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To Attract a Sex Object Become a Success Object

September 2, 2018

TLDR- women are attracted to successful men the way we are attracted to sexy women. The most reliable way to obtain pussy is by obtaining success as a man.

Success as a man can be broadstroaks broken up into:

  1. Purpose. Find your highest purpose. Prioritize it, chase after it, throw yourself into it. Pussy will come I guarantee it.

  2. Freedom as a man. Don't have kids, don't get married. Guard your commitment. Learn the value of your time and attention as a man.

  3. Physical and mental health. Lift. Meditate. Keep learning, keep improving, get as healthy as you can. Physical and mental health are very attractive to women.

  4. Financial independence, freedom, and eventually abundance. This will make such a difference in the quantity and quality of pussy you're not going to believe it. If you really want frivolous pussy, get rich. Trust me.

  5. Status. Ascend the dominance hierarchy. That is where they keep the top-shelf pussy. Earn the respect of men your respect. Become a leader, starting with yourself

  6. Dominance. The status of a man, in the eyes of her female primate brain, is his dominance in social interactions. This doesn't mean to be an asshole (this will get you pussy). Be open and friendly but have firm boundaries and always prioritize your own happiness. Meet people with a smile and a firm handshake.

  7. Friendship. If you don't have real homies, get some. My closest Male friendship has been by far the sweetest and most intimate relationship of my life. I wouldn't trade a brother for any amount of pussy there is no comparison. And by the way, if you ever put a chick before a friend she will instantly lose her respect for you as a man.

  8. Strength. Literally become physically strong. This gets it's own point, although it was already mentioned under health because it is so foundational to your success as a man. Lift.

  9. Frame. Frame is everything.

  10. Lifestyle. Build and live the life of your dreams. Pursue cool hobbies. Do fun shit. My brother taught me this lesson. Bald ginger with giant beak nose and a head like a fucking canoe. But his lifestyle as an outdoors-loving backpacker/ climber/ kayaker / biker netted him so much quality pussy it amazed me. He never touched a barbell in his life, and even as an EMT pulled model-tier hippie types with ease.

  11. Competence as a man in general and eventually Mastery in your domain (get after your Purpose!)

So don't complain about chicks being shallow. Of course they are shallow. I am shallow- you think I care if a girl has a PHD or runs Google? Fuck no. I want the nice ass and the perky tits; they want the sparkling glittery treasure. All you need to do is become that treasure, and she will chase after you.

So embrace hypergamy. Become the success object, in as many areas of your life as you can. The results are tremendous.

Good luck boys.

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Title To Attract a Sex Object Become a Success Object
Author chazthundergut
Upvotes 348
Comments 63
Date September 2, 2018 4:53 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit /r/TheRedPill
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[–]1Mr_Badass155 points156 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

12.Metacognition. Understand how you think, and figure out why you think that way you think. Metacognition is thinking about one's thinking. More precisely, it refers to the processes used to plan, monitor, and assess one's understanding and performance. Ask why do I have this habit, or what should I do to not be needy? The stronger your metacognition that harder it is to be manipulated, and the easier it is to keep frame.

[–]ThrowFader35 points36 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

deleted What is this?

[–]ProFriendZoner8 points9 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Avoiding manipulation I agree with.

Manipulating others? Not so much. If you have to manipulate people to do your bidding you'll be seen as a con artist. I've seen that happen to many times.

[–]SergiuIlescu5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Perhaps "manipulating others" isn't the best choice of words, make people bend to your will and not you to theirs, make people want to do stuff for you, to follow and look up to you.. That's what I'd define by manipulating others

[–]ThrowFader1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

deleted What is this?

[–]Operator21610 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Morality isn't a topic here. See: The Dark Triad.

[–]ThrowFader1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

deleted What is this?

[–]rainydistress1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Is this basically the same as the idea of self-awareness that people like GaryVee keep emphasizing is the key to everything?

[–]andy33theone0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

yes bro that's the first thing that came to my mind

[–]I_love_you_broskis27 points28 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Well if You follow success then you won’t even need TRP. Pussy wil come as a byproduct of success. No shit. Pussy is over rated

[–]thepontiff_2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I feel like Tony Montana covered this.

[–]0fficialRider9941 points42 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

It’s a cold world. Your right, either you got it or you don’t...

