wasn't necessarily looking for a unicorn. I believed that I was the unicorn. That that obviously any girl would fall in love with me. They would treat me the way that I treated them (the way I wanted to be treated). I was just being selective. Ah pride....
For me - it isn't the surprise that there are no unicorns, it's that there is no Santa Claus. I had been promised that if I was a good kid there would be presents. Turns out you have to work for the presents yourself...
Thank GOD the red pill exists. You guys are amazing - and I am so happy I have the latest operating system. I feel like I've leveled up in a video game, and now I'm going back into battle with new armor, flame throwers, and rocket launchers.
The red pill is a hard one to swallow. But I'm grateful. And - let me tell you - getting Ws is kind of my favorite thing. Now that I know the rules - I expect to win a lot.
Thank you to the mods who help make this thing awesome. To those with Oneitis - that shit fucking sucks. And I'm right there with you. We'll get out of this together.
There is no Santa - let's go get the presents ourselves. Let's get rich and fuck some hot chicks. Enjoy gentlemen.
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