...do believe advice on LPT:
https://archive.is/29ZYY
This is going to be quite an obvious post for many. The only reason I thought of making one is because LifeProTips (LPT) is part of the default subreddits and therefore is likely to spread naive notions wider than the 'relationships' board or any similar board, and we do have newcomers every day.
So what exactly do people mean when they're saying they're "not ready for a relationship"? It shouldn't be a surprise at this point that men and women use this excuse in different circumstances, for different reasons.
Women, even average one, are bombarded by offers from thirsty men left and right. Sometimes they are overt, sometimes they are niceties from Nice Guys and are not identified for sexual interest until it's too late to feign friendship. And sometimes, the guy has the appearance of an alpha but breaks down to a clingy, insecure little bitch after getting a bit ahead. The "I'm not ready for a relationship", coming from a woman means "I fucked up and I haven't screened you properly for what you are, please leave me alone". The important bit here is that in saying this, the woman does not want to have further sexual contact with the guy.
Men on the other hand do not get offers for sex in this fashion, but if they display enough value, women they have bedded will not want to let them go. By maintaining a proper frame, they can get women to stick around while showing a complete lack of commitment. But others, less skilled may instead infuriate them instead, and these women will start to demand signs of commitment and threaten to leave. But they want to keep banging them, so how do you get to instill a sense of hope while not really promising anything tangible? You use the excuse you doubtlessly heard from a woman first: "I'm not ready for a relationship". Again, when men say it, they want to have further sexual contact with the woman, they just don't want to commit.
I'm actually unsure what the person posting this "tip", and people who agree with him, think that people really mean when they're saying they're not "ready". To me, it's obvious that if a person is really in an emotional state where they don't want to get involved with another human being, they won't willingly put themselves in situations when that is very likely to happen.
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