[–]3chazthundergut[S] 41 points42 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yes, but the good news is that as a Man, if you don't got it, you can GET IT.

This is the bright light at the end of the RedPill tunnel.


[–]mr_wiffles10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

...or you can get it. As long as you draw breath, you can work to turn things around. It's hard as hell and let's be honest: the mathematical probability of a person truly going from zero to hero is very, very low. It's so rare because it is so, so goddamn hard.

But it CAN be done.

[–]pcps4 1 points [recovered]  (7 children) | Copy Link

Friendship. If you don't have real homies, get some. My closest Male friendship has been by far the sweetest and most intimate relationship of my life.

I wouldn't trade a brother for any amount of pussy

you would be surprised how crab mentality effect almost all your friends and also if you become really successful, how many of them will go away...

[–]3chazthundergut[S] 19 points20 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Imagine finding another crab with the same vision who also wants to get out of the bucket but wants to pull you up with them

That is what a good friendship is. They can be real game changers.

[–]pcps4 1 points [recovered]  (4 children) | Copy Link

do you know guy like that? or just a fantasy..?

[–]3chazthundergut[S] 8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I know several.

My closest friend has had my back in fights, stood up for and hung out with me when I was a nearly homeless loser, and has wired me hundreds of dollars at the drop of a hat.

And I have done the same in return. I've stood up against false rape accusers, driven across the country to help him chase pussy, and as my life took off I've pulled him up with me.

We party around the world. We share money, drugs, chicks, and every adventure we've had the balls to try.

No experience with women will ever compare to the friendship I have with this man.

And I'm not just saying that as a sour grapes virgin. I've fucked dozens of women and had multiple threesomes. I'd still take his friendship over any of them.

[–]pcps4 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

just imagine that you will become a multimillionaire.. it would be the hardest stress test our your friendship...

[–]Aktiv8r-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hopefully you dont share needles tho. Junkie...

[–]latinasonly0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

there are those that do not try to pull you down when you surpass them. those that are happy for you when you succeed. those are your real friends.

[–]TruthSeekaaaaa12 points13 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

One of the best thing that happened in my life was being involved with a much older woman than me that highlighted all the RP principles, literally. She used specific words like, status, worth, dominance, independence, money, to constantly reminds me how she perceived me as a low value man. Ultimately, hypergamy was looming throughout the relationship. Probably the best eye-opening teacher I had in my life

[–]light-----------dark2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This is interesting. What was the end result, and what happened up to?

[–]TruthSeekaaaaa6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Basically I've suffered a ton throughout the relationship but gained a lot of insights. She berated me in most astonishing ways, but she failed to make me crumble. The end result was pretty big imo, I've witnessed to all the shit girls can do in one single woman and you know that life examples teach the most. Probably the very single thing I've learned is not to attach my value to a girl's opinion. I know what my value is, I know what I'm likely to achieve in life, so there's no need to show that I'm worthy. Before understanding that, every day was a fight to gain her respect. For example, she used a lot a phrase like "My man should (insert any beta thing)", trying to compare her previous relationship to ours, but constantly failing at make me change. Instead I've applied dread, removal of attention and other core RP principles and worked 100% of the times

Probably TRP saved my life

[–]dontbethatguynow 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

I have one now, though shes only 4 years older than me, i'm used to girls 10 years younger than me. Such an eye opener and confirmation of TRP principles.

[–]nomsgplz 1 points [recovered]  (4 children) | Copy Link

Women are not that great that you have to be successful to get them. Just be ambitious and dominant, and they will let you fuck them.

If you want to be successful then be it for the sake of being successful. The path of being successful requires sacrifices and risk and luck. If it was easy then everyone would have been one. All those sacrifice for the sake of pussy? Nah, not interested, I rather fap.

[–]3chazthundergut[S] 6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

You are missing the point of this post.

Do you think I put years into my friendship for the sake of pussy?

Do you think I built my (tiny) empire for a bitch?

[–]anabolic922 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The last question should be more emphasized in the first post, sometines it reads like the goals of all your list its just to get women.

[–]JazzJack27 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Really great post, thank you very much ! so much important information.

