TLDR- Stop validating women.
I've gotten some messages asking about validation, so here is a simple write up for you autistic bastards.
Validation is "recognition or affirmation that a person or their feelings or opinions are valid or worthwhile"
Validation here refers to any verbal or nonverbal behavior or communication that tells a chick that you like her, that you accept her, that you value her as a person.
Texting her- validation Complimenting her- validation Paying attention to her- validation Spending time with her- validation Laughing at her shitty joke- validation
We are social creatures and therefore we all desire validation from our peers.
Women are hardwired to seek validation. We all are, but women especially are. Women need validation from other women, and they especially need validation from men. They evolved this social need in order to survive.
As men, we also need validation. But we need sex more. Actually, you could see sex as the ultimate validation a woman could give a man. It is her most precious affirmation that he is valued.
Women obtain validation from men by being pleasant, feminine, and giving up their pussy.
However. If you give the Male resource (time/attention/validation) for free, she will never need to give up the Female resource (pussy). Sex is a woman's greatest tool for extracting validation from men. But she isn't going to give up her pussy to a guy who she already gets validation from. A guy she knows already likes her and will be there to help her. If you are validating her without sexual reciprocation from her, you are communicating low value.
All of this is exacerbated by social media and the structure of modern society. Women are flooded with constant validation from men. This has lowered the baseline value of Male validation considerably.
Consider this paradigm:
As a man, the greatest gift you can give a woman is your nonsexual attention. I have fucked chicks that I'd never spend the day with. My sexual attention is cheap I will fuck anything. My nonsexual attention (my time outside of sex) is my valuable asset. And I don't give that away easily.
The greatest gift she can give you is her sexual attention. Chicks will spend time with beta boys because they need validation like we need sex. Her nonsexual attention is cheap- all she wants to do is bitch and talk shit anyways. She throws her time away on anything. But her sexual attention (her pussy) is her valuable asset. And she reserves that for high-value men. Men who don't validate her.
The only time you should give a chick validation (non-sexual attention) is when you're approaching her and setting up a date. The moment you determine that she isn't fucking you, this is the moment you stop validating her.
Your time & attention & friendship are all part of the same thing. They are all part of your love as a man. You cannot give up this valuable asset to a woman who isn't reciprocating with her valuable asset. Stop throwing away your love.