One comment- regarding the no kids part. isn't it winning from a biological point of view to have your DNA passing to the next generations? no kids= your genes will lost forever. Take Genghis Khan for example- he was alpha male AF and had hundreds, if not thousands of children from many women. From bilogical point of view he won and today his genes are among milions of people.

Also, another opinion is that one of a man's goals is to have children so he can raise and teach them well- this also makes him a better and stronger person. When you'll be old and alone maybe your children will be the only one there for you.

Any thoughts?

[–]3chazthundergut[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think you should build your empire first, and then go forth and spread your seed.

Having children when you are young, in the modern era makes, it difficult to achieve other goals.

[–]SasquatchMcKraken6 points7 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

The purpose part can't be stressed enough. I know not every man can be a Caesar Augustus or Alexander the Great, but have some sort of mission in life and pursue it ruthlessly. You wouldn't believe how infectious this is. It's not that hard to find some dude with a nice body and not significantly harder to find guys with frame, but men who are attempting the Faustian climb are about as common as Rhodium. Consequently, it gives you an almost unearthly aura and provides a dread game totally independent of some other woman's vagina.

[–]3chazthundergut[S] 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Absolutely. There is a reason I put this as number 1.

If you aren't sure about this, just give it a shot. Find your mission and get the fuck after it with everything you have.

It is like magic fairy dust to women.

[–]SasquatchMcKraken1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Oh definitely. I'd say this is where 2/3 of my attractiveness in the last 3ish years has come from. I have a deep radio voice; so what? So do millions of other dudes. I've got a reasonably large dick. Big deal: it's not freak-status so it doesn't stand out too much. I'm physically fit; yawn. Muscles are a dime a dozen. But I do have a mission, and I've switched my goals from the pursuit of money to the pursuit of power. That shit, now that shit is like catnip. It's something they don't see every Friday night. I encourage every guy to cast off any fears of being seen as having delusions of grandeur and, as you say, give it a shot. Because it is, to use your words, like magic dust. And maintaining mystery simply sends it into still further heights.

[–]largepaycheckaddict2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Faustian climb.. have you read Spengler? Good stuff.

[–]SasquatchMcKraken2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I have not, but he's high on my list of shit I need to delve into.

[–]1scissor_me_timbers000 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

The Faustian climb I’ve been mapping out is gonna be an online magazine/site basically analyzing and reviewing all the ideas of guys like Spengler and Nietzsche and giving a really sharp critique of the current West as well as hardcore self improvement in reaction to that.

We need a new aristocratic type. We can’t save the West but we need to enact some damage control and that requires a 21st century aristocratic ethos to work against this progressive dystopia.

[–]1scissor_me_timbers001 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Oh god the perks of being a dreadlord...

[–]tiny10boy 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

Take up space

Physically (get jacked), fiscally (get rich), emotionally (the world is part of your frame),

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

And socially. You'd be surprised at the god like social dominance you can command and get away with.. it's satisfying.

[–]Hippo_Kankles3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Boi this was a good ass read. Thanks for that bombass breakfast 👌👌👌

[–]Gruss_p2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Nope, physical attraction is two-way road. Same for men and women. If you want her to be attracted to you physically then be physically attractive. If you want her to be attracted to your money, fame, or status then be rich and famous. But if you think she will get aroused by your success in same way you are aroused by her beautiful hot body, then you are crazy.

[–]1scissor_me_timbers000 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

It’s not that crazy. I know it’s not a 1 to 1 analogy, but there is truth to the notion that men are turned on visually while women are turned on psychologically.

So we are visually turned on by a woman’s fertile youthful supple body. They are psychologically turned on by our dominance and success. Of course plenty of women still get turned on by a man’s physique.

[–]Gruss_p0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

They are psychologically turned on by our dominance and success

She will sleep with you if you are dominant and successfull but in that case she will use sex as a tool to gain something from you or try to make you into betabux. She wouldn't do it as a pleasure for herself.

Of course plenty of women still get turned on by a man’s physique.

Uhm yes, like every one of them. Old ladies and even very young girls. Once I was almost seduced by 12 years old girl and it was most brutal and surreal experience I have ever had... now I can finally appreciate Nabokov's Lolita in its fullness.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

this is like the most basic generic advice "work on yourself bro" lol

[–]3chazthundergut[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Precisely. Glad you understand.

[–]bemore_1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Success is all in the way you think, it's not in what you do. You can tell how successful someone is or will be by the way they think. This is all quality women do, they scan the mind, they screen the mind. They could care less how it's packaged

Women are not too different than men, they don't require much to get turned on. The difference with women is that they are all psychological, that is where their whole battle ground takes place, so for man to show dominance in this area says a lot about him. Unfortunately most men don't really start focusing on the way they think till around their late 20's. Men are mostly focused on the physical, acquiring resources and skills, naturally

Like attracts like, mentally. So you're not going to attract a women with a phd if you have a phd, you're going to attract a women that thinks like you but from a womans perspective

[–]scotttherealist 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy Link

Bullshit. Those things alone will get you used at best.

The points you outlined may give you the financial success and stability to maintain a confident personality, but in the end that alone is the deciding factor on your attractiveness, your personality. Well, I'll add that's the factor once you've done some lifting and you look halfway decent physically.

[–]3chazthundergut[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

All I can say is try it out for yourself.

Focus on your purpose and transforming your life. You won't believe how much pussy there is waiting for the high-value version of You.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

The importance of mental health, that you mentioned, it huge. Not sure what this subs viewpoint on depression/anxiety is, but get help ASAP. No women will “help u get thru it”

[–]geo_gan0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Oh right, so become a King/President/CEO/Prime-minister/He-Man & of course millionaire. Is that all?

Easy. Why didn't you tell us this before.

[–]3chazthundergut[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It is daunting I know.

If you want an extraordinary sex life, then you're gonna have to become extraordinary yourself.

Or keep doing things your way. Don't build an empire, don't transform your life, don't chase success and friendship and status and mastery. How many bad bitches are lining up to suck your dick just for being little old you?

[–]WhiteGhosts 1 points [recovered]  (5 children) | Copy Link

If you don't have real homies, get some

Bro, there is a whole sub dedicated for this not being able to work. Some of us had to relocate, others have been isolating themselves for years. It's really easier said than done if you are not the healthy extravert.

[–]3chazthundergut[S] 3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

True. Some men will never experience a true bond of brotherhood and friendship built upon mutual love and respect.

And some men will never have two models licking their balls.

What are you going to do about it?

[–]WhiteGhosts 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

Apples and oranges. If you think its easy then you are dense, my friend

[–]WhatRemainsAfter0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

He never said it's easy. What's easy my friend? Even taking breath sucks.

Real friendhips can be carved much like a unicorn can be carved.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Life ain't easy, get the fuck over it.

[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

It's comments like this that makes me realise just how fucking awesome I actually am sometimes.

See, unlike you, I'm not shallow, or superficial. I have such depth. I have substance. It's the difference between an Ikea table with it's thin veneer and a real mahogany table.

I rarely complain about chicks being shallow. I simply don't give those kind of Women the time of day.

Speaking only for myself here, but I couldn't sit chatting to a simpleton, no matter how hot she is. I would be intellectually bored, and just end up getting her a taxi home.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to piss in your cornflakes here or anything. I'm sure you're having plenty of fun fucking chicks, and I'm sure some of them are hot.

But I have to be honest and say that I'm skeptical of this post. There's something about it that smells of virgin.

[–]3chazthundergut[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Dude no worries to each their own.

I'm not at all ashamed of being shallow. I don't have deep conversations with chicks. That's what my dudes are for.

I look for sexual desirability (how good does she look naked?) and sexual availability (how eager is she to suck my dick?). I don't need brainy.

I dont want to sit with her and talk about Carl Jung or Terence McKenna. And she doesn't want that either.

She just wants to be played with in the moment. And dicked down by a strong, masculine man.

But do what works for you.

To all other men: yes, the secret to success with women is success in life. Chase your purpose. Become the Prize. Pussy will come.

[–]Dabunghole1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You sound more like the virgin neckbeard lol

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Holly fuck ok,

On a scale of 1-10, with 10 being the highest, how much would you consider yourself to be a narcissist?

[–]Dabunghole2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

He more of a mahogany table.

[–]Mommys_boi-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Dude, if a woman has a Ph. D and is even remotely good looking I am ON BOARD 100% Nothing hotter than a successful woman, bonus points if she's dominant

[–]3chazthundergut[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

To each his own.

You take the brainy librarian.

I'll take the 22 year old dancer who don't speak no English.


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